The Brave Babes Carry On Past The Easter Booze Offers.

[NotTheMessiahJustMouseface]

Hello,

I'm Mouse, well, I am usually!

Welcome to the Brave Babes Bus.

This is a journey of sobriety, started almost a year ago by the wonderful jesuswhatnext. So why not come aboard and find a seat. There's heaps of support on here whether you are sober, drinking or somewhere in the middle.

And, for those of you who want a bit of history, here are the Previous Threads

Off to bed. Nowt but diet coke to drink tonight I'm pleased to say.
Wine o'clock chimed loudly though - I took my ds's to bmx park instead of nipping up for wine.
I'm looking forward to getting to know you babes better.
Day 2 done and dusted - bring on day 3.
xxxxxx

qo
I love weather like that!
This is the first Friday in a long long time that a wine has not passed my lips also - the rare sober Friday has involved my being ill and in two cases being post surgical - therefor this is the first Friday in years where its been my choice not to drink.
Off to bed now as I'm working tomorrow - bless you all you fab folk.
xxxx

I'm here too.

Always have been.

Under the back seat.

you just never looked BB's x

Night night xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

isinde - day 3 has yet to be conquered. But i live in hope. Damn that my day 3 is a saturday - though that actually is rubbish - any day was/is a drinking day.
Hopefully not anymore.
Much love to you all x

Evening All

Just in from a really good meeting!
Kids are safely off to their Dad's, was thinking about how that previously would have been an open ticket to get to the shops and get the supplies in and really have a mini party for one.

There is a perception that an Alcoholic has to be on a park bench drinking out of a bottle wrapped in a brown paper bag. For years my park bench has been my sofa. I very rarely ended up anywhere other than my bed, because I drank in the relative safety of my house. Although I still fell over, broke things and potentially could have burnt the house down with my unsafe behaviour. I often could not have told you how I got to bed, and had to follow the trail of destruction backwards in the morning to work out how I got to bed. [shame].
I would have been desperate for the kids to leave the house so that I could put my plan into action , they must have picked up on the fact that I was so keen for them to leave. [shame].

How quickly live can turn around ODAAT.

I have been out, drunk tea, eaten too much chocolate, chatted and laughed, and had my choice to be sober today reaffirmed by people who really "get" me and why I can't drink safely and responsibly. My head is in a good place at the moment.

indie, ma, mouseface, venus, Jwn, obrigada the internet fairies that I call my friends. I hope that you all have awesome weekends.
qo you go girl!! you know where I am, so proud of you!!
mrs rochester and corrie so nice to make your aquaintance.
Miflaw enjoy your hols

The talk of Rachel's holiday (which is a totally awesome book) made me go and look out Marian Keyes story. It's in her book "further under the duvet" I think that she is bloody inspirational.

Have a fantastic weekend all
Safe sober and as happy and contented as it can be!!

Love
Bafana

forgot BBwanna and silver mwah mwah to you both too!!

Morning babes, it's Saturday morning and I hope that many of us are feeling bright and hopeful.

Hi all - I was up at 6.20, mooched about for a bit then went for a lovely swim (20 lengths smug) It's good at the gym that time of morning, you get the 'serious' swimmers, big bloke with massive arms doing about a million lengths, a couple of people upstairs in the 'gym' shudder and me, tootling along doing my breast stroke! I find that after about 7 lengths I sort of drift off in a meditative state - it's really nice! Have a problem I'm wrestling with re: a job today, when I get a minute, I will ask your wise advice! Hope all is well with all this gey day

oops grey day

Lovely to see you posting Silver. How are you? Morning babes! I spent my first sober Friday for quite a few weeks last night. I'll be honest. At 6pm I felt desperate for a drink. If DP had offered to nip to the corner shop to get something I'd have jumped at the chance.

I sipped my tonic water and felt flat and bored. Today however I am mightly relieved and feeling calm and hopeful.
Baby steps.
One day at a time...
We missed the exciting thunderstorms that appeared to happen up North and now we have some humid, grey weather and some of that fine, thin rain.

Going to struggle to keep the kids occupied today.
Have a good day everyone.

Morning Babes.

This little Mouse is beyond tired today.

