Dumpling no more - only the strong survive and we did No.3

[Teaandcakeplease]

At first I was afraid, I was petrified
Kept thinkin' I could never live without him by my side;
But then I spent so many nights
Thinkin' how you did me wrong
And I grew strong

This thread is for ex dumplings. Any dumpling that feels like she has "mostly" moved past crisis into an "almost" sorted state can post and chat here as we continue our quest for serenity with a lot of laughs along the way and support.

Lambing live is on again
That was a quick year eh ?

Yay Patience are we the only ones here - others out on the pull!?

Good to get a new single mum friend -I have a new one in the offing I think - so much in common its untrue!

And yes pleased re the trampoline -kids are so excited - will take a lot of work to put up though and H very angry with me. Hope your new frineds spanner is effective

I'm here and sunburnt

I'm here too. Oldest son has just been violently sick in a full bath of water. Took ages to unblock the plughole! Poor soul. Just what we all needed at the end of a completely manic week.
Oh Tea - sunburnt in April eh? Hope it's going to be a good summer! I was dying to sit out in the sun all day, instead of presiding over a Year 8 French test

I know I cannot believe it myself. Red raw on my back and shoulders from just a few hours at butterfly world with Grandma and kids today. Grandma paid. Lovely but gutted I'm crispy...

Your poor boy. Hope he feels a bit better now he's been sick.

Oh no Goo hope DS has the type of virus where they are only sick once.

Gosh Tea - hope your kids ok after sun. Its hats and sun cream tomorrow for us!

DS has just been stroking my hair wee sweetheart.Very tired. Working tomorrow. More conflict probably H

Hope it settles soon

Hi to all!

They're fine. They had hats on but my dress was very revealing. It's the skin that never see's the light of day that is burnt the worst

Oh how crap Tea - I hate sunburn! Been to a butterfly world once with my kids - we all loved it. At least the kids aren't sunburnt - that's awful. Remember my red headed brother having sunstroke. Not nice. Tbh my legs could do 4 hours in saraha and stay milk bottle coloured!

Oh yeah my legs do not change colour ever. Spray on tan if I'm desperate but it just looks odd tbh on me.

I used to do a lot of sunbathing before I had kids. Now got sun damage on my face and it goes patchy brown quite quickly so I have to be careful. The rest of me stays milky!
Felt a bit down today. Was up working until 1am on this paperwork head wanted today, so tired I guess. Also exbf commenting on fb hasn't helped. And not sure if I'm ever going to meet drummer man. Don't know if my friend is going to set me up or whether she just says she is. She thinks it would be a good idea for me to make contact with him on fb, send him a message or something but I don't know. What do you all think? Not really my style, contacting someone I don't know on fb. If a bloke did that to me I'd think he was a weirdo :)

Oh yeah I was very silly and used sun beds lots when younger. I also have a lot of moles too. So I keep an eye on my skin. Wish I hadn't burnt it.

Off to bed now. Night ladies.

I am a whizz at trampoline construction mf is it a 12 ft adult friendly one. Had to pull mine down off the fence again so bit bent again funny how lazy arse couldn't ever finish the job .

I'm getting a big trampoline for the boys. Wish you were there to put it up ladies. Will be relying on my dad I think.
Oldest one been sick all over the bed AGAIN. Now mountains of clean wet washing and mountains of wahing in machine and mountains of bedding with fresh sick on in a big plastic sack. Greeeeeat!

So sorry uv got this to deal with googs x

Lambing Live will always remind me of you Patience because a year ago when you asked if anyone was watching it I actually thought you were joking .

I'm a total townie through and through (though I do LOVE lambs) and never thought such programmes existed

Googoo, really feel for you re violent vomit in the bath. It's times like that when we could really do with a nice DH around to help

Apologies in advance have come on here to dump
Was having lovely night infront of the box with a tub of ben and jerrys ice cream when at 11.30 I get a text from X, has made me so angry, haven't heard from him in 6 weeks and he decides to text me now
Whatever he's looking for he's not getting it here, I refuse to get drawn in, REFUSE I TELL YA!!! Grrr
He's chosen to disappear from the kids lives so what the fucks this all about
Am seriously considering changing my number, have already changed the landline now I might do it with my mobile

Here's the text he sent

Sov i do not want you to reply to this. I'm ashamed to admit that i am not the person i thought i was, i love our children more than i ever realized and i'm gutted for myself that i can be so heartless, i dont know why i do the things i do, or dont. I'm not mental or anything, that i know, i think i'm just not man enough to do what i'm supposed to. I beg you, plz, find a man who is strong enough to take care, and love you and the kids like you deserve. I want you to know i'm sorry and i wish you knew how much i ment it

