Advice please - confrontation looming with my parents

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In summary. They favour my brother's elder daughter have done for years.

But it was her birthday recently. My kids get £10 in an envelope, DD2 got a home made dolls house.

Neice got an Ipod Touch from them.

I am going to have to speak to them - my two are gutted. (DN has been crowing by email to DD1)

Help me frame the conversation so it doesn't descend into a shouting match?

You're right, Kuckingfunt. You did indeed bring it up earlier, actually kicking off the troll hunting and getting everyone else to look for it. So really, you are the most to blame.

Frogs needed help. Now instead of this thread being about helping her with her parents, it's about her 'fantastic' story.

So what if she told some lies to keep herself private? So fucking what?!?! So there's inconsistencies?

What matters, as I said earlier, is that the stuff with her mum is real. That's what she asked for help with.

Fivegomad, I'm already on that, thanks.

And by the way the house is still for sale and not under offer on the website, and no one buys a horse without trying it first, that is just insane however much money you have to spend.

Again I disagree Tee - I didn't bring it up to kick off troll hunting, I brought it up to see if OP could explain any of it. Unfortunately she couldn't. I also find it hard to see how I am most to blame? I guess it always turns out that way though, the person who points out that people should beware is the one to blame. Personally I dont think I am the one who started this - OP is the one who started it by posting inconsistences on here and on FB. If we are looking for someone to blame we should look closer to home.

Also the problem with posters like this is that once they have been exposed for telling lies nobody knows what is true and what isnt. A lot of people here have taken a lot of time to help and it's awful to think that they are all being taken in.

Fivegomad, the house 'story' is ridiculous and you are right to buy a horse without trying it and without having anywhere to home it is just crazy.

I'm off here now as promised Ds an hour to do his homework,

Maybe if she hadn't brought up the stuff about the horse, the bf, The link to the house and just stuck to the original prob then none of these doubts would have came up,

Tbh she has noone to blame but herself for how some of us feel now, her not being around now to answer isnt our fault or problem,

You know what? I am truly done with this.

On behalf of Frogs, who I just texted with, thanks for those of you who are supportive and are trying to help her with her mum and brother.

The rest of you go back to your sad little troll hunting. How pathetic that your lives are so boring you have to get your kicks fucking with someone elses.

Actually Tee - if you look you'll see that I posted first to say that I knew it was the same man.

She's not keeping herself private or protecting ID's by posting a picture of the house that her DP could be buying.

It was me that told Kucking I thought that it was the same person, and also me that found some of the other inconsistencies which kucking talks about (though she did tell me about another.

You may recall it was also the OP that brought up earlier in the thread "who" she is so it's not unreasonable of people to question her about that on the thread as well. That was bound to get people searching as well.

Tee

Almost as sad and pathetic is someone who lives out their life in a fantasty?

Now this thread has taken an interesting turn! I look forward to Frog's return to find out how this evening has gone, what her family is up to and to answer all of this...

Please Frogs, just take of that link to the house as it makes you and your family and DP/BF vulnerable.

Just to put you in the picture of what is 'normal'.
My mum spends the exact same down to the pound on all the grandchildren (including step grandchildren, teenage grandchildren, toddlers, ones she hardly ever see's) they ALL get the same.
She would go out of her way not to make anything that would offend/freak anyone out/ etc.
If she was told that anything was offensive she would be mortified (she never has) and would try to make amends. We probably would never tell her anyway as she makes such an effort with all 'us' (children, step children) and our children and our step children.
This is normal, if my mum could only afford a fiver in everyones card we wouldn't care, she's not making favourites etc, she has actively said 'no' to us if we want something extra, as it would take it over her 'birthda/christmas' budget for what she allocates for each person fairly.
Gosh, my mums really nice lol, just realised what a star she is! We all respect her for it and we're all respectful to each other as well.
This is normal, shouting at each other in front of our children would be a total dealbreaker, soooo horrible and not on.
If this cant be resolved, please try and distance yourself from them somewhat, its so bad for you and your children, just explain to them thats its not their cousins fault but just the way your mum is.

Tee - I didnt realise she'd gone out for the evening. I hardly think it is wrong for people to question when posts written within weeks of each other say 3 dcs then 4 dcs, or Scotland, then Ireland. Surely it would make you go

I'm glad she got the help up there ^ about the family situation but when you feel a poster has misled about so many things it is hard to know whether to believe any of it.

no real harm to anyone here if she has mislead, whether in fantasy or to keep from being recognised.

Thing is, if she is having this problem with family and her DP has come for the weekend then when she reads this thread (the recent posts) she might not be in a good place, especially as she is already feeling low.

Thought the rule on suspecting troll was to report it to MNHQ and let them deal with it.

Does it matter? Really? Why not just take things at face value? It's perfectly easy to accept what Frogs/BB has said and it's sure easier on the blood pressure.

I suppose if you are trying to keep a modicum of discretion about your life you might tweak some harmless facts re location/number or gender of dcs whilst others are very open on MN.

[shrug]

Kangarro - I think because some of us have been misled privately about it as well.

but to post a link of a bloody huge house that could be a regular residence of yours??? It's not really, well, a very discrete house is it

And I no-one thinks she's a troll. Embellishments and additions to a story do not make a troll.

I have been following this thread from the beginning. I don't really understand why this thread has taken the direction it has. If you think she is a troll then report to MNHQ. If you think she is a fantastist who is making up her problems with her mother (i.e. what she has posted about) then that's the same as thinking she is a troll, so report to MNHQ. If you think she is a fantastist but with a genuine problem then you are not really helping her are you with the problem that she actually posted about?

I hope when she comes back to the thread she doesn't answer any of the questions from the "confused" people and continues seeking support. If she told you all that stuff in "private" then PM her and ask her in private, rather than quite frankly, encouraging everyone to go troll hunting.

she encouraged other people to search with her post at 11.44 today. I knew about the car thing - I didn't need to go searching, she opened up the thread to discussion about her DP/BF.

Being a fantasist and embelishing parts of a stroy isn't the same as a troll . Hell if that were the case I'm pretty sure than a large proportion of MN posters should be banned for embellishing stories

I believe the mother part (and she's told me privately that it's true- see yes - I am also talking to her privately via text) is all true (I actually read the thread and was going to post on it because of my own experiences with my family). It was just when I got to her 11.44 post that I thought back to my thoughts from last week and wondered.

But this a public thread, and threads often veer off the initial topic - especially if "interesting "other information has been given.

Baroque, if the mother part is true (which I assumed it was) then I don't see the point in you helping the thread derail particularly as it sounds like you might have suffered something similar (sorry to hear that btw, whole thing sounds v shitty).

OP...... I was confused by the references to the mega rich DP/BF but only because I think he is totally irrelevant and you shouldn't be looking to him or anyone else to "rescue" you out of this situation. Well done for staying strong. You really need to ensure that your children don't continue to be exposed to these bunch of loons.

novice - she brought the DP/BF (she still insisted earlier this evening he's just a BF) up! This is MN - the OP knows it very well (the infamous AIBU car thread was proof of that) and knows that bringing other subject matter into a discussion will bring about responses from it. She brought up the 11.44 post (if I hadn't have known who she was already then I would have gone and had a look to try and understand what it was about) and with the link to the house.

Surely no-one thinks they can link to have a lush mansion like that and not have a thread they've started derailed in should shape or form???

Fair point Baroque!

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