I found some porn in my bathroom

[Stupiditysquared]

.. and asked the DCs if they'd downloaded it.

This was a pretty stupid thing to do. Nuclear war has erupted. The trouble was that in 18 years of marriage, DH has never used porn (so far as I am aware). He never normally goes into that bathroom, whereas the DCs do. Also I did not know that he'd been at home. It never occurred to me that it was him.

Now DD is screaming at her father that he is a filthy pervert. He's screaming at me for being stupid, which in fairness it was. And I'm in shock really.

What next

Best wishes in getting it all sorted out. PM back if you want to chat - if not, take care x

andwell, are you basing the idea that Dittany "knows nothing about relationships" on the fact that she doesn't agree with you ?

that's a bit silly, isn't it ?

SS I am sorry your thread ended up like this and for my own part in that. Have you considered getting shut of it ? I would.

Expecting him to refrain from using porn in the family home equates to his feelings counting for nothing? Really?

Bullshit. Someone's wank fodder of choice does not equal 'their feelings'.

Ok I'm quite willing to listen to Dittany and her views on relationships. Off you go then.

Andwell, what on earth have your posts to do with this thread? It just sounds like you have some personal nitpicking you fancy doing. This isn't the place. The op has asked people to let it lie.

SS - for all of the posts that have helped you, thank God.

For all the pastry throwing, sorry you had to read it.

Agree with the last few posts - ask for this to be deleted.

Maybe think about deleting your SS name too.

Night OP x

Night OP - get some sleep! And please please don't blame yourself in any of this. x

What a laugh...

Bloke has a wank over some porn printed off from a computer and all hell breaks loose (fair enough, he left it there, but that was a mistake)

Meanwhile, the current top topic is a mumsnetter starting a thread all excited about her new sex toy, with everybody egging her on!

I hope everyone gives her the link to the local childline centre and reminds her what a pervert she is.

Fair enough, this episode has children involved, and the DH should take responsibility for his mistakes, but I think the whole thing has got blown out of all proportion.

OP, I hope you can find a way forward in all this, and I hope your DD and DS are going to be okay.

I am UTTERLY DISGUSTED with some of the MNers on this thread, the porn apologists, the ones blaming the OP, the ones blaming the DD (WTF?!) and especially ALouiseG. Tweeting? Really??? How vile. How low.

This has really opened my eyes to how many otherwise 'normal', 'nice' MNers think that porn is okay, no big deal, what's the fuss. It's heartbreaking, tbh.

I despair.

OP, please do NOT let your H blame you for this, please do not let your DD down when she needs your support and help. Good luck.

Do you honestly not realise that threads get tweeted all the time, daily!

I told you I tweeted it to get some less biased perspective.

Anything that is posted on here is in the public domain.

Nope, still vile. Can't excuse yourself with that one.

Not excusing it!!! I wouldn't have come back and told you if I wanted to keep it quiet.

Might even be in the daily mail tomorrow, with or without me.

Mmm. You must be so proud.

blardy nora

have a sleep on it and it will all seem much easier to deal with

then address the points one by one

apologies will need to be made to those accused who are without wrong doing
decisions will have to be made over the way that you all conduct yourselves in an adult household

this is an open internet forum anyone can see your messages
i hope that things settle down quickly

Alouiseg

Might even be in the daily mail tomorrow, with or without me.

We'll never know if it would have hit without you but believe me darlin you will get the blame if it does.

Alouiseg btw I noticed from your tweets you think this is a troll thread in that case you are meant to report it to mnhq not the world.

'it's not just feminists, militant or otherwise, who think that porn degrades and harms women'

That's quite a misleading statement as many feminists are not anti porn. I know you are never interested in hearing the other side to the argument Dittany, but incase you are please check out feminists against censorship.

Lol at twitter horror. " how vile how low".

You lot are taking the piss non?

It's the Internet you nobs!! All of twitter talking about it.

What I find most interesting is that people who are pretty okay with porn have no line besides what's legal.

Lots of things are legal....barely legal, group, gay, simulated rape, virgin, etc etc. I know if I found DH looking at porn I'd be rather upset, but simulated rape, gay, double/triple penetration I think we'd divorce.