Dumpling no more? Only the strong survive and we did no. 4

[IfYoureHappyAndYouKnowIt]

At first I was afraid, I was petrified
Kept thinkin' I could never live without him by my side;
But then I spent so many nights
Thinkin' how you did me wrong
And I grew strong

This thread is for ex dumplings. Any dumpling that feels like she has "mostly" moved past crisis into an "almost" sorted state can post and chat here as we continue our quest for serenity with a lot of laughs along the way and support

Xp ur post made me so happy googs,others will see the change too. For me its a calmness.
Ok what is a fb wall and can all your friends see it ?

Hi 5s Caroline.

Hi Caroline - woo hoo! Nice to see you. Guessing from your name that you're the same age as me :)
Right, Patience - your questions about fb are making me laugh! Sounds like me about 18 months ago! I'll give you a tutorial later if I can get throught some work :)

Oh please googs im just anxious about losing my fb cherry x

Hello everyone and welcome caroline and someday. You're in a great place here. I'm just saying a quick hello i'm filling in a fecking job application tonight eek but at least there is one job in N Ireland!
My x says all the time that he regrets his decision blablabla but I can't believe a word the weasel says anyway so his words mean nothing to me. He once said that I would make him pay forever to which i replied no i moved on you might have to live with what you've done but that has nothing to do with me. He said then oh go and bitch about me to your sis and mum and i said actually we never mention you and he looked quite crestfallen. He actually believe it or not likes to be admired and well thought of aaas if!
Hope you get the hang of fb patience i might join up this winter.
2 years is a long time to heal can't we find a shortcut? Sometimes i feel like a mighty lioness, sometimes alright and every so often 'my old friend the blues' sneak up on me. Though as a wise dumpling once said not every bad day is about the split, bad days will come and go for everyone i suppose.
:)

Welcome Caroline, maybee I hope its not going to take another year to heal totally, if total is at all possible! Thats such a long time, but I suppose I have got this far so will carry on on the rollercoaster ride.

OK, so exbf constantly showers my fb with comments, sends semi romantic drunken messages, then tops it all off with sending Joni Mitchell's song "A Case of You" - one of the most romantic songs in history - gets me just where he wants me, asks to meet up, I finally relent and say it would be good to meet up.....I get "Ok, well have a think" and off he swans to make dinner for pipe woman who has suddenly reappeared after a couple of weeks' absence on fb. Typical narc, nrac, NARC behaviour. God, I can't even type straight. Wish, wish, WISH I hadn't sent him that message now. It was just doing my head in. Suppose I needed to send him the message to subconsciously confirm that he is a complete player...

Good Evening to you beautiful women :)

Patience I dived off to bed while the yawns were coming so didn't see your reply. I knew on Friday I had washed enough uniform and school meals make my life a whole lot easier ;) and we were 10 minutes late (school is 45 min walk) so I am patting myself on the back for that one. At least I got him in!!

Stating, absolutely no need to apologise I am sure my scatty brain will forget everyone at some point or another I've had a fair bit of adult conversation today..current company included..and I always reckon it makes me feel better. People always slag us forum users as saddos etc in need of a life, but they forget we are not all able to go out into the real world once the kiddies are tucked up 7 bloody nights a week and if it wasn't for MN/fb I'd probably be sectioned by now!!

goo, am so glad you're feeling stronger :) i have a friend on fb who was originally a mner i met whilst plucking up the courage to leave X. She was at the same stage and ended her abusive relationship a couple of days before I did. I honestly think it made the difference in being able to see it through and not have him back. Stay strong and keep chatting.

Happy Birthday Maybee and welcome Caroline, I'm a newbie here too

Warm wishes to everyone :) I feel very welcome here xx

Goo- block him hun, just don't torture yourself xx

googs how annoying and clueless he is don't regret your message maybe you needed that final confirmation. Pipe woman will soon discover that she hasn't exactly won a watch. Keep looking after you and pouring out your positive vibes and he will fade away completely. Maybe time to block him from fb now?
i've given up on my application form its so boring will try tomorrow think i need a no strings snog instead.

On phone to my mother so will update properly later. Date a bloody disaster! I managed to disguise my spots & coldsore & miracle conditioner did the trick, I looked quite fab even if I say so myself. Date was easy to talk to but we were like chalk & cheese, think country bumpkin Vs Wisteria Lane i.e. desperate housewife type character!!

oh well never mind starting other fish and all that but i can't help giggling as your posts about dating are making me slightly envious but i'm thinking along the lines of a date with a hot italian who will disappear afterwards and not complicate my life (not sure he exists am more likely to run into a country bumpkin tho)

Evening all.