Fab to see you here Silver and venus.

qo - I love weather like that, so emotional and exciting! I could sit for hours just watching nature do what she does best, your very own light show. Did DD like it too?

Luci - 'thin rain' ah,I remember that stuff fondly! Only the North has such stuff.

thurso - was the 18th last night? Or tonight? Hope you managed to get some sleep if it were last night! Thinking of you lovely xx

Bafana - you are doing so bloody well! Drinking is full of shame, regret, embarrassment, and sorrow. Yet it takes something more, something worse than those things to make us stop. You are BafanaTheBrilliant now.

I really, really struggled last night not to get wasted. When I'm in pain (huge amounts of pain currently) and over-tired, I get the urge to drink to pass out.

It would have been so easy to do that last night, knowing that DH is here to pick up the pieces IYSWIM.

I just want to sleep and to heal. I'm vunerable when I feel this way....... there's not much standing in my way other than a hang over. So my fragile self has to keep busy. I just want to the pain to stop. Just for an hour or two.

Anyway, I'm hoping for storms to clear the air here today, it's sticky and hot, lots of huge sploshes of rain and dark as the night too.

I may drag my sorry tush off for a long shower.

Morning all

Sun is desperately trying to get out from behind the clouds here!!

Mouse you look after yourself! Remember HALT, you sound really tired, and I can understand that the constant pain must be incredibly draining, well done for overcoming the urge to deal with it with alchohol .

Just had a friend and his son come over with a trailer to remove the immense amount of garden refuse that I have managed to create in the last week or so, and I must say that I am incredibly proud of the difference that I have managed to make in the garden, hard to believe that a couple of weeks ago I was panicking about how I was going to manage it all on my own!!

loveCorrie well done on the swimming, one of my friends is trying to persuade me to join the local gym, and I am really quite tempted, they have a swimming pool and steam room, as well as classes and a gym, want to ensure that the weight loss that I have managed to acheive in the last 6 months does not go back on!! I like the slim me!

Baby steps luci one day at a time, glad that you can feel positive about it this morning! I felt really boring intially, and still do at times, but would far rather be boring, than a pissed pain in the bum.

RIght, off to make the most of my childfree time!!!
Love to all
B
xx

Hi Mouse I feel so sorry that you are suffering, I really wish I could swing by to your house and do something to help you. Bloody well done on not giving in to the devil urge last night. I do hope the rest of the weekend is OK for you.
hey lovecorrie you are dong well, I also find that swimming is a form of self hypnosis, I find it really helpful for cutting my stress levels down, I think it is something to do with the counting, all I do is swim and count strokes and lengths which prevents me from thinking or worrying about anything else. I recommend it for troubled minds.
Thefirstmrs congratulations on yor progess so far.
Hi to everyone else, come out from under the seat Silver we need to hear more from you.
X

BB - you are welcome here anytime lovely! Thanks for the offer of help. I think I need to invent some sort of duplication machine that I can make more of me! It's fab to see you on here so positive.

lovecorrie - I go to hydrotherapy once a week and love it. I'm not able to swim again properly but the day I am, I'll be off! I love swimming, I find it really releases all my tension. Plus it gets rid of a few nasty calories!

I've had a long, cool shower and that seems to have helped clear the fog. It's just so boring and tedious being in pain the whole tome. I'm hoping that the referral to the Pain Management Clinic hurries up! MRI at the end of this month.

Oh I'm such a moany arse today!

Still no storms here, I really wish we'd get something to clear the air.

awww poor wee mousie. Wish I could do something to help, I hope things ease off a bit for you soon.
mrs rochester you are doing brilliantly, as are so many of you right now! I am proud to know you all.
I am starting to feel better, still don't know where I'm going but things are at least peaceful.
I have my 5K race two weeks from now so intend to use that to really motivate myself and be good. Wish me luck!!

BOING!!! thats me!

oh oh oh!, its so wonderful to come on here for a quick peak and find everyone so positive and upbeat! (i know it hurts mouse, but you still have a bit of 'boing'! )

im having a good day, dds fiance has been here, just him and me chatting, he is a lovley lad and im pleased she has met him, he has a a very 'kind' streak that i like alot!

anyway, we are off out for dinner tonight to a friends house, she has invited a few of over as a thank you for helping while she healed from an op, i feel a total fraud though as all i did was pick her up for a meal one evening while her dh was away, its nice to think that someone appreciates such small gestures i guess!

so, im off to sit in the garden and do my nails, should help stop dh moaning about the smell of nail varnish in the lounge!

see you later lovley babes!

