The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Giving Up Booze For Lent.

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Hello.

I'm Mouse.

We are a Bus load of posters with various relationships with the demon booze. Some are sober, some are not and some are inbetween.

So come say hi and meet the rest of The Babes, there's always plenty of room on the Bus, the doors are ALWAYS open.

No judgy pants are worn on this journey, pants yes and even the odd Tena Lady but always of the non judging variety.

Previous Threads

Hey Ma - how you doing lovely??? xxx

Wheresmum what drew you to this thread and what would you like to do - cut down, stop just for today, decide that your drinking is not as bad as you thought, maybe just ponder 'what if...' for now?

If it is helpful to hear what others do - I have never been to an AA meeting but have read a lot of their literature. I, too, am Catholic but have not been fussed about the 'higher power' references. Those who have been to AA will speak for themselves but my impression from what they post is that, generally, if they go back AA seems to help with their decisions about drinking or not. This thread helps me each day to decide I will not drink - just for today - and it often makes me laugh out loud and occasionally shed a tear or two.

Silver great to 'see' you.

Silver 66, I have quite deliberately cut and pasted this a la MIFLAW: "uninformed and deeply shallow opinion of MILFLAW" - how can anyone have anything other than what you describe? I mean how do you know anything about anyone in an informed and not shallow way if you have met them on a website? How can I be informed about him if the only things I know about him are what he chooses to post - do you know him personally? And what is a shallow opinion, by the way? I think I am turning into a female MIFLAW - FFS, I am going to have a glass of wine.

Wheresmum how about not having the glass of wine and joining us again tomorrow?
I'm off to bed, laters babes...

Hi Bafana - and hello JWIM

where - some of us have talked to MIFLAW on here for a long time - I have talked to him in private as well. When I say shallow - I mean that you are making assumptions about him after a few days - I get the feeling that you are not going to get a lot out of being on this thread unless you ease up a little. Back off and stop being so confrontational, listen, and what is said on here may help you.

Anyway babes - off to bed - day off tomorrow so will be posting lots if anyone is around

pah

- yes, please come and restore sanity?!?

im too fucking angry right now!

see you in the morning!

Night all. JWN hope the 'do' looks good.

DD has come in and phoned FIL, he is totally guttered, but refusing to admit it . Bloody hell, what am I supposed to do.
DD is really upset, and concerned that he is going to die, I am also concerned that he is going to kill himself, either by falling down the stairs or some other death by misadventure.

My kids love him to bits, I love him to bits, but I can't help him can I?

Just feel incredibly despairing about the situation.

Night night all

Wheresmum

As far as I'm concerned we haven't fallen out.

This

"I spent some of this afternoon in a grotty pub looking at people who, like me, shouldn't have been there and who I'm pretty sure had reason to be elsewhere; family, work, partners, etc. But I knew that the one thing that had drawn them to that place was not necessarily the booze but the chance to be alone and feel free, with no-one demanding things from us. "

could have been me in the last years of my drinking if I'd been brave enough to admit it to anyone.

Like I've said before, ignore me if you don't like what I'm saying, I am NOTHING special.

Sorry if I lashed out at you, but this from you

"Why is a sober man posting on an alcoholic Mumsnet forum anyway?"

shortly followed by this from TWDA

"Agree about the sober bloke thing too, I did always wonder..."

really, REALLY sound like something is being implied about my motives for being here, and by snidey, nasty innuendo rather than a straight out question. Sorry if that's not the case and I read either of you wrong, but I found it very offensive and was a bit angry as a result.

By the way, no, Silver doesn't know me personally as far as I know - but I have met at least two women from this thread in real life. I won't break their anonymity by telling you who they are but I didn't meet them to hit on them, I met them as a direct result of them being problem drinkers, just like me.

JWIM

One thing there is no shortage of, in British AA at least, is Catholics - the rooms are full of Irish and Poles!

Morning Babes and Boybabe,

just off to do the first big presentation to grown ups of my life, am v.scared.

V. sad about all the stuff on here last night. I am new too, really, and I have only ever felt that we are all trying to help ourselves, and each other, however we can, no hidden agenda's.

Much love to all
xxxx

Morning all I posted last week, in a pickle and having a struggle. MIF thanks for taking the time to reply, your Magners moment comment really put things into perspective. I am more confident as a result that I will make it to 9 months sober! X

Hello

Not posted for ages but always read. I was yak.

Thurs good luck with the presentation.

Thank you everyone else for help in being able to say no to the drink. I look at my dads side of the family and heavy drinking is normal and encouraged although it has got most of them into a mess.

This thread has opened my eyes and I'm feeling great for that. MILFAW was very frank with me when I appeared first and it was nothing but good advice-I think it's a case of he hits the nail on the head and his accuracy in seeing a situation is frightening for those who don't want to admit how bad aproblem they have or are heading towards.

Hey it's April 1st, I HAVE reached 9 months sober. I've shocked myself

CONGRATULATIONS MISSP!!

bloody brilliant!

thurso - you will be fine!, big deep breath as you go in and remember, the people sitting there want to listen to you, they want you to 'do well', only an arse would take pleasure in it if you ballsed it up!

im not sad about last nights posts, they have triggered my 'cold hard angry button', not something that happens very often!

Hi JWN just want to say hi, thank you and have a GREAT day

Well I did it, I got through last night without a drink, actually enjoyed watching television with a cup of coffee instead of my well earned glass of the rose stuff.

I even resisted buying a bottle when I had to make an emergency dash to tesco for lightbulbs. 2 of the buggers blew last night with only one in the house.

Actually woke up motivated, clear headed and ready for the day ahead. All the monsters are installed at their respective schools, hubby off to work. So going to have a nice chilled peaceful day.

Good luck to everyone.

Morning All. Good luck Thurso - I'm sure, from what you've written before, that you are fully prepared and it will go well.

Nice to hear from others that they are achieving their goals vis a vis the demon drink. Congratulations MissP - I know it is ODAAT, but a milestone is a real boost to the daily decision making.

Nicky - that morning clear headed, guilt free feeling is just the best; if only we could each bottle it for those trying moments. Enjoy your day.

Would like to respond to some of the earlier comments both by new and older posters (i think there was our of orderness on both sides), but best to let things go I think. Today, I will be trying AGAIN to not be drinking!!
TWDA and Wheresmum - hope you are both still with us, Nicky bloody well done and Miss p! What a star
silver where are we off to today? Somewhere to clear our minds and our hearts?