The thought of an italian has 'pulled me' on thread.

Methinks that there could be a few italian experts on here so maybe some could be sent our way?

Elsie, was impressed by your tattoo tales btw. .

Starting, I can just see you with a farmer. I seem to remember a certain dumpling telling me to regard a small liaison as field work. Certainly thats what you would get with your country bumpkin I think.

Waves to all, new and old.

Lol, Happy I hope the farmer you can see me with is a wealthy one with plenty of 4X4 etc, I'm sure you don't see me shovelling shite in my Guess high heels do you???

Maybee, I lived in Italy for years & while I still find their dark skin & eyes so so sexy, they're not all they're made out to be either!! Risks flaming here when I say a lot of Italian men have been pampered/mollycuddled etc by the Italian Mammy!!

Field studies eh ,I could do with one of them myself

Caroline welcome aboard

Someday, god with a 45min walk you are doing good to get there at all!! Feel slightly morto now at my stuggle to make it out the door in time when I only have a 5min car journey !!

Goo, oh I feel so angry on your behalf over that twatface exbf of yours . Oh please do block him on fb now, tis the only answer.

hey starting i lived in italy too up north where were you? i know lots of italian men may be big mamma's boys but i just liked the way you could go out with one and have a good laugh and not take what they said too seriously. i could do with some lightness just now.
i'll run for cover too now for my generalisation.
:)

Good Morning everyone

Welcome Caroline and Someday

Maybee, happy belated birthday, am soo glad to see you posting again and that you have all settled in well

Goo, your Xbf is just looking for an ego boost, i'd block him on fb now too

Patience, i am a dedicated fb girl, i get to keep in touch with familt and friends hundreds of miles away, know whats going on in their lives and see their DC grow up even if i cant be there in person, i love it!!

Starting, sorry date didnt go to plan am sure there will be plenty more

Happy, Hope things are going ok for you

Elsie, details, details, deatails please!!! lol

Tea and goo have sent you a pm to add me on fb and anyone else that wants to add me let me know and i'll send you it too :)

Rom, you sound as if you are doing so much better, wouldnt bat an eyelid at sending XH that text, let him wonder what exactly your getting up to

Leave, glad things are going well with NM, the 6 month wall is a lot easier to get through than previous one, hope your feeling better already

Mumfun, hope things are ok for you now

Mymy, hope things are ok with you too

waves to getting, partytime and anyone else lurking

Am still happy, happy, happy here, things are going really well with NM
No dramas from X, no word from him at all still but hey his loss
DC are driving me a bit insane, eldest (8) is being very mouthy all the time and DS2 (4) is copying, am hoping it's just a phase and it passes soon but i have a feeling it's a bit of acting out with not seeing their dad in so long, just gotta ride the storm

Waves to Sov,think Facebook is happening just,don't really get how it works,why is it easier to talk on fb than email.Do other friends see your conversations.
Dropped my iron on my carpet this morning ,so big iron print on the floor and burnt carpet on my iron ,oops !

Patience, if you write on your wall than yes other people can see the conversations, but you can set it so only your friends can see
It better than email in most ways because if someone is on fb at the same time as you you can have a private chat which no one else see's in realtime rather than having to wait aaaagggges for a reply

not good with the iron, thats why mine gathers dust in the cupboard....i dont want it to get damaged lol

Or u could just phone them

I have friends who've deactivated their account as it had gotten to a stage where they didn't "talk" to their friends in RL just virtually and felt it was getting out of hand. But I do find fb a lifeline for me and a community. I needed it as I felt isolated and lonely so much as a lone parent with 2 little ones. When DS was born and DD was 17 months it kept me sane chatting to all my friends on there whilst living in Surrey for the year with my now ExH. A bit like mumsnet really for me.

you could but that would be too easy lmao, i dont actually have some of my old friends numbers and if you have no credit and no landline it comes in bloody handy

The other week my landline wasnt working and my mobile had took a swim in a cuppa tea and i wanted a chinese so i messaged my sister on fb and told her what i wanted along with the number of the chinese and 30 minutes later my dinner arrived without fb i would have starved lol

for the recoed i do call most people as well, you should see my mobile bill lol