L XXXXXXXXXX

Yes JWN - my boing is coming back, albeit slowly. Have a great night out later, you DD's chap sounds so nice.

Ma - are you doing the run alone or with somone? There's a Rcae For Life near here that I'm really tempted to just hobble round and try to raise some money for my friends with cancer.

hey mouse
last year I did it on my own but this year I am doing it with some girls from work. some are walking but a few of us are going to try and "run" it. The training is hard but it gives me a challenge and some head space and also now i can jog for 30 minutes!! I'm a horrible sight afterwards but it seems to be doing me some good. I'll have buns of steel before much longer!!
I can send you the link to our sponsorship page if you like........

Well hello chaps! I am very impressed that people are running! I can't get on with it - swimming and tennis are totally my 'thing'. I need some help!!!! So, I had a really good job until Feb this year when I walked out as i was being subjected to some very unpleasant bullying by my manager - official complaining did no good and I was ignored, well not ignored but basically told that if I didn't stop I would be sacked. I managed to get an 'agreement' out of them but it was all very unpleasant. A few weeks after I left I had a meeting with someone from another place within the sector (sorry to be so vague but it's imperative that I'm not identified!) and they said they would love to employ me and could give me an equally well paid and satisfying job within their organisation. So, I waited, and waited and waited! They got back to me yesterday saying that this post wouldn't be available until Sept, but would I like to do some p/t work there for now - sounds good, but it involves a) overnights b) massive drop in salary and c) this is just me but it will no doubt get back to bullying cunt of an ex boss who will probably find it highly amusing that I have 'sunk' so low. I know that sounds awful but you know what I mean I'm sure! At the moment we're living on dh's p/t salary, tax credits and, just been informed i can get JSA. So, we are 'ok' (despite being £1000 down a month), but I need to do something to get me out of the house as it were and use my brain! Had a couple of interviews but nothings happened from them. What should I do?

Just got back from a party where I really, really, could have done with a drink. I didn't know anyone except the hosts, there was a loud disco so I couldn't hear what anyone was saying, and the only soft drinks on offer were coke or lemonade, neither of which I like. I sat there like the dullest woman in dullsville with a glass of water all night, soooo boring!!
Oh well, at least I won't have a hangover tomorrow...

Hi Lovecorrie my thoughts on your dilemma, are that it is always easier to look for a better job when you are already in work, so I would be inclined to take the part time role. It will keep you busier, and in the market place, prove to yourself and the creep you used to work for that you are employable and may turn out to be a stepping stone to another opportunity later in the year. It sounds to me like the new employers are keen to secure you so that you can step into the better role in september - by offering you something within their organisation now IYSWIM.
anyway time for Mrs Dull to go to bed, night babes.

Morning babes!

I cam on here last night to post, and totally got sucked into other threads on the front page!!

Still dry here(same can't be said for the weather) its 2 weeks today!! Just can't believe how much better I feel for it, how much happier me and dd are, how much cleaner the house is, how much better I'm sleeping - it's just great!!

dd is off on her edinburgh trip in the moring, so that means actually having to leave the house - I'm not even nervous anymore(well not right now I'm not - tomorrow morning might be a different matter!!)

I don't know what I'm going to do without her for 3 days thoug - Hope my new books come!!

Hope everyone is safe, happy and well xxxx :)

qo, you are doing amazingly well! Just enjoy three days of peace - hope your books arrive too!

lovecorrie - I agree with BB, take the part-time role. You'll be able to claim working tax credits too. You need to call tax credits or look at the website - HERE to see what you are entitled to.

Feck your ex boss. He'll never stop being a smug git so balls to him. I'm sure you'll only be the talk of the town for one day until he finds another poor soul to pick on.

Take the job and then look for something to bulk it up. I'm sure that WTC and CTC will bulk up the money anyway, you can also get help towards chidcare if that appiles to you.

Get your foot back in the door and keep it there, who knows what could come up between now and September?

Afternoon all. Will catch up and be back.