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Original poster

Laying AnyFucker to rest....

636 replies

AnyFucker · 15/02/2011 09:13

Please forgive this self-indulgent thread, it is only my second in several years, so I am owed one I think Smile

A thread I was on last night made me finally realise that the ridiculously-ballsy caricature of a reputation that goes before
this name was devaluing the message I was trying to convey. It was the gaslighting one, FWIW, but this isn't really about that.

I am not going anywhere, I love MN too much but AF has to go Smile

Just wanted to get it off my chest, and hopefully stop the "where is AF" speculation that sometimes can go along with a prolific poster suddenly stopping posting.

See yas around Smile

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NancyDrewHadaClue · 15/02/2011 11:10

I don't think you are an arsey bitch.

Like I said I think you talk sense.

I was making the point that as an unknown poster I have on several occassions posted very similar views to you only to be dismissed/accused of being a bitch myself.

The default assumption is often that bluntness is nastiness and in some way unecessary.

As AF your views are afforded a certain amount of credence that others are not, because despite the fact that you are blunt your views are generally well respected. In other words you are one of very few people who can get away with saying what people don't want, but really ought to, hear.

IHateLivingHere · 15/02/2011 11:10

Sorry, that should've been Shock See what you made me do?

piratecat · 15/02/2011 11:12

what Tical said !

superv1xen · 15/02/2011 11:13

oh no!!! :(

well i hope that even though the name is changing, your fantastic, no nonsense advice stays.

rubyrubyruby · 15/02/2011 11:15

This reply has been deleted

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

PaulaYatesbiggestfan · 15/02/2011 11:16

You are fab AF but I preferred your other names!

AmazingBouncingFerret · 15/02/2011 11:19

Well I look forward to seeing your new name.

RIP AnyFucker. Not sure if Christmas will feel like christmas without AnyFuckerForAMincePie? Wink

Bucharest · 15/02/2011 11:22

Can't you be like Prince and have a sign so we still know you?

Of course we will still know you anyway, as others have said, whatever the name, you say what needs to be said, and I don't think the name (although I have sometimes changed pages when dd is reading over my shoulder Grin) has devalued the message at all.

purplehatpipeandboots · 15/02/2011 11:22

Change your name all you like, but to 'AnyFucker it' will always be a verb in this household.

MadameOvary · 15/02/2011 11:24

I just read the thread that prompted this.
Fucking hell
Poor woman. She doesn't get it. Sad
Can't say you didn't try.

BettyDouglas · 15/02/2011 11:25

Anyfucker, I think I remember when you took the name?

Was it MB or someone who said I don't recognise anyfucker or know anyfucker and so you namechanged and said you know me?

Or have I imagined that? Grin

WhenwillIfeelnormal · 15/02/2011 11:27

I understand why you've done it. I can't remember a week like it on here, with posters starting threads for advice, receiving it in bucketloads and then becoming rude, arsey and passive-aggressive when that advice doesn't include staying and putting up with even more abuse. I've seen posters in denial - and those who admit they are not strong enough, but I've never seen quite so many bad-mannered, graceless and rude OPs to people whose only crime was that they spent time trying to help them Angry.

Can I suggest that you give it a few days?

It might be the right decision, but as has been pointed out, there are consequences what ever you decide to do. You might lose the credibility conferred by your name and the aforementioned "rude" posters will be more easily able to dismiss your stance, but you might suffer fewer personal attacks by people who completely misunderstand you.

hesterprynne · 15/02/2011 11:28

AnyFucker is dead, long live AnyFucker!

Weird how much this has upset me AF. :(

It's been an age since I've posted anything of worth, and you will have long forgotten me, but you once, in just a few sentences, revealed the root of my marriage's problems.

I'm still trying to follow your advice - not with a great deal of success, has to be said, but that's definitely not your fault.

I will hunt you down, and when I find you, I will get up the courage to post again, cos you won't be AF anymore, and so I can pretend your someone completely new I can bore to death my woes!

See how much you'll regret this decision then :o

Original poster
AnyFucker · 15/02/2011 11:28

thanks all, some nice things being said, hoping the backlash holds off, but it doesn't matter tbh

ABF I think I might wheel AFFAMP out, just for chrimbo, look out for it in Dec 2011 Grin

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BettyDouglas · 15/02/2011 11:28

Just now read the thread and realise you've already confirmed that. It was MB, wasn't it|?

ballstoit · 15/02/2011 11:29

Noooo. You are the only one I remember for good reasons Grin. Who will I say is my favourite mnetter now?

Original poster
AnyFucker · 15/02/2011 11:30

BD the poster was expatinscotland and yes, you are right Smile

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Original poster
AnyFucker · 15/02/2011 11:32

ballstoit you will move on

fickle, is what you are Wink

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BettyDouglas · 15/02/2011 11:32

Oh, It was expat! For some reason I thought it was Martianbishop.

Do you know, I still remember when MB was HMB, before the infamous Tom Cruise thread. I am old and have been here too long.

BettyDouglas · 15/02/2011 11:34

But I still need MN as I'm about to go back to work and didn't have a fecking clue about what you do with school aged children during the holidays!

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AnyFucker · 15/02/2011 11:34

WWIFN, thanks your summary is right I think

pros/cons...it don't matter really

the fact is though, I am feeling a bit burned out but will be back in a few days, after seeing this thread out today Smile

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Original poster
AnyFucker · 15/02/2011 11:35

HP I shall look out for you x

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GwynAndBearIt · 15/02/2011 11:40

AnyFucker - I have often thought of your posts 'oh that's a bit harsh' and then almost immediately 'actually that makes perfect sense/ is excellent advice'

I will miss thinking 'I agree with AnyFucker'

We can play a new game "AnyFucker, is that you?"

hesterprynne · 15/02/2011 11:45

Aaargh. You're not your. I've sullied your thread, sorry

ballstoit · 15/02/2011 11:45

hasterprynne reading AFs posts always reassures me that I did the best thing for my peeps by showing their Dad the door. In real life I dont admit that I still need reassuring.