Dumpling no more? Only the strong survive and we did no. 4

[IfYoureHappyAndYouKnowIt]

At first I was afraid, I was petrified
Kept thinkin' I could never live without him by my side;
But then I spent so many nights
Thinkin' how you did me wrong
And I grew strong

This thread is for ex dumplings. Any dumpling that feels like she has "mostly" moved past crisis into an "almost" sorted state can post and chat here as we continue our quest for serenity with a lot of laughs along the way and support

Hello everyone, Patience what a nightmare i hope things settle for you and your dc soon and am glad you are all fine.
I've just come back from A&E with ds 3 who cut the side of his head falling onto the wall. He is fine but had a deep wee gash so had it glued together am so glad stitches are not the thing anymore.
Waves to everyone sounds calmer here tonight.

Oh no Maybee - poor soul. Glad he is ok. Your post ofl ast night also resonated with me - sometimes feel I've wasted my best years. But then I think of my two lovely boys. Everything happens for a reason :)

Wasted best years of please we are only just starting girl xxxxxchimney needs to come down got temp accomodation at9 pm tonite,kids hyper.all mental.

It's been emotional.

Ah Patience that sounds so stressful, sending you virtual ((Hugs)) & hope things get sorted for you asap.

Maybee, also sounds like you've had a traumatic day. Hope ds is doing ok, they put the heart cross ways you when stuff like that happens ((Hugs))

Well plumber boy has been texting me all night & has organised a lovely restaurant for sat night

Starting - Mr Plumber sounds lovely, so pleased for you. Hope your meal goes well on Sat.

Patience - pm me your fb name

Good morning from the evacuees x

Morning love.

I have the type of cold that helps to make Mr Kleenex a rich man.

Do you think they'll let you home today?

Prob end of the week don't know x

Re fb not adding anyone at the min due to not understanding it yet ROFL , especially after the other nights text scare Lol x
need to get up to speed

What type of phone do you have Patience? I have a Nokia E5 and it looks a little like a blackberry but it doesn't do the same as yours when sending a text. To access facebook I have to access wifi first and then like on my pc go to the specific web page. I'm just wondering if perhaps I knew what phone it was it could explain what happened the other night?

HTC wildfire,T,
I posted the photo of the dog from my phone on fb and then beside my texts and someone else's our profile pics from fb now appear like the photo
U have next to ur contacts.does that make sense.maybe its just some mad synchronized shit but freaked me right out x

Starting plumber sounds interesting enjoy a nice meal out-how adult! Today was still v wild here, took the tots to feed the ducks and we were nearly blown away. It was good to get out even for a bit. Tonight the sky is blue here again so maybe the weather will pick up for the long weekend. Patience i hope you get back home soon, it can't be easy with all the upheaval at the mo.
Googs i thank my lucky stars for my boys but sometimes it is so tricky to do anything without them in tow. Getting out at night apart from to my zumba and book group is not practical. My family are helpful and often take one or two of the boys off my hands but i just find things overwhelming at times and don't know where i'd find the energy to meet new people tho i've met lots of friendly mums. Everything does happen for a reason tho you are right. Most of the mums i know of tots are all a bit knackered too and get to chill out at home with their men at night or at the weekend. I'm not envious and am v independent but i just think 'cheers x 3 kids and this is what you do before the baby's 1st birthday (probably long before that until he was rumbled) you've really left me with so many options'

Although I must say as i got into my lovely double bed alone with white bedlinen and my elec blanket on it just felt so right and luxurious. X arrives Fri am until Sun eve so al least i can get out and about on my own.
Waves to everyone

I know what you mean Maybee. I can't even go to my choir anymore because the childminder has a course now on the night it is on and my mother doesn't ever babysit. I'm past being tired this week. Work is slightly overwhelming and I've been in a foul mood all day, which is quite unlike me. I must stop saying that I'll do things for people.
Patience - hope everything is ok - thinking of you and your crap situation re wind and chimney. Love your photo of dd curling up in bookcase! She is super cute x
Starting - plumber sounds great!
Well, DB has taken himself off fb :( Goodness knows whether I will ever meet this man. God knows what he made of exbf when he played a gig with him on Saturday night. Got a feeling that they won't have liked each other! Exbf has rather large ego and gets very uptight about attractive men of his age - especially if they are great musicians!
Ah, the joys of the male ego and arty types. Why am I so attracted to arty men? They're a nightmare. I need an accountant!

Hi ladies. Have missed you all. Was man in the sky's big's punishment that we got monster trojan virus a couple of days after telling Patience DS2 & I were a mini-anorack (is that how you spell it - no spell check now). Have blocked off most of the hard drive which has most of the useful stuff on it (& the virus). Just caught up on all the thread. Made me sad & happy hearing all of what's happened to you guys these two weeks. Sorry about your roof patience. Went to court with H today. Went sorta ok but can't sort it out in my head yet. Sad though & DCs v. upset. Hugs.

Hi all. I was on the recently ditched thread but it's all gone quiet and I could do with talking to keep from going mad.

I've tried so hard this last nearly 3 weeks to start moving on, keep thinking I'm getting somewhere but then crashing again. And now I've just cracked and emailed him BEGGING him basically to come back. For fucks sake I'm such a twat. Someone kick me please. Or hug. Either is fine :(

You're not a twat. I went through denial first and then bargaining, lots of bargaining before I got to the stage where I realised it was over. We all have on here I suspect. It's very hard ((hugs))

Just had the most cold and horrible reply. God this is so awful, I have no one in the whole world. ARGH how can I feel like I'm getting somewhere and then it all goes to shit like this? ffs.

Thanks for the hug, much appreciated.

Ok lb no worries I was all over the place for the first six months ,keep posting here ur very welcome.
Got good news ,I can move back in tonite chimney down.

Oh yes the cold no emotion freeze out ,wankers the lot of them x

Yay Patience - cant believe how long you were out

Thanks. God when does this start to get better... properly?

I'm considering going to the doctor. I really wanted to avoid antidepressants but I really worry that I'm slipping badly here. I don't know what's for the best :(

Sounds like good news about your house patience, what happened? Sorry have missed the back story

You're in the worst bit Looby. My mind was ticking over at a hundred miles an hour at this stage, trying to be calm and loving with the kids but then losing it with them and then feeling twice as guilty, as if I didn't already for them now being in a broken home and wanting to make up for that by being a perfect parent. I used to talk to myself at night once the kids were in bed too. It was a horrid time. Counseling was a huge help for me. Having somewhere safe to express everything once a week. I am on ADs now and they are a big help but in those early days it does all have to come out all those feelings. The feelings will change with time. They come in waves. Take each day one step at a time. We cannot change our ex but we can change ourselves and that can affect our future. There is hope. Enjoy laughter where you can, pamper yourself with long baths etc.

*lubey

Great news about being home Patience. Will be so nice to be back in your own bed tonight x

Glad u got home patience
googs try and say no to people, you kind of have to - that is something i'm getting better at since our breakup and guess what noone minds! At work in schools especially tho i'm sure you know this anyway i agree with ole Machiavelli 'tis better to be feared than loved' anyway school hols not too far away.
Welcome lubey, it is v hard in the early days,i remember so well and looking back i don't know how i got to being as ok as i am today. It does get better. Go easy on yourself, post on here, sometimes you feel like you have noone but actually there is support on here always and support in the world that sometimes we don't even see.