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So, this is The Brave Babes Battle Bus.

All are welcome, regardless of your background, stage of sobriety, or anything else.

I'm Mouse and have been here since June 2010, and in control of my drinking since August 2nd 2010.

You will find unconditional support here. Always.

Whatever you feel about drinking (or not), we've been in your shoes. Some more than once.

So, come say hi, come grab a seat. There is always an open door and a warm welcome on this Bus.

Stop rubbing it in venus

Zany - back to normal now.

I was the same Venus took me ages to work it out.

Glad to hear your OK Mouse, by normal I hope that means looking up your nearest Spa.

KIds with their Dad - tick
Swim - tick
eyeing up men in hot tub - tick (in a purely superficial way)
dog walk - coming up

Hey babes

Still lurking - got a surprise party for my Mum's 75th tomorrow - my sister's idea but somehow I get lumbered with the catering - - sister says "but i've got to clean my house"....

so

cooking

cooking

cooking

xxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Glad you are OK Mouse

Love to the rest of you gorgeous babes xxx

Hope to see whitewinewitch over here soon. Welcome!

Hi silver

Do I need to move up venus?

WWW - welcome when you get here.

hello babes - WWW is posting on an old thread, i hae directed her over here, could someone nip over and make a link thing please?, she may find us a bit easier with one!

(yes!, i know i should work out how to do them, i just think my brain is about to go into overload atm though! )

evening all!

I had my firsst real struggle tonight, I was a hairs breadth from the "fuck it" moment.

I've really argued the case to myself as well...

I can have just one, I'm wound up and I want to relax, it's the weekend, it'll ease my headache, I can start again tomorrow, etc etc

It's actually left me feeling a bit wiped out. And, cross!! Cross because I can't have a drink. I might not have succumbed - but if a fiend had turned up tonight with a bottle, I'm positive that wouldn't have been the case

Everyone's socialising this weekend,I feel jealous that I can't,and I feel boring because I can't

Hi everyone,
In a terrible state about SW and trying to kick out the self-pity from taking up its usual place amongst the upset and anger. I've had real serenity about it this week and prayed for the SW that has been persistently lying to me, and kept just changing the things I can and letting go of the things I can, but have had 2 painful conversations with him, and 2 difficult conversations with my aunt, and I am just really broken now.
But, I am not drinking, there's none in the house, and there won't be. I am going to keep on doing the next right thing, as I have done all week, and neither worrying or even wasting a minute of energy on what other people are doing or saying. God this hurts.
Sorry for being self absorbed. I hope those that are going out have lovely evenings. I am so pleased to see the blessings that you are getting, and it really encourages me that my sobriety is the most precious thing I own.

qo I understand the feeling angry because you can't drink. Irrationally, its a resentment that you can't have something that you want, even though that something isn't doing you any good!
noteven not sure what a SW is but its obviously causing you grief. Well done on staying strong.
silver good to see you
mouse feeling better now?

Super thanks lovely Ma

Thurso - OMG I sympathise with the bloody marital duties stuff. It is hard to fake it until you make it, when you just want it to stop and for him to leave you alone.
It's easier when you've been drinking - say no more!

qo and noteven

How are you both feeling now? Have you managed to not drink?

noteven - you need to stay sober for your DD. REMEMBER THAT. She needs you, and you need her. Stay strong, stay with her and let her love you.

Please don't pick up. Look at the mess I got into lasy night. It's not worth it, I promise.

You'll hate yourself tomorrow. Go to bed, hot drink, PJs, book, bed.

That goes for you too qo.

Why undo all of your hard work? Why? Days and days of feeling better, cured, brighter.

It's.

Not.

Worth.

It.

Ever.

Bloody BOLD

I typed this - qo and noteven but without the big spaces.

WTF???

