The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Carry On Past the Valentine's Wining and Dining

[notevenamousie]

Following on from jesuswhatnext and her original very successful thread and all the many others here , this is the Brave Babes Battle Bus, sharing struggles, thoughts, experience, strength and hope concerning life but more specifically our relationship with, and our journey through, cutting down or cutting out alcohol.

There is no judging or nastiness, just support for whatever works, and if we fall out of the bus we are always welcomed back on when we are ready with open arms and listening ears.

I'm notevenamousie and I'm an alcoholic. I abused and was dependent on alcohol for months if not even a couple of years. I feel a hundred times better physically, emotionally, spiritually, since giving in the fight with alcohol, admitting I had lost, and walking away, but it's very much one day at a time.

If you are a long time lurker, why not make this thread the one you jump in and say hello!

Bafana you sound amazing today! - and after two nights on the sleeper train too :)

IsIndie how often are the DTs BFing currently? Because at that age you could take one or both with you, especially if they'll sleep. Well done for talking to DP about it, that can't have been easy.

I don't usually get to a Saturday meeting, but with my mum being ill and going back to work, I am today, then going to get a couple of birthday presents and a childrens' church thing, so will 'see' you all later.

noteven hope your mum i okay, so sorry to hear she is ill.

Thanks bafana, actually after I chose the new NN I thought it was quite apt in the ways you mention! (Chose it only because i was looking around the kitchen and that was what came to my eye!).

Great idea about an excuse too.... as it happens, I have a bad back right now and am on nurofen, so can use that. :)

just checking in to say I'm still here, still breathing.
hi to newbies.
things tough, but yesterday i didn't drink.

Hi demented. You are so strong for not drinking.

Hope you are okay.

Hi, I've been lurking for a while. Funnily enough, whilst I've been doing really well not drinking. The posts on here really help me stay focused.

I've managed to get myself to 3 days a week not touching alcohol. Usually Sun to Monday. I don't work Thursday through to Sunday, so have up until allowed myself a drink if I want one. But importantly, I haven't opened a bottle and drank the lot. Or bought a box which was a wicked, evil habit I had got into!

I was so sick fed up waking every morning dreading getting up. I two boys (6 and 3) that need me happy, not a moody cow, shouting at them to get themselves ready in the morning.

So things have improved from my perspective. But my problems haven't disappeared by any means. My OH is off in a huff today because he thought I was pressurizing him into attending a family party tonight. Honestly? I don't think it was too much that I expected him to accompany us for a couple of hours. But he's had a face on that could sour grapes all day. I couldn't help but say that I thought he was being a twat. So he's off wherever! Boys are playing nicely upstairs and I feel like I "need" a drink!

Of course, that shoud have been Sunday to Wednesday!

Hi all

Daisy and Mushrooms nice to 'see' you.

I'm not feeling great at the moment and not sure why but possibly broken sleep getting up for DCs but also probably cos I have had a drink on Thurs and last night and I have noticed the difference I feel the day after.

Actually, I keep thinking about my past and feeling sorry for myself - someone tell me to pull myself together

Ruby - pull yourself together!!!

Well, OH came home and announced to DS1 that he will go to the party. So for now, everything is fine. Apparently I have to assume everything is fine with him and just think of myself. Okay dokey!

I'm driving to the party so not drinking. Depending on how I feel may have a little drink once home. After 9ish probably.

Meant to say Ruby, I find it incredible how well I've been sleeping on my non drinking days. 11pm to 7am straight through. Thankfully I'm blessed with children who love to sleep through the night

Hi everyone,
Indie sorry I wasn't clear, I meant you could take them away from their source of food, ie your BFing DP, I realised it was her. But if she is happy for you to go on your own then I am sure that's for the best as you will be able to concentrate better. Knowing your DPs background - there is exceptional denial, I wouldn't be surprised if most of the people she works with are daily drinkers, which might explain her attitude. But denial it is - it's not how much we drink but what it does to us that's the problem.

I keep bursting into tears at the most inappropriate times. I could have sobbed in the meeting at lunch time but I just couldn't cry, then as I walked through the door into a thing I wanted to take DD to this afternoon, room full of parents and primary aged children, and floods of tears. A drink starts to look good then... playing it through until the end. It wouldn't be at all good, it would be disastrous. Just for today... hanging in there.

