Active discussions

Meet the Other Phone. A phone that grows with your child.

Meet the Other Phone.
A phone that grows with your child.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

Talk
Relationships

Mumsnet has not checked the qualifications of anyone posting here. If you need help urgently or expert advice, please see our domestic violence webguide and/or relationships webguide. Many Mumsnetters experiencing domestic abuse have found this thread helpful: Listen up, everybody

Original poster

Advice please - confrontation looming with my parents

487 replies

imustbemadasaboxoffrogs · 07/02/2011 20:20

In summary. They favour my brother's elder daughter have done for years.

But it was her birthday recently. My kids get £10 in an envelope, DD2 got a home made dolls house.

Neice got an Ipod Touch from them.

I am going to have to speak to them - my two are gutted. (DN has been crowing by email to DD1)

Help me frame the conversation so it doesn't descend into a shouting match?

OP posts:
Tee2072 · 13/02/2011 19:08

Well, nettle, her EXH is a knob, so perhaps you misunderstood which ex she was referring to? Or perhaps she was referring to her current BF but she changed her mind about him? Have you never thought someone a knob and then changed your mind about them?

And I have to agree with Swollowedafly that you do appear to be troll hunting kuckingfunt.

At this point, what does it matter? The important thing is supporting Frog while she deals with her toxic family.

BaroqueAroundTheClock · 13/02/2011 19:19
strawberrylion · 13/02/2011 19:30

I would stay calm because you have right on your side...it definitely stems (I suspect) from the fact your brother was the golden boy but shockingly had a failed marriage and they've taken it upon themselves to overcompensate with the child...doing her no favours if she's growing up to be a spoilt brat with an inflated sense of self importance...it's not about material things but £10 for one grandchild and ipod touch for another is ridiculous and totally unfair...I would definitely bring it up with them and try and nip the 'toxic' effect on your kids in the bud...good luck Smile

kuckingfunt · 13/02/2011 19:37

Thanks Baroque, but I don't want you to get slaughtered on here too, I will take all the blame for whatever people think I am doing.

I did add the smiley faces because I was genuinely confused and didn't want to wade in with accusations, despite me being very confused about it all. I was trying to keep it light and to give the OP chance to explain herself - I was hoping that she could give some explanation (not sure what though) as to why this has happened.

I can asusre you all though I am not troll hunting nor am I doing all this publicly rather than privately to stir up any trouble. I have spoken to OP privately and it didn't solve anything at all - the conversations where she made all these things up were privately. Infact I had never ever spoken on chat before to the OP on FB, she just popped up to discuss this house he has bought.

Also, I haven't laid out all the inconsistencies at all - there are several other ones that I haven't aired publicly. I could do, as now it has become clear that most of it is fabricated, but I won't do that.

I just don't understand why rather than say nothing OP has gone to the effort of making up lies about her DP and current situation.
Tee, no OP didn't mean her exH when she stated he was a knob - this was in response to me asking her if this partner was the same one she was seeing last year with the aston martin. Her response was 'no I ended it with him, he was a knob' - incidentally this wasn't much more than a week ago. A strange thing to say knowing it is still the same partner. Again, why say that and call him a knob? She could've just said nothing.

BrianAndHisBalls · 13/02/2011 19:45

it does all sound rather strange knucking, i can't blame you for being Confused

BrianAndHisBalls · 13/02/2011 19:46

kucking even Blush

kuckingfunt · 13/02/2011 19:51

Brian, I don't want to be seen as troll hunting but I do think there are some people being taken in by inconsistencies here. I don't think OP is a troll in the sense that she has just joined and started posts to annoy people - not at all - OP is a genuine MNer and has had various names, but it's all a bit strange.

If I outed the other inconsistences you would be able to see my reasoning.

Anyway, it doesn't really matter to me. I do hope that the OP sorts out things with her family (if this is true) as it sounds unhealthy.

NettleTea · 13/02/2011 19:53

""Well, nettle, her EXH is a knob, so perhaps you misunderstood which ex she was referring to? Or perhaps she was referring to her current BF but she changed her mind about him? Have you never thought someone a knob and then changed your mind about them?""

sorry, that first paragraph in my message should have been in quotes. I was trying to explain why frogs was referring to her BF as DDP......

BrianAndHisBalls · 13/02/2011 19:54

Kucking - I know, I don't feel you are (traditionally) troll hunting. And I get what you mean, if someone doesn't want to tell you about their relationship they just dont tell you, they dont generally make up a break up and then a whole new relationship, its a little strange.

Ah well, if all is not what it seems it hardly matters, there is some very good advice on this thread about dealing with toxic family members Smile

NettleTea · 13/02/2011 19:54

I mean DP

roses42 · 13/02/2011 20:04

I'm behind you too kucking It all does seem abit strange,

I am sure the op has her reasons for all this it's just hard for us readers to take it at face value when there are so many inconsistencies between this thread and previous ones,

I just cannot understand how one poster using one name posts so many conflicting things, surely that whats namechanges are for, then no questions asked when you need serious help.

BrianAndHisBalls · 13/02/2011 20:21

Just had a nosey (yes I need to get out more but I can't due to crying 13 month old) Grin

3 dc one minute, 4 dc the next, Ireland one thread, Scotland the next. Have we all been taken for idiots here?

Grin
kuckingfunt · 13/02/2011 20:23

eeeeek Brian!

There are many, many more than that too!

BrianAndHisBalls · 13/02/2011 20:26

don't tell me that, my ocd will come out and I'll have to go look and then everyone else will call me a sad stalker Blush

and saf will get me. She's right 'ard Grin

kuckingfunt · 13/02/2011 20:28
Grin
roses42 · 13/02/2011 20:29

glad i'm not the only one, maybe i'm too nosy for my own good lol

fivegomadindorset · 13/02/2011 20:30

I would also ask for the post detailing the house (I am guessing that it is the one that he is buying) removed.

roses42 · 13/02/2011 20:41

Link to house is on page 12, I really hope op sorts her probs with family out just cant get my head round all the other stuff.

kuckingfunt · 13/02/2011 20:44

why would you even link to a house like that if you didn't want people knowing? Hmm

Tee2072 · 13/02/2011 20:47

I'm going to stop trying to defend her because none of you really care about anything but calling her a liar.

But I will say I think it's pretty rotten that all of you have brought this up after she's gone out for the evening and isn't here to defend herself.

roses42 · 13/02/2011 20:48

do you mean me or op?

fivegomadindorset · 13/02/2011 20:49

Tee, I wasn't criticising her but please suggest to her that she gets that post removed with house details as it is very personal and now anyone can find her.

kuckingfunt · 13/02/2011 20:49

Sorry Tee, I disagree with that. I brought it up much earlier when OP was around if you look at my previous posts.

I also haven't actually called the OP a liar anywhere on this thread. I have implied that there are lots of inconsistences. I think 'fantasist' is a more descriptive word.

kuckingfunt · 13/02/2011 20:50

roses, I meant OP

roses42 · 13/02/2011 20:51

Ah ok Knucking,

Swipe left for the next trending thread