The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Giving Up Booze For Lent.

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Hello.

I'm Mouse.

We are a Bus load of posters with various relationships with the demon booze. Some are sober, some are not and some are inbetween.

So come say hi and meet the rest of The Babes, there's always plenty of room on the Bus, the doors are ALWAYS open.

No judgy pants are worn on this journey, pants yes and even the odd Tena Lady but always of the non judging variety.

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Afternoon all.

Lovely to read your positive post Trist. Bafana - you know you're worth it, and think of what you haven't been spending on booze.

Working here - trying to present very differing views in a coherent way - I'm beginning to wonder why we asked for views in the first place. All it has proved is we definitely won't be pleasing all of the people all of the time (I like to aim high!) or even some of the people some of the time.

Love to all and today I will not be drinking ODAAT and tomorrow I will wake up ready for the day and guilt free - a real joy.

Hi everyone, well a mixed day here. We have a flat which we tried to sell when we moved here 3 years ago. Nothing moving on the market so we've had it rented out. The tenants have just left and we're trying again to sell it. Tenants have left it in a pretty depressing state - nothing really horrendous but generally grimy, wall paper ripped off in 2 rooms (their kids), stinks of cat pee and there is cat/dog/something shit on one of the carpets and a big cat/dog/something stain.

I'm quite pragmatic about it 'cos we'll put in new carpets etc anyway, but dh is really wound up - it was his home for some years so he has more of an emotional attachement to it. Things were rather tense as he wanted to keep a load of the deposit back to pay for repairs whereas I'm more forgiving - and I don't have the emotional energy to get into a difficult dispute with the tenants for the sake of £150. Anyway I have at least persuaded dp that we will agree a budget for the work and that I will just get on and get it done (by proper tradesmen). It's a pain in the butt, but a damn sight easier than trying to negotiate with dp every step of the way - he has absoloutely ZERO skills in anything practical, but he thinks he should have . We also disagree about whether it's OK to leave a turqoise carpet in one of the rooms. He says yes, cos the carpet is OK, I say no, cos the first thing any potential buyer would say is 'got to get rid of that carpet'. Anyway, now I'm in charge, tee hee, turqoise carpet will be going .T'was all quite tense, but we stopped in a cosy little cafe for a much needed cup of coffee and a bacon sandwich. Calm and peace has returned.

Hi

Can I join you here, my name is Nicky and I'm a binge drinker. At least 5 nights a week I consume drink and will not stop til the bottle(s) are empty. I'm fed up with waking up with hangovers, being tired constantly and being a moody so and so to everyone.

We can't afford for me to keep drinking without the children going without. So as of today I'm going to be sober.

Will you hold my hand?

Hello Nicky Nice to meet you.

When you say 'we' do you mean you and your partner?

venus - Jeeeeeez. What a shit thing to do! Bloody tennants. We were always very lucky with our house before we sold it. Sorry you're having to deal with the fall out.

Huge hug to you lovely lady xxxx

Hi nicky - good to have you on here, and well done for posting. I was so nervous the first time I posted, it was like a massive admission to myself, to put down in balck and white the fact that I was drinking too much (and that I couldn't just cut down).

Have you been looking at this thread for long? If so you will see that most of us focus on TODAY, so yes, today I am choosing to be sober. Tomorrow it is very likely that I will decide to do the same again, but I'm not saying 'never again'. Actually, I used to wakiing up many, many mornings saying never again, and then by later in the day I'd be thinking about having a drink....

You'll find loads of practical ideas for what to do to curb and cravings you have. Just post whenever you feel like it (and post about whatever you like). Some one is usually along to answer.

Looking forward to getting to know you.

Hi Nicky

Welcome aboard.

Thanks for the welcome.

Mouse,by we, I mean the DH, who has never minded me drinking but is starting to panic about money with rises in the costs of living. Basically I'm drinking about £30 worth of alcohol a week, when we're struggling to pay for the eldest to go on a residential.

Venus, I know the feeling of planning a drink. I'd be in a class at the gym and be counting down the minutes for it to finish so I could have the glass of wine I'd earned.

Hopefully today will be a good day for all of us.

Ah, the old 'how much?'

We were the same, DH and I, last year when we looked at my drinking.

We spent about the same as you, but never out. Only for wine/beer/vodka at home.

I hope you find the Bus (Gerald is his name ) a really useful place to be, the Babes on here are lovely. All at different stages of sobriety, or control.