Hello peeps - just checking in. I wanted to echo what tristmum said earlier and apologise for not seeming to acknowledge other postings - I just don't feel I have the knowledge or sage advice at the moment. :)

Not had a brilliant couple of days. I cracked twice - both times in airports purely because I've never managed to fly sober . In my (pathetic) defence I drank a lot LESS than I would normally in a flying situation but not a marvelous result whatever way you look at it. Felt a bit shitty this morning even with the massively reduced alcohol consumption which only seved to remind me that I NEVER want to wake-up with a hangover again.

Previously I would have lapsed and then thought, sod it - I might as well sink a bottle every night for the next week but this time I'm clambering straight back onto the bus.

Back home now and enjoying not drinking today. Appletise can relax - the recent boom in sales they have been experiencing is going to continue for a while yet.

Noteven - meant to say I'm so sorry you are going through all this - it sounds incredibly hard :( .

Hi IsinDe - you are doing BRILLIANTLY by the way :) .

Totally agree about the post-flight hangover - bleurgh. I also hate the slightly pitying look I get from the stewards as I order yet ANOTHER drink from the trolley. Plus I'm so plastered glad to be alive at the end of a flight that I'm inevitably over effusive in my thanks as I stoat off the plane. I've been known to hug... [multiple blushes]

Ahem, back to the Appletise (and keep those tonic sales soaring!).

Noteven - hang in there. The wine o clock bell has been chiming all day but still sober. have had splitting headache all day and it just won't go!
Indie - keep at it.
Taking ADs now and am telling myself that I can't drink while I'm taking them. I will be ill, vomit, turn green....work with me here..hanging on by my fingernails
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Hang on Ma you will get there! Another day wasted for me here after way too much alcohol at a birthday party last night, am so mad with myself but nothing I can do about it now!
Have gotten through today with no alcohol but that it obviously due to the fact that I couldn't face a drink at minute .
Am going to take some time out for myself at minute and start taking care of myself, I also smoke way too much so going to apply the same principles to stopping smoking as many advise here re stopping alcohol, I know it will be hard work tackling the two at the same time but I need to do it! MIFLAW recommends that you tackle first the one you know will kill you but my problem is figuring out which one will put me in the ground quickest!

Evening All
Another fun filled day here!

My sis and her dd came through this afternoon, and we drank lots of tea. My dd made biscuits and we generally chilled out.
Chippy tea tonight, and I bundled my two of to bed early result!

Planning a nice early night so that I can tackle the housework tomorrow.

indie I went to AA, because I just couldn't find a different way to do it. I am continuing to do it with AA, because it is working.

Interestingly, I have met 2 people recently that got to the 3 month mark and thought that they had is sorted, and tried to do it on their own, neither of them managed . I am not prepared to take that chance, so I plan to keep going!

ma good to see you. ignore the chimes of the bell,it will be a wonderful achievement to wake up on Sunday without a hangover.

Stay safe everyone.

Ma why don't you treat yourself to a nice long soak in the bath and by the time you get out of it the chimes will hopefully have stopped, have an early night, you will feel all the better for it tomorrow.

ma hanging on by your fingernails is OK. It's not comfortable, it's not nice, but you're doing it. And you ARE right. ADs and alcohol - bad mix, and a waste of both.

zippy you never need to worry about posting things on here to help other people. post whatever you want that helps YOU - whether it's a cry for help or a reflections on something or a load of waffle. If it helps you, that's good enough, but interestingly it will often be just what someone else needs too.
Whe I post here it's usually 'cos i've got something I need to get out, maybe something I've remebered about my drinking, maybe some great insight . But I think that i post my worst posts when I am 'trying' to be helpful to others, and my best when I'm truly helping myself. It is OK to be selfish on here, and sometimes it's that selfishnes which helps us to stay sober.

desire
I know that it is hard to stop the drinking and the smoking, but it can be done, I have - stopped drinking 24 November and stopped smoking on 6 January.

It is not easy, but in some ways the 2 were linked. I always smoked far more when I drank, I do feel far better mentally by not drinking, and far better health wise by not smoking (can now climb 2 flights of stairs without collapsing ).

My thinking was, that coming out of my relationship, and stopping drinking was already really really hard, so why postpone another inevitable - that I would have to quit the fags at some point - and go through another difficult thing to do.

I don't think it is recommended though.

Gosh that is long and rambly - can you tell I am knackered . Cant work out how to make it more succint, hope I got my point accross

You did get your point across Bafana:)