Dumpling no more - only the strong survive and we did No.2

[Teaandcakeplease]

At first I was afraid, I was petrified
Kept thinkin' I could never live without him by my side;
But then I spent so many nights
Thinkin' how you did me wrong
And I grew strong

This thread is for ex dumplings Any dumpling that feels like she has "mostly" moved past crisis into an "almost" sorted state can post and chat here as we continue our quest for serenity with a lot of laughs along the way and support.

Googs I meant I like your slant ... :)

Kate - meant to say congratulations on your job! Hope date is going well. We all have body parts we don't like. Any good man won't give a shit :)
Maybee - so glad you told SMT person. It's amazing how many people have been or are secretly in our situation.
Sorry you're ill too. Hope you get better soon.
Patience - yes littleuns on the mend. They must be, they're fighting again...:)

mmm...horseradish and turps, my favourite

Sorry so many of you are under the weather. I'm one of those annoying people that never even gets a sniffle or an upset tummy. I've never even had a period pain - don't know what they are.

DCS, shit day nearly over now. Just think "karma". That's what helps me. It's our family motto. DD bought some big letters spelling karma for her bedroom the other week but forgot the R. So sometimes it's "kama".

Well, I've been very naughty. Told xp I was going to work - so he's got ds for the night - but booked the night off and went to Ikea with dd instead. Scandalous!

Kate, please don't worry about scars. I had a ruptured ectopic when I was 25 and have huge surgical scars to abdomen: bikini line incision and mid-line incision from sternum to bikini. I then went on to have a 9lb 4oz baby and put loads of weight on so have major stertch marks. I now look like I survived an attack by Jack the Ripper. I have what is kindly known in medical terms as an "abdo flap" or "apron". Only xp has ever seen the mess that is my tummy but I'm hoping that won't always be the case...

Love ur IKEA skive else ,wild nite here,gales and heavy rain x

Evening all

I am reading but always too tired to post but tonight i went to "threads i'm on" and apparently i'm not so thought i had better say something lol

Elsie, loving the Ikea skive also, and why not it wont hurt him to look after DS

Kate, Well done on the job and i hope the date went well, re your scar, it is your battle wound, your proof that you fought and won, we all bear them for one reason or another, some just cant be seen, be proud of it, it certainly isnt something to be ashamed of hun

Goo, really really hope you are feeling better for saturday, i know how much you have been looking forward to it

Maybee, hope you are well too for sat, i found out my DS2 nursery teacher is a dumpling too, her X left when her DD was 6 months old, her DD is now 21 and her DS is 23 and she single handedly raised them both and put them through university and worked, it felt really good to have someone like her to relate to and know that she understands what position i am in, i actually felt quite inspired

Starting, glad you didnt send email to norm, if you do get the urge again type it out and save it to drafts, i have a laptop full of letters i wrote to X and never sent, hope your feeling better

has anyone seen this thread

X came for visit today, i had cooked spag. bol. for dinner for me and DC and he sat saying how nice it smelt, basically hinting for an offer of dinner so i just said i would have cooked some for him but he never liked my version of it (i use dolmio, his mum uses gravy) so i didnt bother as "it's too tomatoey for him" his words and he sat looking all sad, didnt feel guilty in the slightest and thoroughly enjoyed my dinner, he kept asking me if i was ok not sure what all that was about, maybe he has noticed my detatchment ahh well, out of my mind till sunday :)

Blimey. Date went well - scar not an issue for him...but I did keep quite covered up :)

Was quite surprised when he left this morning for work...all suited and booted and looking like a proper business man...grown up with a proper job!

He's lovely - what a change from ex, just enjoying it and going with the flow.

Catch up later...working from home today x

Oh bad morning here. The 4 year old had to go back to school today. He is almost school refusal. He barricaded himself in his room and I had to carry him screaming to the car. I'm off, looking like shit, he missed his lift to school so I had to take him. Got into playground, obviously I'm usually working so I'm not a school run mum, which often makes me feel very guilty. So I get into playground, little one is screaming, all the older ones are going into school with their teachers. One male teacher who I know says "What a bad mummy you are Goog, aren't you? You don't even know which door to go into with him do you? Bad mummy aren't you?" It's awful. So I find the fecking door the reception kids go into and have to go in with littlun screaming and explain to his teacher that he's just about out of control at home, calling me fat and stupid, not wanting to go to school. She was very sympathetic but it was all a bit much. Leave him screaming in the classroom with her virtually holding him down and out I go with the knowledge that the male teacher has told me I'm a bad mummy in front of all the other parents. And it's exbf's birthday. And I'm not texting him. Urggh.

Oh ggm ,what a prick that guy sounds,in those situations I try to smile and say something like ,thanks for ur help (ya prick)
Ur wee one prob kicked off because its a different routine.hope u have gone to bed now and are having a duvet day x

Sounds like u had a fun night Kate ,good 4 u !

Waves to sov x

Ok had a pretty mental dream last night that my head fell off,and I had to keep putting it back on again by sliding it on some grooves.I cut all my hair off so it was easier to work with but I kept telling people it was know use and ur heads too heavy and if it falls off again that's it I'm dead .anyway I seemed to be getting ready for a date with a white van man and my eyes fell out.they were wrapped in blue plastic bags and I thought I can't bloody do this myself ,I will need to go to the optician now .Ffs.I'm going to be really late ,then someone asked if I wanted to be on the high diving team and I said id love2 but I don't think my head would stay on
Do ya think its freudian starting?

