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Dumpling no more - only the strong survive and we did No.2

1001 replies

Teaandcakeplease · 29/01/2011 07:48

At first I was afraid, I was petrified
Kept thinkin' I could never live without him by my side;
But then I spent so many nights
Thinkin' how you did me wrong
And I grew strong Smile

This thread is for ex dumplings Any dumpling that feels like she has "mostly" moved past crisis into an "almost" sorted state can post and chat here as we continue our quest for serenity with a lot of laughs along the way and support.

OP posts:
Patienceobtainsallthings · 01/02/2011 17:44

Btw well done on the will power getting x

startingovernow · 01/02/2011 18:04

Patience, does that mean you will get 6mts free broadband though? Will that not be good? Lol at the banjo playing, mine did that too Hmm

Getting, I think it's more the reality that I've 3 dc's & how this might impact on him that has hit him Sad. Well done on the cigs, I'm back smoking like a trouper Blush

ET, sorry to hear you're a bit wobbly atm & thanks about Norm.

Well I feel an emotional wreck right now. What's happened with Norm has had a terrible impact on me. I went through such heartache with my xh & never thought I could go through such pain again. I was wrong Sad. I am ashamed to say I even thought (v briefly) of contacting him this afternoon just to make the pain go away Sad. I know I'll be ok one way or another & that time heals all things but feel so sad to be back here again in pain Sad

Patienceobtainsallthings · 01/02/2011 18:54

Oh starting so sorry ,u will get thru this ,5mths is a long enough time to have feelings for someone.take strength from the fact u aren't emotionally stunted by all ur experiences and u still love as though u werent emotionally battered .
Broadband is such a luxary problem but just pissed cos sky dicked me about first.have been trying to organise this since Dec.oh well u tube in march not long now,away to kick boxing,catch ya later peeps x

thereturnofElsieTanner · 01/02/2011 19:20

So sorry you're feeling sad Starting. I will be terrified of getting involved with anyone again for just that reason. But it's so hard to say let's just have fun and enjoy it while it lasts because we are proper women with grown up feelings, not teenagers playing the field.

I'm feeling wobbly in a good way Smile. Sort of: this is it, this is my life now and I'm ok, I'm still here but then I think, shit what's going to go tits up next?

googoomama · 01/02/2011 19:55

Hi everyone. Starting :( so sorry. It's crap I know, especially when you've been through it before.
Patience - I'm really ill now :( Taking tomorrow off boys still ill too. Got dodgy tummy as well. Hope I'll be ok for Saturday but if I'm ill I'll have to cancel. Hope not. Don't want to let you and Maybee down :( xxx

googoomama · 01/02/2011 19:56

And date on Friday will have to be cancelled...again

Patienceobtainsallthings · 01/02/2011 20:00

No worries ggm but learned lots of new punches incase anyone gets wide with us x

googoomama · 01/02/2011 20:03

Lol - thing is, I've been looking forward to this for ages, I've booked tickets but I'm just not feeling any better :( I'm so fecking tired and if the kids are ill exh won't take em on Friday night. Bloody hell. I'm a bit pissed off. Hopefully I'll rally tomorrow if I can sleep for a bit.
Glad you know some proper puches P - I'm a right girl...

Patienceobtainsallthings · 01/02/2011 20:25

Ok but I told my trainer most times I just wear my Nikes and run like fuck x

Maybee · 01/02/2011 21:36

hi everyone,
starting that's a shame you feel low just now, i hope you feel more up beat again soon we are here for you.
Googs poor u feeling poorly. I hope you can meet us on Sat but just look after yourself and try and get some peace before the weekend.
Getting You're doing well staying off the cigs, hang in there.
Et I hope your wobble subsides mine come and go and seem to be part of the process. I recognise that feeling of 'what next?' The other day when all my stuff was going wrong I held my breath and said
'if anymore shit is to rain on me- please may I just have it now!' and nothing happened and I have had a few smooth days just the usual like taxing the car to discover it has had no mot since Oct (x's job)so having to sort that in a day with 2 nippers in tow! Then losing a beloved teddy and finding him 6 shops later! after a while the niggles just become part of your day I suppose.
Patience I can identify with all the support you gave to your x's whims. With mine it was his homesickness as he is from N America. Poor lamb only got to go there annually coutesy of his mother. Not enough so we took a loan out so he could buy himself some land there. Still not enough (tho we were struggling to make ends meet)so he went last summer with our 8yr old for 10 days. I went to my family in Ireland and baby was constantly sick however 10 days were not enough- it was a rush apparently. Then there's his band. He needed an outlet from family life -fair enough band practice once a week which gradually became twice a week with him coming home just slightly later every time, then gigs, and next inevitably I suppose 'the fancy woman' So at a certain point you throw up your hands and quit the scene. If nothing else this whole saga has allowed me to just walk away now and never look over my shoulder.
Sorry for the rant. I have pink and black nikes too which I wear when my moonboots need a rest.
xxx

