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Genuine question, can a woman ever be responsible for making a man hit her?

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Jic · 12/03/2011 23:44

Because that's the response I get from my husband. I've been hit about seven or eight times now, in the course of our relationship. I am utterly at a loss because I know exactly what I'd say to any woman in my position, I would say, get out and never look back. So why the fuck can't I take my own advice? Why do I truly believe it's my fault, that I made him do it each time, he says I push him to the limit? What if I do? Is it justified then? I'm so so confused.
What a ramble, just had to get it down.

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Hardgoing · 16/08/2011 19:42

Jic, you poor thing. I second contacting Women's Aid again and asking for legal advice/going to a solicitor for a free half hour. You need to clarify the legal position for your sake and your children's sake. Also, keep your passports safely tucked away where he can't find them.

I'm sorry I can't help more with the emotional side of it, all the advice on here is excellent, but you do need to get good legal advice sorted (for residency etc).

And don't go to Turkey whatever you do, that's the old pattern, the old Jic talking, it would be disasterous for everyone.

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