The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Carry On Past the Valentine's Wining and Dining

[notevenamousie]

Following on from jesuswhatnext and her original very successful thread and all the many others here , this is the Brave Babes Battle Bus, sharing struggles, thoughts, experience, strength and hope concerning life but more specifically our relationship with, and our journey through, cutting down or cutting out alcohol.

There is no judging or nastiness, just support for whatever works, and if we fall out of the bus we are always welcomed back on when we are ready with open arms and listening ears.

I'm notevenamousie and I'm an alcoholic. I abused and was dependent on alcohol for months if not even a couple of years. I feel a hundred times better physically, emotionally, spiritually, since giving in the fight with alcohol, admitting I had lost, and walking away, but it's very much one day at a time.

If you are a long time lurker, why not make this thread the one you jump in and say hello!

TWDA good stuff. keep at it.

Hiya. Good to see you all and read that everyone is doing well .

Well done TWDA

Hello candy - Thank you so much for sharing your story with us all.

You say 'My last drunk was.....'

Did you mean drink?

I think you're an inspiration to us all, and as so many have found, it's not until the only thing left in your life for certain is death, or you are finally at rock bottom, that you KNOW and WANT to stop drinking.

Hi Mouseface, no I did mean DRUNK because I could never, ever have a drink, I ALWAYS got drunk and beyond, it was hideous and dignity depriving. Thank you for responding to my message, bless you xx

I love that phrase, 'my last drunk was on.....'

Afternoon to all, and hi to candy - we're not all young things on here you know .

I will be away over the weekend and going for dinner with SIL tonight, so I'm busy trying to get 3 days worth of work and chores done in about 2 hours.

I will be in Bristol airport at the weekend and I still remember how wonderful you all were last year when I was stuck there for a bit and in a complete panic trying not to drink - I was overwhelmed by your kindness and support.

So if I'm not on here till next week, know that I am thinking of you all. I think you're brilliant, and lovely and funny, and brave.

venus - have a wonderful time, we'll miss you xx

Hi Candy
not all of us here are young Mummies. Thank you for sharing your story and congratulations on your sobriety! I will be 50 soon and did not want to live through my 50s and 60s worrying about the risk of stroke and liver disease, quite apart from all the obvious effects of the booze. Now 4 1/2 months sober and loving the new me, though wishing I had bitten the bullet when I was a lot younger. How lovely for you to be able to enjoy your grandchild now.
Thanks for your story it has given me renewed strength.

thanks for your very brave share candy! im certainly not a young mum either! , like bb, i dont want to spend my 50s and 60s in an alcholic haze, drunken old women are not terribly attractive are they!, i want to enjoy my family, look forward to dds wedding and hopefully grandchildren one day!

venus - have a good trip!, see you soon!

laters babes!, must eat something!

Well done IsinDe

Pizza?

Well done Isindie

Thank you so much for sharing your story Candy. It certainly helps to hear how bad other people felt and how dependent they were on alcohol and then to see them come out the other side.

I have had a few drinks tonight but will not have much more. My Uncle died this afternoon and so feel like shit. He didn't live in this country as half my family dont but I could not feel close to my family over there even if they lived next door and I saw then everyday. As my cousin over there says we may be far away but are close in our hearts. Telling my DC's was awful, they are with their Dad but I went round to tell them face to face and they are devastated, especially my son. They only met him for the first time last year but absolutly adored him. Will not get drunk but just having a couple (and thats all I will have).

My 'date' guy has been lovely, considering we have only been out 5/6 times he has been very supportive. He volunteers for the Samaritans and I can see why he must help lots of people when they are feling low. I may have found a good one here

Hope you are all OK

Noteven how is you Mum and how are you

Big un MNet like hugs and kisses to all my MN friends

Isindie you are doing really great, I know those train journeys are a big trigger for you. Congratulations on WEEK 1!
Zany I am so sorry for your loss, don't let the couple of glasses go too far though

I knew you'd have it! I love next day pizza.

candy another not so young mum here. thank you for your post
zany - I'm so sorry for your loss,can you give up and go to bed now?
isindie end of day 7 here too. Still with you but things very bad between me and DH. has ignored me since i came in and I suppose i am now doing likewise.

Oh Ma

So sorry that you are going through this. Without meaning to sound flippant, maybe this is what you need to clear the air?

Maybe this, whatever 'this' is, has to come to a head and be resolved.

Sorry lovely x

Has anyone seen thurso today? Have I missed her?

It DOES need to come to a head Mouse - has needed to for a very long time. just don't know if i can cope with the fall out right now. I wish he would just leave.

ma!, so sorry for you!, i have no wise words really, except, i have been divorced twice , it hurts like bloody hell, is never easy, but, you can survive it and come out the other side - it just takes time, be gentle to yourself, eat properly and try and get some sleep!

i have to get to bed now, im shattered!, my eyes hurt looking at the screen and i have another day of it tomorrow.

tkae care everyone!

btw isindi! well bleedin' done girl!! you star!!

Dementedma That's sad. Do you still love him? I've been in a tricky place with my OH the past few months. But I love him dearly and really want to work things out. Nothing will get sorted if you don't talk X

Candy Thanks for sharing your story. I'm in my late 30's so not young. Fast approaching middle age I guess. Although when I think of age I still think I'm a young thing in my teens. Then I remember I've been married 15 years and have two children

I ended up having wine last night. Just a glass(large) It didn't make anything better, made my sleep worse and wasn't worth the extra calories.

Nothing tonight, no wine in and I like to stay up on a Thursday to watch Question Time. YEP!!!! Definitely middle aged

Ma

Do you really? Do you think that if he went, maybe for a while, you'd get the space that you so desperately need to think?

To think about what is best for YOU. Not you all, YOU. The DC's will be fine no matter what, you know that, you've seen it on here (MN) so often.

Children don't thrive in abusive relationships. Which, right now, is what you have.

Emotionally abusive, and I'm guessing a bit of verbal when you do talk or shout?

Be brave.

Look, I'd never ever say this normally, but take the pressure off the not drinking and focus on what you have to do.

You know the drink will only make things 100 times worse but this is your life, your marriage, not mine or anyone else's.

Do what you have to but stay on the Bus with us okay?

Stay and let us carry you forward until you can be sober for good.

Please sweetheart, take good care of you.

One.

Day.

At.

A.

Time.

xx

Bloody hell just lost really long message.
Do it again in a minute.

Daisy