The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Carry On Past the Valentine's Wining and Dining

[notevenamousie]

Following on from jesuswhatnext and her original very successful thread and all the many others here , this is the Brave Babes Battle Bus, sharing struggles, thoughts, experience, strength and hope concerning life but more specifically our relationship with, and our journey through, cutting down or cutting out alcohol.

There is no judging or nastiness, just support for whatever works, and if we fall out of the bus we are always welcomed back on when we are ready with open arms and listening ears.

I'm notevenamousie and I'm an alcoholic. I abused and was dependent on alcohol for months if not even a couple of years. I feel a hundred times better physically, emotionally, spiritually, since giving in the fight with alcohol, admitting I had lost, and walking away, but it's very much one day at a time.

If you are a long time lurker, why not make this thread the one you jump in and say hello!

got it - ewwwwwwwwwwwwwww

I am a bit slow at times - well all the time actually x

I think it started after Gordon Brown came on mn and gave 'no comment' to the vital question about his favourite biscuit .

Oh, and I noticed earlier that someone was looking out for christi. She started her new job today, so probably not around much during the days time (and I hope sleeping well and not around in the wee small hours).

I join up for the 'strong independent coper, who sorts everything out for others, but who dithers and procrastinates about picking up the phone on her own behalf'. Now that's quite a mouthful, so maybe 'Brave Babes' is a better description

Ha silver, you're never too old to learn new words!

and I am going at least 2 shades blonder tomorrow................. not a natural blond....red head......tell me what that says............x

venus my lovely. Missed you. xxx

Oh I'm here alright Silver, but I've been busy with work and stuff so not posting so much. Watching over everything though and thinking about you.

Venus you are like an all encompasing mother to all of us. Thank you lovely lady x

Work was ok thank you.
Just whizzing in and out as have to start the whole shower, get dressed thing again.
Love to all x

Morning everyone

I am kicking myself as I drank too much last night. Got home from work and just felt so so stressed. I should have rung the morgage people to get the ball rolling in me taking on the morgage myself and releasing some momey for my XH. I panicked a bit as it will probably be an extra £250 a month, I don't even have £2.50 left at the end of the month. Also the DC's were a huge bit of a nightmare, really playing up. Feel that I have let myself and you guys down.

Me too zanywany. Got to get a grip and take control. I hate it. I hate me. I have everything going for me yet I keep messing up.

morning all, morning zany sorry you are feeling so wretched, I know the feeling well and you have so much on your plate too.
I'm a bit crap with wise words and advice, so I'll just say that I hope you feel better as the day goes on and I'll be around here if you need anything.

Glad work was ok for you noteven

Well, starting day 7 and doing well, still feeling strong and positive - had a very small teeny tiny itsy bitsy thought about having wine with dinner last night, but it didnt last long and I pushed it aside with a bottle of cherry coke.My sleeping seems to be almost back on track too.

Hope everybody is well

Morning all

I'm off work due to tonsilitis so gonna be chilling out all day trying to feel better.

Zany New day today so put a plan together for sorting the mortgage out. Have you spoken to an independent financial adviser on this? I would suggest it's worth doing because they can look at whether there are any better deals out there for you. When I did it I went on to interest only for a time, however, when I look back I realise that I could have paid more on the mortgage, I just spent a lot of the money on booze

Noteven glad work was ok

Hope everyone else is feeling bright and sunny this morning

x posted with qo and Truth

qo you are doing really well I hope that doesn't sound patronising because I genuinely mean it. You sound really positive.

Truth are you ok? Do you want to talk about it?

Day 5 today.
Was home 10 minutes last night before row with DH had me lying tearful on bed all evening, then going to bed alone. Because my "depression" has not responded to a vague hug and "it'll be alright" he can't cope. Lost his comfort blanket and having to actually do something for a change.
Thurso you could be me. I could have written your last few posts.
Will pm you when I get a chance.
somebody drive this fecking bus and get us all far, far away............

Looks like a clear day so I'll get Gerald started and off we go up to Langdale Pikes to look at the views. Think we may have a bit of lunch too.

Make sure you bring your walking boots, rucksacks and warm clothes cos we are going walking (oh yes we are. We will feel fantastic after all that fresh air and the 10 mile hike

Ma get on the bus and relax. Sorry you're having a tough time. Is DH usually quite supportive or is it you that holds it all together?

Ma

you are doing fantastically well. Congratulations.

Zany

I promise you that, no matter how bad your problems are, there is no problem that a drink cannot make even worse.

Everyone

I procrastinate too. I find sometimes that, where there is money involved, it is useful to me to imagine it as a direct transaction. For example, if by phoning the bank I am in line for £100, I imagine whether I would take a job where I would be paid £100, cash in hand, for making a 15-minute phone call. Often the answer is "yes I would" and that gives me the kick start to doing it.

don't know if this will help anyone.

Morning Brave Babes

Loving the new arrival of two tiny teeth! Like razors aren't they?

Nemo has just learnt kisses, well, I say kisses, I mean licking my face

You sound so much better! Love seeing you here all boingy, you're giving JWN a run for her money

at Isindie and sings along
MIFLAW - thank you
Ruby its always me that holds it together. Always.

Loving the boingy too Isindie. I get lovely kisses from dd too and she makes the 'mwah' sound. I've trained her well .

Ma sounds like your DH doesn't know what to do cos he always relies on you. Can you have a chat with him about it? You need to give the AD's a while to kick in. In the meantime, look after yourself and ask DH to look after you too (sometimes we have to ask)

hi all!! desperatly trying to remain boingy in the face of business recession wankerdom! , gawd its hard work!

be good you babes!, see you later, am off to make as many contact calls as possible! , not the easiest thing to do in this climate!