Lots of things to talk about, and it doesn't always have to be booze. Which is what keeps these threads so busy!

Thanks for the welcome JW.

Sounds very similar to our situation. maybe a night out once a month with the girls and generally a meal out or trip to the pub with the children, so basically coke with the meal etc and drive. Then rewarding myself for being good when the children have gone to bed with a bottle.

I never drink around the kids and never lose control when I know I have sole charge the next day but that doesn't mean I don't have a problem.

Hopefully once I get what the chat is about I'll be able to join in more.

hi nicky! , dont worry about the 'chat'!, im often at a compleate tangent to everyone else but they still talk to me!

bit tired here, i have an evening meeting that will drag on but hey ho!, i will drag my old bones to it and smile sweetly! , like that but not with so much teeth!

actaully, im sooo tired i might be deserving of some new shoes!

Hi Nicky and welcome
this is a great place to be. Glad you found us

Nicky

You've made an excellent decision.

Well done.

BTW don't be surprised if, the next time you add up what you've been drinking, the figure comes out rather higher ... I think we all rationalise amounts, in terms of quantities and of money, while we're still actively drinking.

Hi Nicky, welcome on board. I've been lurking for ages, and posting a little bit for a few weeks. Still very early on in my journey, but I find this thread an enormous help. (can't keep up with the chat, though, so keep erupting into conversations like a mole on a lawn)

Bl*dy, bl*dy day,
SAT's practise anyone! for children who shouldn't be subjected to exams!!

Venus same as you, except we had to go to to court on Monday , DH said that carpet stinks like an old ashtray, that a dog has been sick into!

DH just gone out (to the flat) says he doesn't want me to see it, but I think he just wants to do some more work!!!

Blah, blah, when will I learn? Not having a good evening tonight! Bought some wine, and am so cross, am going to drink it. Yaay for me .

(15 mins later...)

Right, haven't had too much, am going for a bath, and taking a cup of tea, he really shouldn't get me like this. Sorry.

Nicki just a bad night, mostly positive, honest. Welcome .

Hey everyone. Have to fess up, I am drinking a beer :(
Had an awful evening. Arrived home Hungry, Angry, Lonely, Tired and Homesick, trying not to cry in front of dd and there were beers in the fridge. Then I screwed up dinner - still haven't fed dd and it is almost 9pm here :(
I'm having one of the days where I just want to take the children and run back to England.
DD wants me. Have to see if dinner is at least edible.

Madddogs hope you have had dinner now, I haven't!
Just try to be "on" for the children, tonight, that's what counts. Have a cup of tea, sweets, and go to bed straight after the children.
xx

Thanks Thurso. Everyone is fed now. Sorry you've had a bad evening too.

Maddogs/Thurso

Sorry you've both had such bad days. Hope you're now both safely on the way to bed (with or without cup of tea) and that tomorrow is better.

well done on stopping Thurso.
maddogs - where do you live, if I'm not being too nosy?
have been 10 pin bowling tonight with work - i was absolutely hopeless but it was nice to be out.
now the DDS and cousin want to watch a scary movie and DS who is 9 won't go to bed because it's "not fair" etc etc. He keeps coming out of his room and chucking things round the hall and being an arse so I am desperately typing on here to stop myself going out there and beating the Holy Crap out of him. he is thoroughly unpleasant child at times and spoilt rotten by DH who thinks the sun shines out of his arse! A pleasant evening is being spoilt by his stupid behaviour

Hello ladies

I'm finding it really hard to keep up with this thread because I work all day then I go out to meetings and other evening stuff with the kids, and at the moment I'm not having the hangovers that mean I'm sat on the bloody sofa all day so I really apologise for not being a daily support - I feel it, I'm just finding it hard to have the time to show it.

nicky welcome! Whatever, however - you're recognising something and that is a victory in and of itself

I went to a meeting tonight and heard the most amazing share, it blew me away. How can someone who has been in AA for so long, remember how it felt for him 35 years ago?!!! I wanted to hug him He made me think about all kinds of things from my very early years as an alcoholic - right back to when I was a teenager, and then he went on to describe every feeling I've had in the last 12 days since my first meeting and used every word I've only had in my head

I'm very far from being well again, but I know I'm on the right path.

Hi all, posted ages ago and admitted to being a lurker but miflaw jumped on me and scared me off. Just noticed he pounced on a newbie. Would like to come back but am shy - drunk, too.