Pink

Sov good for you on spag bol detachment , am still loving cooking my way without being judged

Kate oohh glad it went well

googoo sorry you seem to be having such a rotten time one way or another , get well for the weekend

maybee good to let it out to someone dont know what an SMT is but hopefully someone who can look out for you at work ?

Elsie I have one of those aprons as well (ds 9lb8)cant imagine exposing it to someone else than xh..

Starting hope serenity is working its way back to you

offschool good luck with your mark, throw in some outlet stories along the way

DCS that must be hard with so few people working there to know someone has that attitude towards you - chin up

Patience you are back to your happy combination of serenity/feisty and its lovely to see. I have read your pamper power words so often and am finally starting to make some efforts in that direction

Well not much happening here but am fully recovered from my cold which is good. Day 6 of no smoking and its hard nearly went to the petrol station at 11.45 last night..

I only smoke around 5 a day on average and thought it would be a breeze.

Spent a lot of time reading cheap living type threads yesterday and was quite pleased to see am already doing a lot of the suggestions. Cigs are definitely too expensive apart from anything else.

Getting, good luck with the cigs. I made a vow to myself to ditch them today, which lasted all of about two hrs . Just stopped in garage on way home from dentist & woman looked at me & said 20 marlboro lights is it? There was a notice in surgery about a clinic to help people stop smoking starting next wk so think I'll sign up!

Patience, am pmsl at your dream. Try googling dream interpretations & see what it means. Remember coming accross head falling off & what it means but can't remember anymore.

Goo, so sorry to hear you've had all that to deal with on top of being ill. Can't believe a teacher actually used the words "bad mummy", you should report him when you're feeling up to it. Hope you get a bit of rest today & that you start to feel better. ((Hugs))

Kate, oh you lucky, lucky B !! Am really pleased for you, hope you enjoy every min

Sov, great to hear you've detached from xh makes things so much easier

ET, lovely to hear you talking about a future where you will be revealing your stomach again . Well done on the cleverness of the ikea trip lol.

Maybee, glad you got a bit of support at work, badly needed atm I'd say.

I'm not a smoker but have every sympathy with you if you're trying to give up. My friend won't go on a flight longer than 4 hours because she can't cope without a fag for that long and when work talked about a total smoking ban several colleagues were seriously considering leaving so I realise it has a terrible hold. I heard nicotine was more addictive than heroin although not sure how true that is.

GGM, can't believe the teacher said that . Did he think he was being funny? Even if he was attempting a very lame joke, it's still totally out of order. Hope you feel better soon.

Patience, that is one weird dream. How's your head this mornin and can you actually do high diving???

Kate, glad it went well. You deserve it.

Sov, he's a cheeky bugger isn't he? Like Twiggy from the Royle family, waiting to be fed! He'd get on well with my ex who bears remarkable similarities to Jim Royle. And I'm not joking. Unfortunately.

Getting, does your apron have pockets? Mine does and they're full of lumpy socks and such like .

Anyway, back to munching my Daim chocolate block from Ikea. Can't get them anywhere else so I always stock up when I go. Fatal.

Hope everyone is ok.

Everything fine Elsie I have one head ,still attatched and 2 eyes.no to the high diving but always fancied it lol.

Nasty dream that Patience , dont think I would want to look it up

Most dangerous part of cig day over and I resisted in spite of absurd solicitors bill arriving and final draft of agreement to sign

Off for coffee and latest news from friends twin sister

Listening to zane lowe versus on radio one good tunes.trampoline tryin its best to fly away in high winds .hope everyone is cool.watched more black belts earlier this evening,seriously helping me to move on btw.imagination working over time atm but good to know there is life after X .feels empowering even if its all in my head and not in my bed .....yet

How ya doin ggm and MB?

Where is Citydoll -anyone in touch with her?

yee hah got 99 per cent on my assignment!!no computer tonight so am permitted two minutes on this one (guess who by.. dragon daughter) sending you all waves. this cold is the first time I have been offschoolagain as it were for me for six years so I sympathise with you snifflers. back tomorrow I hope

Not seen her for a while mf ,hope ur doin ok have u got wild weather where ur ?

Mega off school o s t mus tis nt

Lovely weather here today warmish and first signs that winter on way out :)

Very very busy. Keeping up with reading here but not posting :( Loads of stuff for DS -mostly positive.

Away for relaxing weekend :)

Will post more next week

Waves to all :)

Hello
all,
your date sounded promising Kate Enjoy yourself.
Googs How stressful! I hate people who make bad jokes when you're under pressure. I hope you can look after yourself for a day or two now.
Et Those daim bars are lovely haven't had one in yonks.
The weather here is bonkers the wind sounds like a violin tonight.
I'm still struggling with a date for my move and what to tell ds. i was online til 1am googling advice sites but am still in the dark. I even posted under lone parents and got a few contradictory pieces of advice and a couple of harsh comments about moving away from boy's dad. Anyway I need to sleep tonight am a bit poorly.
Goodnight
xxx

MB we r postponed atm due to illness but that's cool cos weather is wild !!
Will keep in touch x

Well thank fuck I bought those cigs! Was out tonight with a friend & came home feeling fairly serene & positive. Found an email from Norm in my inbox, polite chit chat, hoping I was doing well & hopes that I'll meet someone nice in the future. Oh & also he drank a bottle of brandy sun night to drown his self pity! Well something exploded in my brain. I shot off one email pretty quickly, went & made lunches for dc's & the rage & pain was exploding in my head so I've now fired off a second email! Dear mother of God will prob be posting here during the midnight hrs to prevent me from bombarding his inbox as new thoughts enter my head................

He would like to stay friends & I would like to rip his b off I'm so f*g HURT