I'm going to have to tell Tech off at this rate

dementedma I know just how that feels - was like that with my ex

noteven well done you for sticking to it and staying sober in the face of a shitty set of circumstances. Are you OK? Is your dd still with you? Terrible thing is the SW has been lying to you - but you are doing the best thing and staying in control of what you can control.

Do you keep any kind of journal? If you write down things like the days when you had a drink, and importantly the days when you didn't then you have a record of it all that you know is right. You could also write down the AA meetings you are going to - and any other support you are getting. You could write down what the SW says to you - or even ask him to write down important things for you - so everyone is clear about what has been said. Do you think that would help in any way? Take care honey, and keep doing the things that you know work for you.

Hi mouse - that bold thing seems to have been happening all over mn. I think they must have changed something so you can bold whole phrases but it seems to pick up on the asterix from other parts of the sentence too.

Glad you're feeling a bit better. It really isn't worth the hassle is it?

Well that didn't work random bold - effect!

Nope, it REALLY isn't venus, not at all. xx

Anyway, off to bed. Hope whitewinewitch finds us. x

No, Mouse I didn't drink, and wasn't going to. And just for today I won't either. A journal is a good idea venus and might take some of the anger out by making me be factual and show how very few days since November I have had a drink.

I am going to keep doing what I have been doing - focus on what I can change and what I need to do and let everyone else worry about themselves, because I can't do anything about it.

Any plans for today everyone? I am so grateful to be sober this weekend.

I didn't drink either, I went to bed and fell asleep almost right away!

Hi noteven - I have at last got a quiet weekend - I think it's the first one since Christmas that I'm not busy. So today, some lazy food shopping (rather than a dash in and dash around) and I think I may do some baking. One of my Christmas presents was a subscription to a food magazine, the next edition arrived this week, so there's lots of insipation for lovely tasty, healthy cakes. Looking out of my window I see that the weather is not too bad, so I will see if I can persuade dp to go on a nice walk i.e. nothing too strenuous or hilly, but some nice fresh air and gentle conversation. Tomorrow I am planning a lovely breakfast, then a visit to my Mum for a cup of tea and a chat. She has a progressive disability and gets so frustrated - yet remains fiercely independent.

Oh, and today, I will not be drinking

Well done qo - you know that you will be able to socialise, it's just that the kind of socialising that you will enjoy and appreciate will not include chucking a load of booze down your throat. I think all of us on here have different ways in which we deal with partying, so however you want to approach it there'll be someone around who can help.

morning!!

qo!, i love my social life!, im a real party person, love getting dressed up, love any occasion for meeting up with friends, i even enjoy 'business' social functions - i would be very very unhappy if i thought i had to curb my social butterfly-ness - i do ALL the things i used to do, i just do them sober - i did find it VERY hard at first, i think my being totally honest with my friends was the best thing i could have done, without execption i have been encourged and cheered on by them, in fact im to say that quite a few of my girlfriends have cut down dramatically too!, they all say they like the change they have seen in me and want some for themselves! the longer im sober, the easier it becomes - we are going to a dinner party this evening, i shall be driving, i know my hostess will have found some lovley mocktail and other juciy drinks for me, i know i will chat, have a good meal, laugh till my tummy hurts, then drive me and dh through the dark small hours and then be capable of taking my make-up off and hanging my dress up before i get into bed!, believe me, its a far cry from the usual mess i could get into after a dinner party!

i used to feel really quite angry that i couldnt have a drink, i have had several tantrums over it, but when the urge subsides and you can think rationally about it, what are getting angry about?, the fact that we cant pickle our livers anymore?, that we cant upset the people we love anymore?, that we cant make a total tit of ourselves anymore?, i like being sober, i like the feeling of health and peace, im not prepared to give that up for the sake of a glass of liquid that will poison everything around me, so

TODAY I WILL NOT BE DRINKING!

enjoy your cooking day venus!, sounds lovley!

oh!, i have just thought of one occasion i passed over!, a trip to a beer festival!, i thought it would be a bit pointless!