Patienceobtainsallthings · 01/02/2011 22:10

I think u do what u can to save ur marriage Maybee ,but that takes 2.I think once I had 2 little uns at home he just saw it as an excuse.the number of times he just nipped out for 20 mins that turned into 3 hrs was uncanny lol x

gettingeasier · 01/02/2011 22:12

Oh Starting Sad. Patience is right though everything you've been through and your heart is still in working order. Dont give up quite yet on Norm ... ?

Patience wtf re broadband grrr. Seen someone kick boxing in gym looks good.

Maybee men and their fucking outlets I remember them well. God its so easy to forget their shit isnt it

Goo sorry you are ill wishing you wellness for the weekend , you still have 3 days and you are a dumpling remember !

Funny day today like someone slipped something in my morning coffee Confused

gettingeasier · 01/02/2011 22:14

Thats right he never went out only ever popped out - prat

startingovernow · 01/02/2011 22:41

Oh thank you all for your lovely messages. Realised a few hrs ago that I'm burning up with temperature (have cold). Well for anyone not in the know like Pink I tend to become a self pitying snivelling wreck when I have a temperature lol. So based on this am assuming that tomorrow is another day & that I will live to fight another day Smile. Padded bra on, onwards & upwards.

Getting, hope you mean you had a funny day in a good way & wish someone would slip something into my morning coffee Hmm

Maybee, hope you managed to get things sorted with work & childcare. Know what you mean about multi tasking & one thing after another!

ET, glad you are feeling wobbly in a good way Smile

Goo, oh that is really crap. Hope by tomorrow you & dc's will all be on the mend & that you'll be able to go to both the date & meet up ((Hugs))

pinksmarties · 01/02/2011 22:58

I heard one woman say to another woman today "yes, I think we need our partners more as we get older........."

and it made me a bit sad for a few mins,

then I come on here, men and their fucking outlets etc and I think I'm glad it won't be me who dresses exh's arse piles, worries about his heart, gets woken in the night 10 times while he goes for a piss with his dodgy prostate.

Sorry you're so upset Starting, with love comes pain but I don't think he's gone for good. He probably wanted to be a dumper rather than a dumpling, a bit cowardly but who can blame him.

Fingers crossed for a quick recovery Goo

I'd love a trip to Northumberland too though I've absolutely no idea where it is !

Patienceobtainsallthings · 01/02/2011 23:01

Oh have a bloody good wallow starting trifle fags chocolate and I'm sending u some irn bru.
Bloke says we get to shout and swear when we learn self defence.younger trainer is lovely btw just as well cause last episode of silent witness tonite .

pinksmarties · 01/02/2011 23:06

Oh NOOO Starting 'tis the fever' again, you're getting ill too often Starting, maybe you need a few multi vitamins or summing. Hope you eat your greens.

Seriously though all those fags deplete your body of nutrients, (I just made that up but I'm sure there's some truth in it)

Patienceobtainsallthings · 01/02/2011 23:11

Waves to pink x

gettingeasier · 01/02/2011 23:12

Dont mention fags please anyone

startingovernow · 01/02/2011 23:20

Pink, agree, think going back on the cigs has taken it's toll Blush. Next thing on my agenda to quit again!

Patience, have always wondered what irn bru is Confused

startingovernow · 01/02/2011 23:22

Ok, just googled irn bru Smile. Always thought it was some type of bovril drink Blush

pinksmarties · 01/02/2011 23:25

Night Patience, night Getting, night Starting, night MaryEllen, night Jimbob.....oh to be part of the Waltons, it's all i ever really wanted, and still do Sad

startingovernow · 01/02/2011 23:27

Nite Pink (((Hugs)))

gettingeasier · 01/02/2011 23:35

Pink dont be silly you cant be hilarious then post a sad face..cant see you in an apron or dungarees... Night x

Patienceobtainsallthings · 02/02/2011 00:12

I might even have a vodka in my irn bru this weekend starting,its made fae girders ya know x

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