WTF does he want me to do with that, he's just being a selfish bastard who only thinks of himself, not his poor DC who are wondering where he's got to grrrrrrrrrrrr

Had to post here otherwise I might have text him back but I am detaching detatching detatching

I don't come and rage of the injustice of my situation very often but this has made me so mad how dare he
I want him to take his DC out and give them some attention as well as me a well deserved break and I want him to get a job and support them so I don't have to say no to everything they ask for or scour shops for the cheapest clothes, shoes, coats ect ect that I can find and he's sitting there probably drunk, stoned or both with his OW and her 9 year old son who he plays with and spends time with how fucking dare he the low life waste of space SHIT!!!
ARRRGGGHHHHHH

If he wants to be gone then he's gone and my life ticks over quite nicely and relatively stress free which is hard at times when I hear the kids asking about him but I'll deal with that but don't drop a text just cause your feeling shitty

NEWS FLASH BUDDY I found out last july you weren't the man I thought you was let alone who you thought you was so why has it taken you this long to catch up

Sorry long post just had to rage. Away to my ice cream will be back later x
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Just in from rare girlie night out, well in actually as was in someone's house so no chance of any eye candy or otherwise .

Sov, I hate when they come out with that crap. That's the last thing you need when you're struggling on your own with dc's . ((Hugs))

Mumfun, hope things get resolved with your h tomorrow & doesn't turn out with the conflict you're expecting.

Goo, ah so sorry to hear about your poor ds. It's horrible to see them ill like that & then having to deal with all the washing etc. ((Hugs)) Hope you manage to get some rest after all your late nights with work. I agree with you on the fb thing, think it would be nicer for him to take the lead or could you not just get chatting with him when he comes to work at school

Patience, glad things seem to be calm for you atm

Tea, ouch sorry to hear about the sunburn but glad you had a nice day out.

Hi sov ,
Yes mine wants me to meet someone too ,funny that.he said to me 2 weeks ago it was def the right thing to split up wasn't it ? I said yes because I didn't want to be married to a violent drunk that lies constantly and has a thing for 21yo barmaids.
They just enjoy having zero responsibility Sov,then feel a bit paranoid/guilty and ramble on a bit to ease their own pain.
Hope ur ok ,nearly a whole week since I spoke to X .no apologies for no show last Sunday ,just a loser .
Any word re ur date ?

Waves to starting ,glad u got a nite out.
Meant 2b 20 C today here.
Pink it has been a quick year eh ,I remember u all doin meet up in. London this weekend a yr ago cos it was grand national weekend.

Sov, I hate the poor me notes.

What do they actually expect us to do when they send them?

Glad you had a good night out Starting, I went out for a few beers myself.

Endless baking today in preparation event tomorrow where I have to produce cakes!

Morning

Happy lucky people , are they getting the lemon drizzle ? Enjoy the event

Never had so much as a text from xh along those lines Sov , obviously my xh hasnt a moments regret. Also he fully believes he has no blemishs on him and has rewritten history to suit him.

I loved Buttrerfly World Tea , the concept gardens are amazing

Mumfun sorry things are difficult atm

Actually like you Mumfun I am going backwards this past week. Packing up our stuff now ready to move and leaving my lovely home where I have brought up my dc feels sad.

I know like everything else I will get over it and in a months time this will have passed. Found myself asking why my h couldnt have stayed with his family , why I was so awful he had to do what he did . Then finding the same old answers because mostly I can answer the questions.

This is my last dc free weekend here so I am going to try and live in the moment and enjoy it. Also I am relishing a breather from them , lots of shouting and slamming last few days

Morning Getting. Hmm, no lemon drizzle yet but may happen this morning.

You're on the home stretch now honey. That moving in party will be a great event and you will feel so empowered once you're there.

Hopefully the new thread I just crafted on my phone worked ok...

Hi all
Sov - I hate poor me texts too. What purpose do they serve? As the song goes "There's nothing as cheap as words". My exh sent me a text on the day the divorce came through saying "I'm very sad" EH? He left me after years of verbal abuse! It's a shame that he can't leave you alone. I completely understand how getting texts tec from the ex can set you back. Sending you hugs.
Well, been up all night dealing with sick. Think oldest one is now going to be ok. Hopefully youngest won't get it. Exh had them on Thursday night wich is massively unusual. Turns out he had a tummy bug when he had them. Well, thanks for that then. Stupid bugger.
Hi happy and getting and patience. Lovely weather here too. Just got to wake up a bit and get going here.