Dumpling no more - only the strong survive and we did No.3

[Teaandcakeplease]

At first I was afraid, I was petrified
Kept thinkin' I could never live without him by my side;
But then I spent so many nights
Thinkin' how you did me wrong
And I grew strong

This thread is for ex dumplings. Any dumpling that feels like she has "mostly" moved past crisis into an "almost" sorted state can post and chat here as we continue our quest for serenity with a lot of laughs along the way and support.

Both my front teeth are wobbly due to DS running head on into them at 3yo,dont know how they are still there tbh.
My addiction to orange Callipo ice lollies during both pgs didnt help either x

Goo, lol great dumplings thinking alike

There was a wedding at the church today and a piper was playing ,kids both danced a kind of irish/highland jig for a full 15 mins .I laughed so much.
It was where I was married but I just thought good luck to you and I wasnt sad at all ,its lovely to have joy and loveback in my heart.

Actually seeing as we've put the whole scrotums conversation to bed & as we've moved onto discussing "small things". Am wondering how much of the fu*kwittery that we've to put up with on a daily basis is to do with "small man syndrome"?? Xh was not exactly well endowed & I've often reflected on how much this had to do with his ultimate downfall i.e. if he'd been better endowed I think he'd have been more secure within himself, had less of a need for big cars, big this, big that, more women to prove him manhood etc etc..................interesting thought!!

Patience lol

Ah Tea, that's a lovely post & really glad you're in such a good place emotionally etc

Good stuff Starting ,finding it all much easier now since X started showing his true colours towards dcs.It is just business.I dont even think its to do with gf now.I just think he is a lazy selfish arse ...END OF !

Ah, I'm losing it!! Read the church post as being from Tea

Patience, same comment applies. That's really fab, so glad to hear, what a difference a few days can make

Yip Patience, mine's just a lazy selfish arse too...........

Oh P - that's good. I love a good wedding - going to PE teacher's wedding evening do on the Friday of Kate and William's do! Thinking of putting big rollers in my very curly hair in order to achieve the Charlie's Angels look - what do you all think? I've come such a long way, wanting to dress up for myself and not for some man :)
Not sure about small man syndrome. Exh very nice ta very much. Mind you, exbf not so good and spent a lot of time doing tantric things and such, mainly because he smoked so much dope he couldn't just get down to it, if you see what I mean! Massage is all very well but I've got quite a short attention span and used to want to shout after about half an hour "Get on with the shagging man!!!!"

starting ex was a big man, really tall as well. That's the problem I think, his dick was so big he couldn't keep the unruly appendage in it's place in the office so no wonder it just happended to slip into the first woman who had ever worked there!

nm is short, total opposite of ex :) and yes, that can only be a good thing!

Yep just underlines the need to put myself first atm.

Finally configured my business email address tonight which for me is a major achievement ,even put it on my phone .
Meant to be researching the whole website bit now but got diverted .
I think this is one of my 9 boxes ,need to do some selling .100% committed ,dont know how u cope with 3 small businesses Pink ,i take my hat off to u .

starting ex was a big man, really tall as well. That's the problem I think, his dick was so big he couldn't keep the unruly appendage in it's place in the office so no wonder it just happended to slip into the first woman who had ever worked there!

Ok, appears no link to small man syndrome for majority so, just mine.............

Nah, my exbf fits the pattern starting, as did previous bf!
Patience - bloody great news about your business. It's a very brave thing - I wouldn't have a clue how to set up a business - hats off to you love x

Yes, well done to you Patience, managing all that with two young dc's, no support & all the emotional stuff you had to cope with last week .

There's a new dumpling on the ditched thread, she's having a seriously crap time, so send some love over there if you're still awake. Been watching tv all night but just popped onto mumsnet before bed x

My horoscope today says that something very exciting is going to happen in the romance stakes...or with my children! Could do without any more excitement from the boys tbh but as for romance - bring it on baby!

Lol Goo, drummer boy??????

Tea, will have a look.

Yeah well hoping for tourist frenzy to boost sales ,visualising banking large sums of money
Also doing much more hours since SB man said he might pop in .

GGM do the big hair ,do the big hair !!!

Yay again well done Patience! What a difference a few days can make.

And love Mother Theresa prayer

Kate -cant believe youre only 6 months in - hats off to you too

ROFL re dicks of different sizes! And saggy bits - yuck Mine not suffering lack of size! Lack of other things yes! :)

Love the Gaga stuff on here - shes amazing

Starting - madness well sorted. well done. cant belive he just slips back into the old patterns!

And yes Im of same opinion on diets -rarely work. I dont do them any way.

Goo TBH cant belieeve you are still on the FB of that twunt - just hurting yourself every time (sorry)

Happy glad you got away. COmpletely understand your DC position on situation

Aww Getting - Im having big stuff with DD atm -to do with personality too. Its tough but you sound as though your are on the case although its hard

Am engaged in massive power struggle with H. Interesting to see what happens.Big ultimatum tonight from me.

Otherwise better really but tired -so must get to bed.

Night all

I know Mumfun. It's true. Soon I will be able to delete him. Might feel better if I coudl just get a few things off my chest to him first. I know that might not be wise but I'm really bad at telling people when they've pissed me off and feel like I want to with him - part of the recovery.
Yes - was hoping exciting times could be drummer man :)
Ok - GOING TO DO EVEN BIGGER HAIR THAN I'VE GOT NOW. It's going to be HUGE ladies. Mwah!
Hi Tea - I'll look on the other thread no probs. Hope you are well lovely woman x

And I can feel a tourist frenzy coming on Patience. If SB comes over, make sure you are found casually melting wax whilst wearing a lovely floaty summer top that just gives a hint of boob and as he comes in, flick your own voluminous hair aside to reveal a lick of the old lipgloss and a good old fashioned come hither smile :) He'll be melting faster than your candles...

LOL re hint of boob and lipgloss ,need to do a rapid summer clothes bargain shop 5 outfits for a £5 er kinda thing ,or i might miss summer altogether here ,but yep looking forward to it .
Waves to MF .
Re dds ,
after reading homecoming and how he is right into allowing kids to FEEL their emotions and not shame them for feeling mad,sad etc i am now trying to see dds behaviour as spirited
Detatchment is required at a saint like level ,so im still working on that but sending her positive vibes now thru her rages of injustice.I dont try and reason with her ,at a moment of calm i might ask what has made her sad .
still telling her" great job calming down "at the end of it all........
Interesting my S has a boy and a girl and its the other way round ,ds hates injustice,very "spirited" and dd rolls with it .

Yay to big hair Goo - pics please! :)

And liking the advice to Patience

And good for working longer Patience and hope you get result of SB visit soon.

Well lovely day here -but not happy frame of mind. Wondering what H will do next - will be fulled by anger so wont be good I think. Feeling sad overall because of his total unreasonableness

Tired and bit cranky with kids last couple days - hope better today.

But off for picnic in the sun so hope it will make everything better

And have had trampoline delivered so hope can get sorted for kids soon.

Been back to wondering last few days why is my life like this -looking at other women and thinking why did my H have to be like he is? Backward steps so hope can move forward soon!

I have the belief I was on the wrong path mf and I had to change route ,would have been great if X had grown with me but he chose not to .I'm fine kids will be fine .
Don't know about X but honestly couldnt care less ,hope u get this resolved Mf and u have peace.
Trampoline is fab news,think it is wonderful for dcs development.
Friend also single mum coming over 2 morrow evening with her kids for the first time .asked her if she could bring an adjustable spanner for the trampoline