Dumpling no more - only the strong survive and we did No.2

[Teaandcakeplease]

At first I was afraid, I was petrified
Kept thinkin' I could never live without him by my side;
But then I spent so many nights
Thinkin' how you did me wrong
And I grew strong

This thread is for ex dumplings Any dumpling that feels like she has "mostly" moved past crisis into an "almost" sorted state can post and chat here as we continue our quest for serenity with a lot of laughs along the way and support.

Hi all

Patience, did you try this? - hot lips good reviews on this very site according to the S&B girls.

Starting, Pink, I think of Norm as "our norm" too. I think he'll be back Starting. Whether you'll want him or not then I don't know but I think he will be back.

OffS, hmm, the laptop/PC war scenario is one I am VERY familiar with. But not now that DS is with The Saint.

Have posted my review now on the Rabbit hole thread - crossing my fingers that I win an annual cinema pass in the prize draw now. If I do then maybe there will be some Dumpling visits to the flicks

Waves to MumFun et al.

Starting an Alpha course this week btw although I'm missing the first week so that'll be next week then....

Oh wow will u be quoting from the bible like startings
NBF did when he found God

I always imagine that phase to be a bit like Samuel l Jackson in pulp fiction but without the big hair.

Ooh not tried the mother puckered lip gloss ,need to check it out .mostly s and g hand feet and body butters I've got but VANI T the best moisturiser ever.bought shea butter moisturiser from Avon ,just smells gorgeous.
Sat prob black skinnies heels and a shiny top getting.new bras in Avon catalogue as well might have a go ,6 quid x

Hello all.
Oh Starting - so sorry about Norm. I'm glad you can be so philosophical, although I know you're also upset. I think men are more practical than women where heart things are concerned. They back off more easily and get scared more easily. My exbf (and I'm not comapring him to Norm, as I know Norm is a good guy) got really scared about everything with me - distance, kids, love. Well, I also know he was a selfish twat who didn't want to compromise but even so, I think blokes get scared by practicalities whereas women think they can overcome practical problems for love. Anyway, I'm drivelling now. I'm just feeling for you love x
Patience and Maybee - train tickets booked! I'll pm you both x
i don't wear heels Patience - I'm 5'91/2 so heels make me feel like a transvestite lol. Don't know what I'm going to do about putting going out top on, as I'm arriving afternoon. Sure we'll sort something.
Well, going for dinner with CDman on Friday night :) Felt a bit better today and kids still poorly but not as bad, so hoping they'll pick up over this week.
Pink - sorry you're feeling a bit down.
I need some advice. Exbf's birthday on Thursday. Should I text him Happy Birthday or not?

I wouldn't bother texting Googoo tbh, but maybe I'm wrong.

Did any of you see Rastamouse today on CBeebies? Brilliant.

Hi everyone,
Thanks for all the empathy with me and my bags and boxes. A bona fide baglady that's what I am -and proud of it!
Getting How disappointing for you, but can I go against the grain and say I think he sounds a bit wimpy? I don't have a sense of him as others do but I reckon if he can't just 'man up' to a relationship then he doesn't deserve you. Not sleeping is rotten but you will move on from this one and emerge even stronger.
I wish more people could make it to Glasgow this Sat but hopefully this summer it can be done.
Patience You sound slinky! I love the idea that Feb will be a good one. The skies are v encouraging!
I had a couple of pals from my toddler group round for a cuppa today with their weans and although I had intended to tell them about going it alone now, the moment never came.
Mumfun Loved the link ha ha ha.
Enjoy your course Starting and goodnight to everyone. I'm reading another Dorothy Komsoon novel. Chocolate something and i'm hooked. I think she has a real handle on manipulative men and how they suck decent strong women in. This novel started off a bit crap and I was going to ditch it but it has picked up.
til later :)

Ggm I'm just doing "fabulous" from 1pm onwards.

Re exbf fuck im ,don't go there ,past field study,nothing to be gained there. He will probably write a fucking song about it ,he's a bam.

Hi all,

feeling fine again thanks after a grim weekend of feeling very deppressed. I wasn't even really missing exh, I just felt intense rage and contempt for him and and my family members (who I no longer am in contact with, all very complicated). My dc were all out for the weekend and much as I enjoyed the peace and quiet I felt very alone and just wished I had a lovely protective, supportive family, instead of a sorry excuse for one. Misserable and murderous I felt but.......I'm fine now.

Mumfun....It's amazing isn't it that a dad thinks he's hard done by, 'having' to have his DC 2 nights a week instead of one.

IMHO any descent dad would want to be with his little DC as much as possible.

I loved that clip by the way

Alpha course Happy ??? Are we not forfilling all your spiritual needs on here ?

I'm so pleased you're having a Scottish meet up, I'd love to come up in the summer.

