Laying AnyFucker to rest....

[AnyFucker]

Please forgive this self-indulgent thread, it is only my second in several years, so I am owed one I think

A thread I was on last night made me finally realise that the ridiculously-ballsy caricature of a reputation that goes before
this name was devaluing the message I was trying to convey. It was the gaslighting one, FWIW, but this isn't really about that.

I am not going anywhere, I love MN too much but AF has to go

Just wanted to get it off my chest, and hopefully stop the "where is AF" speculation that sometimes can go along with a prolific poster suddenly stopping posting.

See yas around

if you have rekcuf in the name, people would know it was you?

GAIG...that is my point

That person did try to wind me up based on a ridiculous caricature that was nothing to do with the case in point

other issues aside, the message I had was lost in that, if not for her (thinking lost cause...for now) but for others

I hope Riven has secretly done the same, despite our falling out I know MN was a valuable source of support and feeling human for her....

Ah. I thought this might happen. Fair play to you.

Huge unMN hugs to you lady xx

AF :)

It may be the right thing to do, but i'll never be able to say to myself "Just do what any fucker suggests!" with comic hilarity, ever again. And that is a tragic loss.

You're one of the good ones.

I think you even slapped me once :o

Something tells me you'll be recognised. But I'll duly mourn your passing.

I love pointlessly sweary names, exactly because they are pointless. There is too much squeamishness surrounding swearing imo.

You will be missed AF. As a not-so-frequent-poster-anymore, I like seeing names I recognise. I won't recognise you in your new guise because I never recognise anyone under another name (cod excepted). Can you tell us who you used to be before AF now? It has always intrigued me.

Shame about losing the name but as long as you're still around.
I always like your advice because it's well-written, well presented and you write to inform others about the benefits of being in a relationship where trust, self-respect and respect in general are of premier importance.

Sometimes we need that example.

Better go and burn my WWAFD (What would AnyFucker do) bracelet then I suppose.

i've always thought of your name in the Everywoman sense, right down to the demotic: am actually a bit sad about this. oh well, plus ca change or whatever.

DG, no it was too boring and about 3 years ago now. I also had all the posts deleted (don't ask )

FWIW I don't like the name anyfucker. Although I now appreciate the sentiments behind it, initially I was turned off by the seemingly gratuitous fuck.

But, I love (and I mean absolutely full on snog on the lips love!) yor advice as AF and I don't think your advice is devalued by virtue of your name, although maybe it is in spite of it.

The fact is you give honest, up front, grab by the shoulders and shake advice and many posters especially those in the early stages of whatever trauma they are experiencing just don't want to hear it.

As someone who often shares, and occassionally expresses, the same views as you I can assure you that your advice is given far more credence and respect than many lesser known posters of the same view.

So I take your point but I hope people will come to respect and appreciate your ballsy advice under your new name, rather than dismissing you as an arsey bitch because you are not immediately recognisable.

aww, stripey, don't forget...'tis just words on a screen innit

awww, i like the trepidation when i post, waiting for you to enter the 'room'.

won't you feel weird not being AF?

rather than dismissing you as an arsey bitch because you are not immediately recognisable.

you see, being so recognisable as an arsey bitch has it's downsides

people stop listening

No! i like the name.

But when i saw the title i thought you are leaving so i'm glad its only about the name.

see that's so weird, i think. i would never say you were an arsey bitch, i think of you as someone who presents really well-argued and sensible advice. not arsey at all.

can you be arseybitch then please .

Have no idea what's happened but would just like to say that I've always liked you/your posts and I'm sad that you are changing as I won't know who you are after you've changed, (am crap with recognising) so take care, its been fun. X

i shall look forward to spotting you. it will be fun, esp if you go for the fluffy 'lambofgod' type names for a while.!!

If you read the thread I referred to aitch, you may see what I mean. It doesn't matter anyway. Plus ca change as some wise person just said.

AnyFucker I followed that thread and agreed with your opinion - it wasn't a diversion from the 'ballsy no shit' attitude because all you said was sometimes you have to cut your losses and get out of a situation - that actually takes more balls that staying and trying to play the player, so to speak. Your viewpoint was from experience.

New to all this (only been on here for 3 days on my sisters recommendation) and already I find your input very refreshing. So, name change or not I look forward to your frank and honest advice to others, and maybe for me at some stage :)

Oh FFS. Now I will have to stop saying 'what AF said' and start actually typing proper responses. Thanks a bunch!

[shocked] Noooooooooo! Don't do it - I love looking for your posts because you always say what I think, but am too scared to say!!

Or, if you must change, make it something easily recognisable for your (huge) fan club. Pleeeeeeeeease?

I love AnyFucker as a name, it's hilarious.

I like your posts too anyfucker

When I was having problems with my DH and pussyfooting around him, you told me to force the issue and I asked you how (because I really genuinely didn't know) and you told me in short, sharp, clear sentences. And I followed it exactly, like a recipe! It is a good tool to have in my armoury now - the forcing it one.

Thanks AF