Dumpling no more? Only the strong survive and we did no. 4

[IfYoureHappyAndYouKnowIt]

At first I was afraid, I was petrified
Kept thinkin' I could never live without him by my side;
But then I spent so many nights
Thinkin' how you did me wrong
And I grew strong

This thread is for ex dumplings. Any dumpling that feels like she has "mostly" moved past crisis into an "almost" sorted state can post and chat here as we continue our quest for serenity with a lot of laughs along the way and support

FFS !Voicemail telling me what a nice bloke he is and how he loves his kids and could we just have a chat !!!!!
Eh no .Text only .(seems to have forgotten he lied his arse off ,let kids down ,didnt pay them any money and called me a c*,all in one week )
Taking kids on Sunday ,not going to tell kids till we get to drop off place.
Ah well ,vanishing was wishful thinking .

Getting, hope you're doing ok. Sounds like a very emotional day but you seem to be flying through it

Kate, aaaaaaarrrrrrrggggggghhhh twat !!!

Goo, ah it's a bummer to be sick when the weather is so nice, hopefully you'll be on track again tomorrow.

ET, yes disappearing off into the sunset would be nice

Patience, I guessed as much, he seems to be following script of my xh . Speaking of which, got a text today telling me he had employed a top barrister & been to the police to commence court proceedings for the allegations I have made against him (shagging around) now bare in mind that I have been a bit of a gobshite & behaved like a complete saint with regards to him. I was so so tempted to text back "bring it on assole" but refrained & adopted the good old detach mode . Sadly it appears like the fuker is building up to kicking off big time again . Will I ever be done with him

Hope everyone else is doing ok

6 weeks no contact?? I don't think I've had much more than 6 days no contact. He is manipulating me. I need a plan...

Starting, forgive me but how does he employ a top barrister? Isn't he bankrupt? Am i missing something? Sorry if I''m confused here.

Evening all.

These XHs huh. What a collection. Mine has reappeared today also. But luckily not behaved like a tit yet.

Good luck tomorrow Getting.

Off to see Dcous tomorrow with DS

ET, no you're not missing anything, tis just the ramblings of a deranged lunatic . I'd say he'll be lucky to even get his solicitor to represent him next time around for dv court cases pending

Waves to Happy & did not the "yet"

Yes, he is an arse .broke my fucking heart and he knows it.but everyday I'm getting stronger ,could have done with another 3 weeks.

Happy that should have read note

Yes Patience you have my sympathies, I could do with a sabatical from my xh too

Can highly recommend no phonecalls ,just texts.

Only texts here too Patience since he's started behaving like a dick & I ignore the ones that have nothing to do with access

Evening Ladies,

I haven't been posting as am so bloody exhausted with these school holidays, god knows how i'm going to cope during 6 weeks

Getting and Happy, happy birthday for the other day glad you both had a good time

Getting good luck with the move tomorrow, blue skies all the way apparently think thats a good sign :)

Goo, sorry your not feeling great, hope your back to your fabulous self soon

Kate [angry}, he's a twat isn't he!!

Patience, hahahaha do they all have a bloody hand book 'what a nice bloke he is' by whose standards is that then? same crap from my X the other week wasnt it

Starting, another twat!! these men really just have no shame do they? why cant they just put their goddamned (sorry tea) hands up and admit they are tossers and move on from it with some dignity, i mean have they not caused enough pain?

Can i have a stab at twat of the week award please?
Took the DC to the local town today on the way to feed the ducks ect and whilst standing at the cash point with DC running around X walks out of the shop opposite from where i'm stood, with OW in tow, looks at me, looks at DC who havent noticed him, put his head down and walked off, he IGNORED his own fking kids!!!!!!!!! they both looked me in the eye (shops are very close together no road between them) had a look of complete horror of 'oh shit' and basically fled, i was so fing angry i was shaking with rage, i'm just glad the kids hadn't noticed them because if they had and he'd ignored them i would be sending out visiting orders right about now as i would have caused them both some permanent damage
So it looks like i know where the DC stand now, they no longer have a sperm donorfather

Waves to everyone else and prays we have all had enough Twuntery from these so called men

Ah, I did wonder Starting. I wish my xp would tip over into insanity so that I didn't have to wonder how to be reasonable or at least appear to be so. The temptation to tell him to fuck off is overwhelming me.

Oh God Sov that is bloody awful that anyone could do that to their own dc's . It's the stuff like that that used to rip my heart out with xh . I was out gardening today & I looked over at dc's playing on trampoline & for a few brief mins I just felt so sad that I gave them such a fuk up of a father . Where I live there's only a few houses together so we're all quite close & when my poor dc's are out playing in the nice weather with the other children I feel so sorry for them when the dad's come home & play with dc's etc. To make it worse all the father's are really hands on with dc's, cooking, cleaning etc.. in other words the polar opposite of the useless fuker I married . No words of wisdom except I guess detach & enjoy your dc's. Tbh I often think I would struggle a lot more if I had to had dc's over for half of every wk etc so I count my blessings mostly that I have dc's pretty much 24/7 & get to enjoy all the good stuff & ((Hugs))

Sov, what an utter shitbag to ignore his own dc. Then again, maybe it was out of shame. How very sad not to be able to face your own children.

Lol ET tbh I know I use choice words on here but tis just for therapy purposes but believe it or not I would v rarely swear in rl Mind you if it gives you any relief I sanction telling xp to Fu*k Off lol

Starting, that would just add to his martyrdom but it's on the cards. The problem is that when I tell someone to fuck off they get it in glorious technicolour pyrotechnics and the fuck off message will pervade their every sense. It's not the sort of thing that will ever be forgotten or forgiven so I'm trying to hold back.

ET

Just to uplife my soul a bit I decided to check out the dating site. When I logged on a really nice looking 38 year old went on to view my profile, neither a wink nor an email but on the bright side I had emails from two 56 year old . FFS I'm 38.........

In hindsight I think I used every option possible Elsie,every emotion and every swear word.None of it worked cos he is a selfish arse.

"Im a nice bloke I love my kids "

Ok he changed the drop off place and the timefor Sunday.Maybe thats to suit him and gf ,maybe not, but changed it back to save me petrol.

I think it helps weed out the selfish narcs though Startin',
anyone looking for a gf 20yr younger is very much in love with themselves already.

Patience, wish I was mature enough to realise that when xh came along (56 WTF was I thinking )

but changed it back to save me petrol - self care

Sov so sorry u had this.
Getting good luck.
Just had text confirming time and place of Sundays handover ,texting rocks.