Dumpling no more? Only the strong survive and we did no. 4

[IfYoureHappyAndYouKnowIt]

At first I was afraid, I was petrified
Kept thinkin' I could never live without him by my side;
But then I spent so many nights
Thinkin' how you did me wrong
And I grew strong

This thread is for ex dumplings. Any dumpling that feels like she has "mostly" moved past crisis into an "almost" sorted state can post and chat here as we continue our quest for serenity with a lot of laughs along the way and support

Did u get a trampoline ggm ?
Happy birthday girls !
Hope ur cool Sov x

Happy Birthday to 2 lovely dumplings

Yay happy birthday to the 2 special birthday girls of today! Hope you get really well looked after!

Happy birthday sisters!

Happy Birthday Dumpling Sisters Hope you are both having a blast.........

Thanks for birthday wishes. My head hurts.

What Happy said except more of head bit

Will I feel better if I get up?

Ds just informed me I went to bed at 4.45am which explains a lot

Had a great party here and dc had a whale of a time too, where were you Happy ?

I was out with the girls locally. Last ones just left.

Lovely day down south dumplings

Expect you are all outside

Waves and happy Sundays to all

Enjoyed reading the sex tips thread earlier. Little practical application though atm

Got back at about 2.30pm. I'm exhausted and just putting washing on etc. I think my bed and I have a serious date tonight. Kids slept badly in the outlaws house, not to mention the mental exhaustion from rubbing along with MIL. I'll try and catch up tomorrow.

Good you're back Tea.

Just in Brompton.

at Brompton! Who needs drugs? I'm so tired I feel like I'm having an out of body experience and I'm flying. Going to go and lie down now. Kids just gone to sleep.

Brompton ?

Hope you had a nice time Tea and catch some zzzz

Feeling better - just !

Had a lovely birthday. Went to my new house and came away very excited that we will soon be there.

Had a lovely lunch with my bf and then had my local crowd of friends here in the evening.

Have said before a couple of them are in dire marital straights but soldiering on. One came on her own and I remembered how I attended 70% of socials by myself and its awful to see her unhappiness. I had never heard of EA before I joined MN but her h is a text book case. She was in floods of tears and I just wanted to say join MN start reading other peoples stories and begin to piece it all together.

Quite sad really , one friend kept saying all the nights we have had in my kitchen she cant believe its come to an end and ds was saying today he wished we didnt have to move . I told him to turn it around and be glad we have been lucky enough to have the time here we have had and what a great place its been to grow up in

Anyway sorry I am a bit of broken record with house move stuff

Its very quiet on here lately hope everyone is doing ok

I've been out sat and sun with the dcs. Loads on now cos its Spring .Still no contact re visits or maintenance,but letter goin from sol next week .

Hi all, pleased you had a good birthday getting.

The weather has been lovely here today, been busy, I actually rode my horse this morning who I havent ridden since last June when I found out about DH. I really just havent been in the right frame of mind. Anyway I had a wonderful quiet, peaceful hack and he was very well behaved considering he hasnt been out the field for 9months! He is loved and well looked after really!

Cleaned car, mowed lawns and went for a run with my dog, as you can see a busy day.

Hope everyone is in good spirits, and had a good day.

Happy, hope you are enjoying your travels

Getting, glad you had a lovely birthday & that you are looking at house move as being a positive . House move is huge so of course you're going to be talking about it a lot!! Sorry to hear about your friend & I agree it's very hard when you've become free of your own mess to see others still stuck in it

Tea, glad your trip went well & welcome back

Patience, glad your enjoying the sunshine

Wow Rom, you really did have a busy day! Lovely to hear went out riding your horse

Well xh was being a right sarcastic arse when I collected dc's. He then rang later to say he had informed himself of his parental rights & that he was entitled to attend PTA's (never attended a PTA in his life , get reports from school & take dc's on holls. I just said fine, not a bother, just ring the school & sort it out yourself! Twat went on to say he wasn't going to put up with bad behaviour anymore For some reason he REALLY triggered me & I more or less told him to F* off. He went on ranting again about court case & I said LISTEN if you hit your wife it's a criminal offense, if you start shagging around then your marriage is going to end, now take responsibility for your own behaviour. He started shouting & I banged down phone. He tried to ring again several times & I ignored it. I've had two texts saying I owe it to my dc's to allow him to prove that some of the stuff that came out about him is not true!! Just had friend over & had a good ol rant about it all though

Hope all other dumplings are doing well & enjoying the sunshine

Bloody hell starting what an arse x

Good grief ladies - what is it with ex's behaving like complete tools at the moment? We all seem to be facing it.

Happy birthdays

X will only give £50 a month to DS1 (1st year uni). Telling him to get a job & pay me for food elec. etc. out of that. This means I can't get mortgage even though interest payment would be far lower than what I'm paying now because H will take every penny cash so only got my mum's £18k deposit & wd need more if less income. H earns £700 a day & just went on holiday abroad (7 similar at least last year) & wanted to send DD to private school £7800 a year from next sep. & give £100 a week maintenance for her & DS2. I kept H for 3 out of the 6 years before he moved out (looking for GOOD job). Lawyers says we can't ask H to contribute to DD's medical school too because he'll be over 60. What is wrong with H's priorities. He has 3 kids not two and loved DS1 until he moved out. I could understand it if he was on £700 a week.

Hi everyone. Need to catch up with everything. Had really bad tummy yesterday and was completely out of action. Been out with mate and her kids today. Very wearing. Little one being a nightmare and I'm not totally better so probably seemed worse than it was, although mate and her mum thought little one was a nightmare. Sigh. Sorry I missed saying happy birthday to Sov and Getting. Glad you both had a good time! x

We will have to sell house and he will walk away with nearly half a million pounds. I have had to pay half of his income tax and corporation tax since he left - 50% of £85k while he took £207k in dividends spending it on 10+ hols abroad & women & opera & football season tickets and I paid all my income tax at source & me & dcs stayed in mate's caravan for holiday (it was nice, not complaining). I know we are luckier than so many other people who have no capital but what justice is there in the "guilty" walkaway parent just being able to take half of everything when there are four of us and one of him and he lives rent free with his girlfriend?

Hm My, similar situation here. I pay for all and XH is rent free with OW.

XH now also seemingly not responding to solicitors letters

Brompton is church thingy btw Getting

Well, after good weekend am sadly now having a melt down. Am hoping to see a dumpling or two at the weekend so will have to restore serenity by then

Waves to all

No justice ,he is also an arse mymble.
Ggm,hope u feel better soon.
Tooth fairy just been to our house for the first time !
Hugs to everyone,
Really think I may never hear from X again.
Seems a real possibility he will "vanish"