The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Carry On Into Spring - BOING!!

[Mouseface]

Previous Thread

The One Before

And All Others Before That

So, this is The Brave Babes Battle Bus.

All are welcome, regardless of your background, stage of sobriety, or anything else.

I'm Mouse and have been here since June 2010, and in control of my drinking since August 2nd 2010.

You will find unconditional support here. Always.

Whatever you feel about drinking (or not), we've been in your shoes. Some more than once.

So, come say hi, come grab a seat. There is always an open door and a warm welcome on this Bus.

Phew, that's better

I've just had a massive tuna sandwich, cheese and onion crisps, and sat in the sun, reading a chapter of a rubbish (actually great, but not worthy!) book, bliss!.

Mouse I'm going to be a bit serious
You know what I do, and can I just tell you that I have seen more than one person, or family, go right under with the strain of dealing with a poorly child day to day, no matter how much they love them.
I often think of you and Nemo as I do my "stuff", and you know, you are wonderful. I know you love him, and would go to the end of the universe and back for him, as we all would for our children, but you do it, every minute, every day, every week, month in, month out.
You keep the day (and nights going), you keep the hope going, you keep the practical (medical or not) and emotional help in place.
I know your DH is a rock, and DD is lovely, but you have a lot on your shoulders. One night, Pah, you rock, lovely .

i said it first!!
Thurso great psot - expresses what we all think of Mouse.

post, even

I prefer psot ma it made me laugh

How are things with DH ma?
We are still a bit like housemates, althouh DH is trying (very ), and keeps trying to snog me in the kitchen during the evening , methinks it will take a bit more than that though!

"We" as in me and my DH, not yours!

You can snog mine if you want Thurso - i don't really want to.
Same as yours really - trying hard after the last "conversation" but it feels a wee bit false, as if we are both trying for the sake of it. Still, better than ignoring each other I suppose

Thank you so much thurso, your post has made me lots!!

Right, spa day...... we should have a Bus spa trip. Hell we all know that we need it! Then at least we'll all be in the same place, given that we all live across the UK!

I'm thinking of asking my friend to come, she's having treatment for cancer and starts her chemo soon. Might be just what she needs.

Ma and thurso - yes, how are the men in your lives?

Zany - how is the new man?

What is going on with the bold at the minute?

Snap ma, don't really want to snog mine either! I feel exactly the same as you, as in trying for the sake of it, but maybe we can get past this. I heard someone on TV the other day say "fake it, till you make it", I can't remember what context it was in, but rather than throw everything up in the air, I'm going to (try to) appreciate his efforts, and move on from there. Still don't feel like doing the sqelchy sex thing marital business though!

Definately book a Spa day with your friend Mouse a friend of mine swears by Groupon vouchers to get a good deal.

New man is good thanks. Out for dinner tonight, my DD daughter has told me that if he was a little boy then he would be her girlfriend! And yes it look as though I have introduced him quickly after only a few weeks but I woulsn't have done it if I wasn't so sure about things. He is the only guy I have introuced them to apart from XP who I was with for 3 years. Without gushing he just seems so lovely, kind, easy to talk to (he volunteers for the Samaritans and I can see why after being with him for a while). Anyway back to being my cool and controlled self.

It sounds old fashioned I guess Ma but the 'fake it till you make it' can work. I used to get in a bit of a rut with XH and whenever I tried to appreciate him more and tell him so and be more affectionate when I wasn't 100% feeling like it then things were better. Not going to the extent of suggesting lying there and thinking of England but you know what I mean

I'm going to Zany

Have a lovely date!

Right. I've run out of time on the cleaning but it does look nice. Now off to buy smelly candles (because I deserve it)

Mwah

Yankee Candles are my fave. Clean Linen, ahhhhh. Makes me a happy mouse.

I'm just back from a work meeting, and you lot have made me laugh , and I now have Hotel California playing in the background. I've been having a very nostalgic time recently - a punk band from my youth have resurfaced, they are fantastic musicians (got rave reviews on Old Grey Whistle Test) and one of them used to be my boyfriend. I'm not at all sure it is good for me to be meandering around in the stuff of old emotions (first love / lost youth and all that stuff) terrible heady mixture and best left well alone.

mouse yes, you're a daft old bugger, but you're also coping with a huge amount. One thing I've learnt recently is that not only does not drinking not solve my problems, but mostly it doesn't solve anyone else's problems either. When I lived in my alcoholic bubble I could easily ignore how my dp was feeling (in fact my main concern was whether he'd spot how much I'd been drinking). Now I can't be immune from that. But neither can I solve it. So the best thing IS to keep myself well and sober, and to be there when I can (former love-life distractions permitting).

And fwiw I agree with the 'fake it till you make it approach' for temporary lulls in relationship zing. I genuinely find that if I focus on all the good things that dp is and does, and if I concentrate on finding ways to delight him, then I feel more loving towards him in my heart, and it seems to bring out the best in both of us [love heart emoticon] & .

[big caveat - this is an approach never to be adopted in an abusive/destructive relationship - been there, done that - doesn't work and wrecks your self esteem]

Ooooh Venus, yes dangerous ground, the first love/lost youth thinking.
I had a boyfriend, long ago who I was so totally in love with, that I had "doormat" tattooed across my forehead, and he really made use of it, and when he finished with me I would still have had him back under any circs . I still don't wish him well! Me, bear a grudge , time to move on, maybe .

We are going to see a concert tonight, and DP is coming home early so that we can go out for early eats first. I have poured myself myself big fizzy lemon and lime while I get ready, and hope that it staves off the "whoo, hoo Friday night and I'm going out, must have wine" feeling.

I meant DH, I haven't got a DH and a DP!

now there's a thought.

thurso

venus - I know, just one of those straw that broke the Mouse's back nights, you know?

thurso - have a wonderful time. Take the pressure off, go back to basics, smile, have fun, get your slap on, just be YOU xx

Thanks Mouse, just going up to change and put slap on now. Maybe speak later, we shouldn't be too late home.

Have good evenings everyone. xxx

Thought I had missed a few threads then Thurso a DH and a DP Have a good night.

How are you feeling now Mouse

I'm off for a swim and then taking the will she ever calm down down out to get rid of some energy

I meant to say take the dog out

ha thurso, I remember a while ago when JWN was referring to seeing her best friend (bf) and I thought and dh AND a bf, she's got an interesting complicated life . Have a good night out. We went to see a film last night, came home and had a nice cup of tea. Made me feel like an old fuddy-duddy, but felt great this morning.