In passing would like to say, I am also beginning to realise that one of my brothers is the "victim" in an abusive relationship,and wondering how to help him. Really, it is too simple to say it is always men, unless you blame my Dad, who quite possibly is the real culprit.
Thanks for your reply Attila. I thought it was an honest mistake but then find it interesting to wonder about the preconceptions that might have led to the mistake.
Should emphasis in all of this I am just analysing everything, from every angle, in an effort to come to a fuller understanding. I am absolutely not trying to score points or negate anyone else's point of view.
...and I have had The Finger pointed at me already this morning for intervening in son getting a telling off. Unfortunately this led to an altercation which left both of my children in tears, for which I have been blamed. I did repeatedly say, however, that we need to talk, and he said for sure we did, just not in front of the children, and I will ask him to talk (ie attend counselling) when the kids have gone to bed this evening. The sun has gone down on it though, we have already made up, so I wonder if he'll avoid it again....hey ho.
takes up supertanker rope once more