Dumpling no more? Only the strong survive and we did no. 4

[IfYoureHappyAndYouKnowIt]

At first I was afraid, I was petrified
Kept thinkin' I could never live without him by my side;
But then I spent so many nights
Thinkin' how you did me wrong
And I grew strong

This thread is for ex dumplings. Any dumpling that feels like she has "mostly" moved past crisis into an "almost" sorted state can post and chat here as we continue our quest for serenity with a lot of laughs along the way and support

Ok so i cant really f##k it up if i pm someone on fb,is it obvious that u pm not posting on a wall.do all the conversations get stored btw just like a pm on MN.

My kids will start this some day anyway so i need to learn what to do at least until they block me x

Yes

Patience- you're exactly right on that.. It shocks me that my rl friend with 12yo dd still avoids fb. In rl she is acutely paranoid about paedophiles but her daughter uses fb. Mine are far too young to be on there yet but I know that they wont be allowed unless they have me as a friend so I can keep an eye on who they're talking to etc. Having said that, there are ways off controlling who sees what you write; I have separated my friends list into groups and for example, if there is a court date coming up for me i will only let a few trusted friends see my venting, school mums only will see if i'm asking about the time for a school play etc. Pm (Inbox) on fb is just like email or pm on mn- no one will see it except the recipient. Hope that helps :)

Hi everyone. OK, so now I know that exbf was just looking for a quick shag on Saturday when he comes to play a gig in my town. I'm really really angry with myself that I sent him a message saying we should meet up because from his reply I know he doesn't want to and I feel like I've yet again shown him that I still have feelings for him. I also still can't believe how horrible he is underneath the nice guy image. I really hope that this isn't going to set me back. Why am I so soft hearted? He must be thinking how bloody easy I am to manipulate - a few romantic songs and a couple of messages and that's it, I'm back again. Onyl he isn't coming into my house on Saturday - at least I didn't relent and say come round after your gig. At least I can cling on to that. I feel like I've been done :(

Awww ((hugs)) lovely you're just kind babe.

I've created a dumpling group on fb. If you want to join pm me and I'll add you (if you use fb) Don't worry it won't stop people posting on here, that's not the purpose of it imo

Thanks love. I'm actually having a little cry about it/him for the first time in ages. It's awful to be lonely, it's so easy to be "done" by someone you used to love but who never loved you.

You're one of the nicest people I know Googs don't cry. You're so kind. Cry for him as he'll be a sad lonely old man, you won't babes x

big hugs to googs you're just human & a good human being. Don't let him do you again although if he cannot see your value as a friend he is doing himself really.

Hes just a wanker Googs thats what he does .
Remember my ULTRAVOX warning ,
Eh how did i forsee this situation,
Well I was the wife with her knickers down thinking HE STILL WANTS ME!!!!
Eh NO!
So when you get hurt so bad you recognise the way these blokes SLITHER,
Same leopard same spots ,delete his FB he is a a TWAT !
Good sparring again from this dumpling tonight,
Away to set up my fb thang ,thankyou for everyones help x

ps my phone is stuck on one page of the interenet,do you think it is broken ?

Ok just done it now PM me if anyone wants to be my friend ha ha ha ha ha ,Think ive managed to block everything Tea but F**K knows tbh I feel very shaky atm

Where have u all gone btw ,I need someone to hold my hand x

Hi patience i'm off to bed, thru the goodness of my heart i bought a webcam so the boys can see their dad online (he has been promising one since we moved but it didn't happen) anyway ds1 installed it and now it has totally messed up the laptop it is juddering and flashing about its so frustrating so sorry i can't help with fb as im v pc illiterate anyway.
get a good nights sleep

Just uninstall the webcam Maybee for now. That'll hopefully resolve the issue.

OK Patience - think I've given you a friend request on fb! :) Hope it's you love and not some random! Might have to go soon - think oldest one has tummy bug x

Oh and guess who accepted my friend request? Drumroll...hint hint!

Yay!

Sorry to hear about your boy being poorly.

Googoo you have got to delete him as a friend on Fb its the only way to help you recover from the wank*r and his games, I know you dont feel ready to yet but please do it. Your too lovely to let him play you for a fool again and again.

Foo Fighters

Hi everyone! Another manic day here but good too. Enjoying my new role as "curriculum coordinator". I have to meet with everyone who is in charge of a subject and talk about this thing we all do called a subject action plan. I have to help everyone with their data and their action plans - so far I've done 5 and they take forever to put right (I'm dong the ones that weren't up to scratch when handd in to the head). So today after school I met with the PE teacher (it was her lovely wedding I went to in the holidays). I'm doing things very differently to the deupty head who used to coordinate curriculums and at the end of the meeting the PE teacher said "It's so good to get some really useful help - you're like a breath of fresh air" which was so nice!
Tea - I'm laughing at your last post!!!! I know you and Ronmey are right - I now have my mum telling me to delete him. He has messaged me again today, asking if I can meet up in the holidays but something has snapped in my head now and fter slight upset yesterday I suddenly thought "I'm NEVER again going to be upset over this man" and I stopped. Isn't that good?
Facebook is now getting very exciting due to our dumpling group on there! I hope other people will join too. It's so nice to have good friends on there.
Oh and drummer mn is apparently very happy to have me as a friend, as he texted my school friend to say that he'd added me. I haven't told him that he is in fact playing a gig with my worm of an exbf on Friday. The mind boggles, it really does!
Hope you are all well xxx
ps - oldest has been fine today. think he had indigestion, poor soul.

Oh lovely Googs to hear the praise you're getting for your hardwork Oooo friends with drummer man? Please tell me his RL name on fb so I can nose at his picture LOL

High 5 on not being upset anymore by your idiot of an ex. I would start by limiting what he can see on your profile but when you feel brave/ strong enough then delete him. Baby steps iyswim?

oh just bloody boot him into touch x
CHEERIO CHEERIO CHEERIO

sorry he just annoys me and i dont even know him

Hi all
ugh big birthday in 2 days and NO plans...anyone else find this birthday malarchy harder when single??
Lovely news goo, sounding much better :)
Babysteps are VERY good :)