The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Giving Up Booze For Lent.

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Hello.

I'm Mouse.

We are a Bus load of posters with various relationships with the demon booze. Some are sober, some are not and some are inbetween.

So come say hi and meet the rest of The Babes, there's always plenty of room on the Bus, the doors are ALWAYS open.

No judgy pants are worn on this journey, pants yes and even the odd Tena Lady but always of the non judging variety.

Previous Threads

Hello. I have decided to go cold turkey for "a while". So I might lurk on here for a bit.

Hi everyone

Well done Ruby 2 months is brilliant

Sorry to hear Nemo had a bad night Mouse.

You are right Thurso, I think I am confusing the excitement of liking/fancying someone with the nervousness of not knowing if anything will happen. DP is lovely but do feel he is a 'safe' option but he would like more DC's and so would I and he is a lovely funny guy. Think maybe things have just got a bit too intense with him from his side really in that he constantly tells me how he feels whereas sometimes I just want us to enjoy spending time together and not discuss feelings all the time. God reading that back how silly as I in my last relationship I would bang my head against the wall trying to find out how he felt!! Ahh life is never easy. p.s. your DH sounds very lucky to have such lovely treats for his birhday

AWNP hello. Welcome to the bus. Lots of lovely passengers, advice if you ask, support if it helps. Post or lurk, whatever suits.

Hi AWNP and welcome.

Hello AWNP

Does your name stand for Another Women Needs Pants? Or Andrew William Neville Potterington? Or how about Alkies Will Need Pernod?

all work no play...

Like it! Far more sensible than I could come up with

Ewww, pernod! Now that's certainly one drink I could happily go without!

Hi all, and welcome AWNP. When I joined this thread, my initials would have been ADNWNP (All Drink, No Work, No Play). Now my initials are NDSWSPAH (No Drink, Some Work, Some Play, And HAPPY).

Ruby, Noteven was admitted (I believe) to a short stay unit for detox. She was in a very bad way when she came back here to update.

She was given some tough love at a time I suspect she only wanted a hug and a bit of TLC.

I don't think she's been back since although I could be wrong.

Just felt I has to say something as I know this is the second time you've asked after her.

Luci X

Thanks for posting that luci, I was wondering about her too.

Hope she's ok out there.

luci - i take issue with you im afraid!, noteven was supported and helped as much as anyone else on here!

Luci - you know my feelings about the situation. Can I remind you that you too were given the same tough love when you first posted and risked fucking up your family?

And every other time that you posted going round and round in circles, you were given tough love AND masses of support, as was noteven.

I hope she is ok and do think about her. Jesus, I'm sorry you take issue with what I've written but I genuinely believe Noteven felt to vulnerable to post further after the last time.

She was supported as much as anyone but I did feel (and said at the time) that a particular post was quite harsh (although true.)

I have no wish to bring this all up again but simply was expaining to Ruby in a clearly cak-handed way what happened to her.

Ok Ruby, she doesn't post here any more and people tend to act as if she never existed when he name comes up.

I'm leaving it there.

I think, in a thread this big and long-running, it's inevitable sometimes that some posters won't find that they want to keep posting. It doesn't mean we shouldn't try to reach out to them, just that sometimes there isn't a right answer and there isn't something we could or 'should' have said differently.

Come on, let's not beat ourselves up. This thread is so good for so many of us, it'd be awful if people felt they couldn't speak honestly whether it's to criticize or to explain.

Sorry if I'm out of line saying this.

Evening Babes.

Well, so far we have emptied most of DD's room ready for the builder to come and strip it back to stone tomorrow. One little bit left to do but then DH gets a text.

Said builder can't make it tomorrow, fuckwit. So he swears on all things Jeff that he'll be here Thursday and finish it Friday.

Hmmmm, we're picking DD up Friday lunch so he's kinda cutting it fine.

DH is NOT happy........

Ah, builders. There's a reason they don't have a reputation for punctuality isn't there!

Hope you get it all sorted on time.

well, im off to bed!, had a lovely experience this afternoon - i got out of the office a bit early, went and did some shopping, on the way home i looked in at a church near me that is usually locked, i find graveyards facinating, anyhoo, while i was wandering i met an old guy i know from aa, old as the hills and really wise, i really like hearing his shares, we ended up sitting on a bench in the graveyard, in the sun, and just chatting, nothing heavy, just general kind of chat - i got a feeling of just two mates, so very different in so many ways, and so alike that we understood each other perfectly - i felt so peaceful and calm, its half an hour that i shall never forget!

sleep well babes!

see you all tomorrow!

L XXXXXXXXX

Oh, JWN, that sounds lovely. I like graveyards too - they do tempt people to sit and reflect, don't they?

Anyway, night night, sleep well!

I'm a long time lurker here - but felt the need to stick my head above the parapet, if that's OK.

Indie - I really couldn't add to what you've just posted. Even though I'm a lurker on this thread, I've found it so helpful here.
The one thing that's kept me coming back to this thread is the fact that it's not judgemental, I can connect with nearly everything posted and it's such a support, even as a lurker, to know I'm not alone.

I contacted noteven not long after she left this thread, as I felt she'd been judged harshly, which to me went against a fundamental 'feeling' of this thread. There's harsh speaking, tough love - that's fine. But judging harshly is another kettle of fish and that's what sticks with me, sorry.

It seems (to me) that noteven's somehow become the 'elephant' in the room (going by the amount of times posters have asked after her without answers such as 'I'll PM you') and I for one find that really difficult to resonate with.

I respect each and every person on this thread (because one-by-one you've all helped me in some way) but I really felt the need to get this off my chest.

That's how I feel too Chuss. I was very uncomfortable with the way Noteven disappeared and the reason (I believe) why she did.
I hope she is getting there. She had some horrendous relapses but she also went weeks at a time without drinking, spoke to her GP and attended AA.
As one alcoholic relating to another, I could read the despair and fear in her last post on this board. I wish I had replied to her instead of lurking.
I felt I had to fill Ruby in on her departure as everyone seemed to be ignoring her requests for news.
I am so sorry for stirring all this up again.
Indie, I love your ramblings and your poetry. Your posts always make me smile.

Goodnight everyone.

Luci x