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I found some porn in my bathroom

1002 replies

Stupiditysquared · 19/02/2011 12:58

.. and asked the DCs if they'd downloaded it.

This was a pretty stupid thing to do. Nuclear war has erupted. The trouble was that in 18 years of marriage, DH has never used porn (so far as I am aware). He never normally goes into that bathroom, whereas the DCs do. Also I did not know that he'd been at home. It never occurred to me that it was him.

Now DD is screaming at her father that he is a filthy pervert. He's screaming at me for being stupid, which in fairness it was. And I'm in shock really.

What next

OP posts:
PeterAndreForPM · 19/02/2011 22:14

squeaky...do soft-porn photographers have any capacity for irony ?

at all ?

caffelatte · 19/02/2011 22:14

Do you really photograph porn Squeaky? Is it as awful and exploitative and sleazy as everyone says?

squeakytoy · 19/02/2011 22:14

I said glamour photographer.. not soft porn.. there is a difference.

elizadoestoomuch · 19/02/2011 22:14

Surely in an ideal world the only porn available would be of men and women enjoying themselves (of their own free will) in front of the camera and making a few quid on the side.
Until that happens we absolutely have to talk to and educate our children what exactly goes on in the porn industry.
Sorry too much Wine I know the point I'm trying to make!

caffelatte · 19/02/2011 22:16

Eliza do you really think you can 'teach' people what viewpoint to take on things? Do you not respect that everyone has and will have their own?

PeterAndreForPM · 19/02/2011 22:16

how funny that squeaky has suddenly revealed his/her investment in this thread, when challenged

in fact, how dodgy

squeakytoy · 19/02/2011 22:17

Not always Caffelatte, that is just a misconception that ALL porn is dirty and forced on women. It really isnt.

If this had been about child porn, my view would have been completely different on the subject. But adult porn is legal, and does not make the viewer a pervert.

PeterAndreForPM · 19/02/2011 22:18

leaving it around for children to find, in their territory does though

caffelatte · 19/02/2011 22:18

Sorry Peter Andre .... I can see you're making a point there but could you clarify it for the slightly slow amongst us? And surely Squeaky is a 'he' wouldn't you say?

squeakytoy · 19/02/2011 22:19

Why is it dodgy Peter. I saw no need to explain my profession earlier in the thread, just my opinions from a personal point of view.

I am female btw. Very female.. lol!.

caffelatte · 19/02/2011 22:19

Have we not already established that it was left there out of nothing but intense stupidity? Or are you now insinuating that he left it there with nefarious purposes in mind?

RailwayChild · 19/02/2011 22:20

Porn is going nowhere any time soon and the sooner you get a grip of that the easier your little minds will be.
Missing the point caffe. It's not about a world view of porn. It's about forcing exposue on people who don't wish to be exposed. The wife and children. It is probably accidental and I'm sure he's cussing but at the beginning of the thread we had a wife feeling guilty and blaming the DC and then trying to dismiss their feelings about it.

squeakytoy · 19/02/2011 22:21

We are going round in circles here. He did not purposely leave it around for anyone to find, or there is certainly no proof of that, so why assume he did.

My stepson once left a blue movie in the dvd player. I am damn sure he didnt mean to do that. But it happened. I didnt call him a pervert. I just laughed and said "keep it in your own room".

PeterAndreForPM · 19/02/2011 22:21

"very" female...lol

..what does that mean ?

I see your agenda now, squeaky

you have defended the bloke here

you have denied someone else's very real experience of finding a "porn den"

dodgy ? yes

WhenwillIfeelnormal · 19/02/2011 22:22

Well I didn't assume Squeaky was a man, but then again I'm a feminist......

RailwayChild · 19/02/2011 22:22

We haven't established that caffe ...no

PeterAndreForPM · 19/02/2011 22:22

how old was your stepson ?

BeerTricksPotter · 19/02/2011 22:23

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elizadoestoomuch · 19/02/2011 22:23

caffelatte No of course not. Yes I do respect that people have their own view on things. I am only thinking about what the OP has said which is clearly trafficked girls Which her DH is wanking off to in his childrens bathroom.

PeterAndreForPM · 19/02/2011 22:24

cafe

please keep up with the thread

the OP herself has already come back to say she isn't sure that he didn't leave it lying around to make a point about something

she just doesn't know exactly what that point is, yet

dittany · 19/02/2011 22:24

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Message withdrawn at poster's request.

RailwayChild · 19/02/2011 22:25

I knew squeaky was a woman
Porn was not the issue
The issue for me is that the DC would not wish to find it in their bathroom

Nor the DW.

The fact that it was left in a room that the DH doesn't use and the DC do........by the DH is a bit odd tbh and so i think it has raised questions.

It then became polarised into pro porn and anti porn.

I think you need to separate your personal view of porn from the activity to see the other issues

malinkey · 19/02/2011 22:25

OP - does your H behave to you in other ways that would make you think he is territorial or is there a reason that you think he might have left these pictures for you to find?

PeterAndreForPM · 19/02/2011 22:25

precisely

anybody that thinks that is ok, or tries to minimise it, has their own agenda

PeterAndreForPM · 19/02/2011 22:27

bloody hell, fast moving thread

my response was to dittany

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