Laying AnyFucker to rest....

[AnyFucker]

Please forgive this self-indulgent thread, it is only my second in several years, so I am owed one I think

A thread I was on last night made me finally realise that the ridiculously-ballsy caricature of a reputation that goes before
this name was devaluing the message I was trying to convey. It was the gaslighting one, FWIW, but this isn't really about that.

I am not going anywhere, I love MN too much but AF has to go

Just wanted to get it off my chest, and hopefully stop the "where is AF" speculation that sometimes can go along with a prolific poster suddenly stopping posting.

See yas around

'Tis the end of an era.

I completely understand and agree that your name is very easy to remember, although the tone of your posts is more identifiable with no nonsense stemming from the content rather than your name. I sometimes think we live up to the caricature we create on here, Posie is a persona to an extent.

I like seeing Anyfucker about. I like the fact that you told HQ you had a right to any name you wanted when the fluffier ones wanted to rid the swearing from nn. Its never the same when well known names dissappear. :(

Don't let the fuckers get you down. What about AnyFuckerListening?

RIP

So....FluffyBunnyWonderKins perhaps(?)

pwg, some one hasn't got to me

a situation did

her name will not grow old as ours do
age will not wither her acerbic threads
At the going down of the sun..

buuuu buuurrrrrr
buuuu buuurrrrrr
buur bur bur ber ber berbereber

etc

Another one here that loves your style AF. I don't see it as blunt in the aggressive sense. You are blunt, but in the way that common sense often is.

No-one likes to see what's staring us in the face and people often try to dress it up as something else etc. You question and dismantle "safe" points of view. You don't bully, you say what YOU would do in that situation. Quite often people get defensive about your POV as I think they haven't worked out yet what they will and won't put up with in a relationship. Nor have they questioned really deeply why they put up with certain stuff. I think quite a few of your critics probably find their mind keep coming back to something you've said as it will have planted a seed for them to question.

The other day on Solo's thread (waves to Solo) someone mentioned how important it is that something is hard won to be really cherished. People don't value things given away freely.

Your advice is along the same lines - no games to be played - merely demanding the respect you deserve in a relationship and keeping your self esteem very much in tact. All as important whether in a relationship or not.

Challenging POVs in relationships is the only way they grow. When I was younger I used to listen to ladies 15/20 years older than me. It's only over the last few years that a lot of what they said is coming back to me and I really respect them sharing their wisdom.

The same with your advice I think really - it's just some of the people won't be thanking you for about 15 years yet!

I love the way you are consistent. I think there will be a lot of ladies out there quietly reading and mentally pulling themselves up to their full height and saying "you know what I don't HAVE to put up with it do I"?.

Look forward to seeing your common sense prevailing albeit under a different name and I understand what you say about the caricature other people start to create and feeling wary of dancing to the tune now.

However you care and it shows. Hat off to you lady.

PS My style is far too long winded meaning I can't post very often - maybe should change my name to to waffle (still within food theme)....

AnyFarquhar?

AnyFlipper?

AnyFluffyWuffyBunnys?

kc, thanks

This hard, straight thinking, applied to yourself, does you credit. Enjoy your search for a new name!

Anyfucker, I like your advice, I especially liked it when I was moaning about something - a NON something and you came and told me to stop reading too much into relationships threads and that my marriage was fine.

I hope I still recognise you when you change your name. Pretty sure I will.

But you shouldnt go changing for anyone, except yourself.

yeah it must be irritating being told what you should say only based on your past posts on here.

I'd like to add on a personal note (just making this about me) that you and other women on here as regular posters and personalities really helped me through a very drak time at the beginning of last year.

I came to terms with a lot just from reading your advice to others and seeing examples of strong women who refuse to be victims and will support others through horrible shit.

So thank you anyfucker and rip x

thanks

You will be like samson cutting his hair.Don't!

Can you choose something ironic? Like Selectivefrigidwoman or SpecificallyVirgin?

Or nearly another poster that's also identifiable, like ScottishDaddy and be very anti women working or Quintocento and think women should stay in the home, Or FrauQueen and be completely broke and unglamorous!!

The right decision for the right reasons. I'm glad you never bent to pressure on morality grounds. That would have been the wrong choice.

But I agree that your advice is sometimes dismissed as "oh that's just AF giving her set 'leave him' advice" when actually your reasons and concerns are as valid as anyone else's on the thread.

AF I remember the thread where you became AnyFucker, I was there at your birth :o

You've helped me through the worst few years of my life.

And now I'm here at the end :(

Ah no. Can't do sombre

See you around my lovely :)

Tafkaf is a great name.....

Don't forget the * !!!

agree with talkme, it's a good decision, your name has never reflected your posting style, AF, and made you too easy to dismiss as a pointlessly aggressive person.

took me a while, eh, aitch ?

AF, I understand what you are saying, but I think that the person you were trying to help has their own issues, and this does not reflect on you at all.

Have you read the rest of the thread? Others have the same feeling as you. I think the person was possibly winding you up for their own reasons. I'm not saying deliberately, but they are certainly in huge denial.

Anyway. I look forward to your new incarnation.

Perhaps we should have a competition...spot the anyfucker?

I was wondering when Aitch would pop up!![looks round for party poppers] And I wonder if you'll make the weekly round up, you've got to haven't you.

but you know that was always my reasoning... pointlessly swearie names imo either mask good posters or give undue attention to attention-seeking ones.

I too understand, and don't you dare be a stranger eh?