Waves to all x

Lol Patience - ok I'm with you on the fabulous front (mind you, I'll have to do it from 10am at mine, so might not be too glam).
Will also have overnight bag with me - hope I can find somewhere to dump it before tipples start!
And I was thinking same thing as you and Tea - fuck him. He hates being ignored but as they say round here "Move on down the bus pet!"
Maybee - hee hee! A little cheeky meetup! x

Lol re slinky,
Actually only clothes I have so if I do pull,I will have to wear white skinnies next time and just alternate every other date lol.
Ggm I wear workboots everyday ,sometimes trainers,so heels are a def treat for me x

Ah Pink - so sorry you had a grim weekend - glad thing are looking up a bit now. Not surprising that you feel the ocassional rage. I think that's completely normal.
Hey girls. In the summer we need a Northumbrian meetup too!!!! Us northern girls always have a good time! You can all stay here - we'll have a dumpling no more commune for a day and night...bliss :)

case of mistaken identity Maybee

Sorry 8getting* I always mix you up with starting and actually my post was probablt too harsh on this Norman boyo. I just have v little patience/tolerance for men just now. Apart from my ds who dance happily on the dinner table and cheerfully trash my house.

happy I meant to say enjoy your course! i'll quit now. :o

Pink its their loss really it is , glad you feel stronger and this will be your 365 days of disdain and detachment. You have been through so much you are an inspiration to us all and I love the way you have such a strong yet not bitter attitude quite a line to tread

Tea enjoy your night out

Maybee we will fly the flag for man free lives

Back from another night of college!

Maybee, I know what you mean & tbh if I was reading about it I'd be more along your line of thought. However having been in v intense relationship for 5nmts with him & knowing him as I do makes me slow to pull the bolt on the door just yet. If he is having some sort of personal crisis at the thought of moving forward & comes back to me some time soon I'll see if we can move forward. There's no guarantee that I wouldn't want to dump him myself for some other reason further down the line but he is one of the good ones & he ticks a lot of boxes for me.

Patience, pmsl at "2Re exbf fuck im ,don't go there ,past field study,nothing to be gained there. He will probably write a fucking song about it ,he's a bam." Goo, nothing more to add, Patience has it covered . Loving your glitz & glam Patience. Also loving your memory of NBF quoting scripture to me back in the day . Had forgotten about that!

Happy, hope you get something from the course & good luck with the competition.

Goo, glad you're feeling a bit better. Hope date with CDman goes great & nice to have it to look forward to after ordeal with dc's being sick . Am also thrilled for the dumplings getting to meet up but also slightly

Pink, you've had more then most to deal with it so I think it's normal that you're going to still have bleak periods. I think the family situation is a real double blow ((Hugs))

And what about banjo lessons.
I used to be so compassionate and then he would come out with something like that.someone might buy him a banjo and that would solve everything,he would live in a caravan next to the pub and learn how to play the banjo.I swear to fuck the amount of shite I had to listen to over this last year.meanwhile I am trying to feed 2 kids and keep it together while he goes all out to discover the true meaning of life and divine happiness.
Ah well patience obtains all things x

Ps travel lite ggm ,I always find clean pants,make up ,a hair bobble and a can of cider will get me by on an overnight stay

Happy how do u download and save music onto ur phone ?

Ah, fell asleep and woken up now by the cat trying to soon me again.

Feeling very of meet up up there. I look forward to the photos.

Patience, you can either transfer it from your pc if you have some there, download it using one of the free music apps from the market (search on music and various apps should come up - it works but is not the best), or you can use something like Amazon mp3 (sign up on Amazon and then get the amazon mp3 app from the market). I tend to use Amazon, usually 89p a tune. Can download a song in about a minute our less over wifi, its quite dangerous. If you do that back up music regularly to PC.

Sorry for thread hijack!

I agree Starting about not bolting door on Norm. Being honest when you told us he was in a mess and had realised he wasnt ready for a relationship although Patience had a point of why did it take him so long to work it out I thought to myself I could imagine that happening to me. He was in a long marriage and you were the first girl hes met I do have sympathy with his confusion and terror at being hurt.

How are you today Pink ? I hope you are ok x

Patience can I suggest if you havent had a night out for 3 years you give cider a miss at the weekend and go for something lighter

Goo I would love to do a Northumberland meet up the countryside there looks sublime . Hows things with your boss ?

Citydoll are you lurking ? How are you at the moment ?

Waves to all lurkers and regulars.

Day 4 with no cigs ( cos am full of cold )wish me luck I feel excuses coming on to buy some

I'm lurking

Sorry to hear that Norm is grappling with himself, Starting. You can't sort his shit out as well as your own so I think you do right to leave him to lick his wounds for a while.

Good to read all the upbeat stuff here. I'm a bit wobbly right now but I know I'm making progress.

Ok last week bt promised ten days for phone line and broadband phoned today and told march the 10th fucking raging told him I wanted compensation and got 6 mths free broadband ,fuck fuckity fuck !