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The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Carry On Into Spring - BOING!!

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Mouseface · 01/03/2011 22:26

Previous Thread

The One Before

And All Others Before That

So, this is The Brave Babes Battle Bus.

All are welcome, regardless of your background, stage of sobriety, or anything else. Smile

I'm Mouse and have been here since June 2010, and in control of my drinking since August 2nd 2010.

You will find unconditional support here. Always.

Whatever you feel about drinking (or not), we've been in your shoes. Some more than once.

So, come say hi, come grab a seat. There is always an open door and a warm welcome on this Bus.

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Rubyredlips · 04/03/2011 10:34

Hi Ma. How you doing?

Mouseface · 04/03/2011 10:43

Grin Yes, Ruby, you are. But you are my geek xx

I'm okay, really. Just hungover. Bacon sarnie and a mug of tea to start the day. Smile

My friend has told me it's a new moon tonight. What better time to start a list? I'm going to have a nice warm bath once the boiler (yes, the 4 weeks old boiler) is fixed, with a glass of N&T and do my list.

I need to empty my head, get it all out and then talk to DH.

He's so low and fed up, I think in a way I've let him bring me down. Not his fault but I kind of feel like I have enough to cope with, let alone his troubles but that makes me feel bad.

Selfish even. But last night proved my point. I can't let him or life bring me down. I should worry about things I can control and change, not things I can't.

So at 9.03am, I called the heating company nad told them if they didn't come to fix the boiler today, they'd find a family of four in their offices, asking to use the facilities and to keep warm Grin

Engineer will be here after lunch.

Then I cancelled appts that I've ignored for weeks, ordered an on-line shop, done two loads of waashng and lit the wood burner.

Sleep deprivation is a big factor with me and I guess because Nemo has actually been sleeping, I let my guard down.

It's just one thing after another, you know? We've all been here. I thought I was safe. I thought that the Bus door was locked so I couldn't fall out.

You are all bloody brilliant and help me so much xxxx

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dementedma · 04/03/2011 10:52

hey Ruby - I'm feeling good today, apart from a minor panic attack when I checked the bank account Shock
mouse I understand about DH bringing you down and it is NOT selfish to need to look after yourself sometimes. I've learned that one the hard way!
You have such a heavy workload, it's no wonder you cracked a little, for a while.
good on you for getting organised today though - that hangover's gotta hurt!

dementedma · 04/03/2011 10:53

and...we can't lock the Bus door stoopid. how would new Babes get in? Grin
If you fall out, you can always get back in again. it's like that line in "Hotel California"...you can check out but you can never leave...

Rubyredlips · 04/03/2011 10:56

Hi Mouse Geek here Smile

You've achieved loads today Smile and frightened the engineer into coming round Wink.

We do have to be selfish, I've realised that. We have to look after ourselves and keep us strong to cope with life's ups and downs.

Bath and list sounds like a great plan and to talk to DH tonight. You can't control everything and some things you have to let go.

Sermon over Grin You know I'm just trying to help.

Hope the bacon sarnie's good? Do you happen to have an egg and veggie sausage going spare? Wink

Rubyredlips · 04/03/2011 10:58

No, we can't lock the door but we need to remember to keep our seatbelts on and stop running up and down the bus Wink

Right, off to do the cleaning, otherwise I'm gonna be sat here all day. Which would be nice but not good for my mental health Smile

Mouseface · 04/03/2011 11:13
Smile

Bacon was awesome, and the mug of piping hot tea was just what I needed.

Pint of water number 2.

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Mouseface · 04/03/2011 11:14
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Mouseface · 04/03/2011 11:15
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jesuswhatnext · 04/03/2011 11:22

i used to love that song! Grin

aw mouse, you big old dafty!, it will all work out in the end!

be nice to you! XXXXXXXXXXXXX

dementedma · 04/03/2011 11:23

Grin attagirl!

Mouseface · 04/03/2011 11:37

I still love that song.... awesome guitar!

Right, I have had a word with myself and I'm chalking that one down as a 'Daft Old Bugger' Or DOB night.

So, TODAY I WILL NOT BE DRINKING!

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Rubyredlips · 04/03/2011 11:41

erm...am I supposed to know that song?

jesuswhatnext · 04/03/2011 12:03

no ruby! Grin, tis an ancient song sung by very old duffers!

thursomuchtolookforwardto · 04/03/2011 12:03

how old are you, Ruby Grin.
Just back, off to change into something slobby, then back.
Assignment handed in, going to have a break Grin

Rubyredlips · 04/03/2011 12:12

Ah! Hotel California yes my parents love that Wink

Rubyredlips · 04/03/2011 12:13

I'm 40. Twas a joke about parents

Zanywany · 04/03/2011 12:18

Grin at Ruby

Mouse I do think that you need to start doing more thinks to be kind to yourself. You seem to be the sort of person who looks after everyone around you whilst ignoring yourself!, maybe thats why you briefly fell out of the bus. Do you get out on your own much, I find that walking the dog when the DC's are with their Dad is great as it gives you time to think without all the 'chores' on your mind.

Mouseface · 04/03/2011 12:29

Not really Zany

My 'time off' is going to hydro, physio, shopping with DD etc....

Not really 'me' time. DH is very aware of that and got me a voucher for a lush spa near here. I just need to find someone to go with me Grin

Because I'm a carer, I'm at home but most of my friends work or live far away.

Maybe I should just go on my own and please myself?

Wolf is not long off being able to go for walks to I'm looking forward to that.

And yes, you are right, my friend said once that if I was on my death bed and all were around me to say fairwell, I'd still insist on making tea and sandwiches for everyone Grin

Just that way I am, I can't not help/look after people.

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Mouseface · 04/03/2011 12:32

Shock Ruby

And Grin

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Rubyredlips · 04/03/2011 12:42

Have to agree. It's a great song Smile

dementedma · 04/03/2011 12:57

You need someon to go on a spa day with you?
Pick me! Pick me!
I've never been to a spa - the closest I come to that kind of pampering is locking myself in the bathroom, ignoring the piles of abandoned clothes and wet towels,adding a dollop of whatever cheapo bubble bath is lying around and going at the foliage with a razor Grin
Or a Lush bathbomb and a buffybar if it's Christmas!

Zanywany · 04/03/2011 13:03

Spa Spa Spa

Rubyredlips · 04/03/2011 13:04

Me, Me, Me

Zanywany · 04/03/2011 13:18
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