I found some porn in my bathroom

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.. and asked the DCs if they'd downloaded it.

This was a pretty stupid thing to do. Nuclear war has erupted. The trouble was that in 18 years of marriage, DH has never used porn (so far as I am aware). He never normally goes into that bathroom, whereas the DCs do. Also I did not know that he'd been at home. It never occurred to me that it was him.

Now DD is screaming at her father that he is a filthy pervert. He's screaming at me for being stupid, which in fairness it was. And I'm in shock really.

What next

"He just said he fancied a change of bathroom."

Hello OP

I have finally caught up and read all of this thread.

The one thing I can't get past is that he used the family bathroom because of the above quote, and not your ensuite or indeed your own bedroom.

I'm so sorry that you have had some really shitty reponses from people on here.

I do, however, feel there may be more to this.

Why did he print the porn out, when he's never done so before, knowing you'd find it offensive?

Why (oh why) did he use the family/the bathroom that DD uses? I just can't buy his response.

Why did he leave it there? Was he caught out? Did someone return home?

How is DD today?

I'm sorry if you have posted all that I've asked already.

I just get a feeling that there is more to his sudden change in his behaviour (printing out porn and hiding the fact from you) than meets the eye.

What do you think?

I assumed he printed it out rather than take his laptop into the bathroom and that he hid it because he knows the OP wouldn't be happy with him for using porn. I'm not sure the change of bathroom was explained though unless I missed it.

Erm, yes, thanks worral, I 'got' that bit.

After all, trying to balance a laptop on the edge of the bath or with one hand is a bit of a nightmare.

Yes I changed my mind. I'd quite like to see how the OPs situation pans out.

That's what I was thinking Mouseface lol

Not to mention dangerous mouseface. That said some are into that.

I still can't believe some in here are finding the dd's reaction at fault here. How warped can you get on a parenting site too. Scary.

Creepy man.

OP, so sorry this has happened to you and your children.

We have a family bathroom and an en suite. The en suite is mine though DH is free to use it if he wants but prefers the other shower. Nothing at all territorial about it.

Your DH obviously level the porn in the bathroom but saying he left it for his kids to find implies it was a conscious decision. Do you seriously think he though will leave this and hope the kids find it?

Dittany - you do go on (and on and on and on). Not all of us agree that porn is 'abuse', your opinion is not the only one. There are plenty of other threads that debate that particular point - why do you have to try to take over every thread (where porn is mentioned) and turn it into 'Dittany's tirade against porn'? Why can't you ever just let the OP's thread be about what the OP wants it to be about?

Some people have nothing better to do than obsess on one subject....tedious and boring!!!

yawns

She wants it to be about the fact she has political objections to porn, which her Dh has ignored. Then the fact he left it in the dcs bathroom which they could have found.

It's not the thread for porn users justifying his actions, that's just fucked up really. HTH.

plastic....dittany doesn't obsess on porn......she offers a wide plethora of knowledge on feminist issues, usually backed up with a wealth of research and reading on whichever topic.

Well said emmy.

Does that make her opinion valued or correct?

Such a potty mouth for someone with such high brow views on 'nasty' porn!

plastic....I think both. The trouble with people that deny that porn is bad, bad for the soul, bad for the user, bad for the pornstar, bad for women in general...is that it's based on assumptions...woman enjoying it on camera and therefore has no wider social implication. If you read the arguments against it they're pretty hard to deny. Even Jenna Jameson says some god awful things about being a pornstar and she's made a fortune and would have told you during the height of her career that hse loved it.