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I found some porn in my bathroom

1002 replies

Stupiditysquared · 19/02/2011 12:58

.. and asked the DCs if they'd downloaded it.

This was a pretty stupid thing to do. Nuclear war has erupted. The trouble was that in 18 years of marriage, DH has never used porn (so far as I am aware). He never normally goes into that bathroom, whereas the DCs do. Also I did not know that he'd been at home. It never occurred to me that it was him.

Now DD is screaming at her father that he is a filthy pervert. He's screaming at me for being stupid, which in fairness it was. And I'm in shock really.

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LoopyLoopsHulaHoops · 19/02/2011 23:19

(Another) Excellent post emmy.

janiesmum · 19/02/2011 23:19

its not a big deal

stop being so over dramatic

a few mucky pics, who hasnt had a look and a fumble ffs

squeakytoy · 19/02/2011 23:20

ohhh ffs... now we have someone suggesting that this is sexual abuse...

LoopyLoopsHulaHoops · 19/02/2011 23:20

I haven't. I sure as hell hadn't when I was a child, and if DH did and exposed my children to it he would be out on his ear.

PeterAndreForPM · 19/02/2011 23:22

you only just realised, squeaky ?

LoopyLoopsHulaHoops · 19/02/2011 23:22

The thing is Squeaky, it could be.

In this case, it is likely to be an honest (stupid, yet honest) mistake.

However, if you were to deliberately expose children to hardcore porn, it certainly would be sexual abuse. Can you not see that?

RumourOfAHurricane · 19/02/2011 23:24

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emmyloopsyloo · 19/02/2011 23:24

If they had of found the sexual material in their bathroom, then yes it would have been sexual abuse. You should look it up toy.

Sexual abuse is not just touching you know. As it happens the op got it thank fuck. The dd feels like shit, I'm not suprised.

Exposing a minor to sexually explicit images is abuse. So if you think it's normal, I suggest you hide your stash so your kids don't find it and go blabbing at school.

I am amazed at how many people still think sexual abuse is being physically touched by the teacher at school.

PeterAndreForPM · 19/02/2011 23:25

showing children pictures of spitroasting is abusive by definition

look up the definition of sexual abuse

now on this thread, we are being led to believe it was accidental

a mistake

an unfortunate error

a disaster averted by good luck

let's go with that, shall we, or it makes this thread a very sinister one

emmyloopsyloo · 19/02/2011 23:26

Yes indeedydo. Peter.

squeakytoy · 19/02/2011 23:27

yes, if you were deliberately exposing children to hardcore porn, it would be sexual abuse..

accidently letting a teenager be at risk of seeing it (she didnt actually see it remember).. is not..

and by 14, I had certainly seen porn mags that had been left lying around the school playing fields..

as teens we all rushed to the cinema to see Blue Lagoon thinking we were going to watch something really naughty..

emmyloopsyloo · 19/02/2011 23:28

Without sounding patronising toy, I don't think you have fully read, or understood anyones posts.

Nevermind!

LoopyLoopsHulaHoops · 19/02/2011 23:28

Then you were a different kind of teen to me sqeuaky, and OP's DD to by the sounds of it.

PeterAndreForPM · 19/02/2011 23:29

you are apologising for porn again, squeaky

it's a bad habit you have fallen into

just because you saw it at 14 doesn't make it ok

emmyloopsyloo · 19/02/2011 23:33

Cat got your tongue dozybint?

dittany · 19/02/2011 23:34

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plasticgeordieman · 19/02/2011 23:35

Your right hand busy dozybiatch [wink}

squeakytoy · 19/02/2011 23:36

no dittany, the porn wasnt rape, it was group sex, lets be factual, not start trying to bring more issues into this.

PeterAndreForPM · 19/02/2011 23:36

DB is all over the boards tonight
except she can't type anything Hmm

PeterAndreForPM · 19/02/2011 23:38

yes, squeaky, and group sex visuals are totally appropriate for underage children

yup

dittany · 19/02/2011 23:39

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Andwellwasi · 19/02/2011 23:40

How did she know she was trafficked?

plasticgeordieman · 19/02/2011 23:42

How in Christ's name can you tell if a person has been trafficked from a pic! That's just ludicrous!!

PeterAndreForPM · 19/02/2011 23:43

do one, will you, dozybitch Hmm

andwell,,,OP didn't know the woman in the pic was trafficked but it was a pretty good guess

why ?

do you think it makes any difference at all that underage children were potentially exposed to it ?

WhenwillIfeelnormal · 19/02/2011 23:45

Reminiscing about the porn we saw in our teenaged years is spectacularly missing the point. I've no idea how old you are Squeaky but the magazine porn I saw as a teenager didn't even show penetrative sex.

The porn these DCs could have come across would have depicted a woman being doubly penetrated and the OP has alluded to there being even worse images than this. And had they seen these noxious images, the DCs would have had to process that this wasn't "just porn" - it was their Dad's porn; that their Dad liked looking at these images. That is the point.

I cannot honestly imagine that any of you with children could seriously countenance your DCs seeing these images in the first place and worse still, knowing that their Mum or Dad enjoyed looking at them. If you really wouldn't mind that, then that is seriously fucked up thinking.

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