Dumpling no more - only the strong survive and we did No.2

[Teaandcakeplease]

At first I was afraid, I was petrified
Kept thinkin' I could never live without him by my side;
But then I spent so many nights
Thinkin' how you did me wrong
And I grew strong

This thread is for ex dumplings Any dumpling that feels like she has "mostly" moved past crisis into an "almost" sorted state can post and chat here as we continue our quest for serenity with a lot of laughs along the way and support.

Oh missed that one. Love BBC 4's music things. Fab fab song too!

Anyone still up?

went to bed at 9.30pm and slept badly. Have a storming headache. DS woke at 5.30am. Who needs sleep anyway...

Probably the rain Tea. I woke twice and it was pouring! Hope the headache disappears.

Due to do sport today and thinking it may be rained off...

Urgh, still pouring here. Staying in bed reading my boss asked me out on a date thread. Always liked a bit of Mills and Boon .

DS has been waking early for weeks and trying to sneak into my bed. So it's not the rain.

What to do on a wet day with no money... That's the question here.

Hey Tea is there a library or Gallery nearby that are doing stuff for children? I am lucky that the library I work in has Lego,duplo, toys, games, colouring sheets...and books for children to play with. I take my girls to our local gallery where they hold a craft workshop for £1 (to cover the cost of the material)

But today, I'm taking littlest dd to have her ears pierced. Not sure when I promised this..must have been one of those conversations when I couldn't quite hear her and just responded with a "Yes, that sounds nice"

Didn't sleep well,apart from obvious reasons,I also had 2 shaggers on my doorstep at 2 am .have complained about the broken security lock plenty .I chased them,dog went mental and the girl says is it ok if I put my tights on,eh no fuck off !

Waves to tea Kate and happy x

"Is it ok if I put my tights on " lol Patience ! Hope you are feeling good still

Pouring here too , the gym Happy ?

Kate how the devil are you ?

goo dd used to be a bit like that and used to often have nightmares but she grew out of it, it is wearing though

Ds went off on a school trip at 3.30am so am feeling a bit jaded too. Just dd and I until onday night so I am hoping for a nice time together.

We are going to see house at 11 , lay awake mulling it over in the small hours , got a trusty friend coming with me but its not the same is it.

Trusy friend is the one possibly splitting from H due to textbook sounding infidelity but she has no proof. Its hard to know how MN knowledge to impart and whether to swing towards being brutally honest or keeping neutral. She is pretty scared and confused.

Anyway nice quiet day after lunchtime , I feel a few films coming on !

Elsie ok ? Did you get the job ?

Hope its a bit more spring like in other parts of dumpling land

Yeah feeling ok,just wait and see what happens having a bath then take the kids out.can u do painting tea,my dd keeps doin secret painting LOL

Hello Everyone, I hope you wonderful ladies are doing well and managing to bat away any negativity that comes your way!

I'm ok getting thankyou, still going through some rubbish with he who shall be known as 'Tossbag'.

He's now stalling on selling the house...he's moved in with her - so it's stood empty. I asked about it and he is now giving me the whole 'It's HIS house, HIS name on the mortgage' and he can do what he wants with it. So, he's forgotton that I worked for 13 years while also bringing our girls up (including when he was unemployed)

So, depending on what happens this week, looks like it is going to be a nightmare.

We had a flaming row about it - I lost my cool and serenity and was really annoyed with myself because I brought up HER quite a lot and I hate to think that they think I'm bothered.

She did her usual retribution to me then...speaking to my girls when he rings to say goodnight. She's so predictable, it's becoming dull.

So, had to tell him again that she was NOT to speak to them when they are at my house and there would be consequences if she does it again. Quite enjoyed puting my foot down as she is clearly keeping him on a short leash. I asked him if he was 'able' to tell her she wasn't to speak to them.

I know so much dodgy financial stuff that goes on where they both work that Tossbag knows I will quite happily spill the beans if they continue to disrupt my serene outlook on life. I think she is still thriving on the 'drama' of it and he's doing the stoking of the fire. I'm sure they were talking about it last night long after I had cracked open the wine and toasted myself for being free of such a knobhead.

They are under the illusion that my girls are desparate to hear from them both when they are with me. The truth is, they don't mention either of them. They know their dad has chosen to spend time with her and not them and they have to deal with that in their own way. They don't mention when he doesn't ring or wonder when they will see him.

Still seeing 'date man' he's lovely but I am taking it slow - distance realtionship is working for me. He, of course is madly in love with the wonderfulness that is Kate (mainly because I take 3 hours to get ready before I ever see him)

My kids are the same Kate re not bovvered about dad.Ds said to me last night if daddy doesn't turn up on Sunday can we go to the park.I just thought kids just roll with it .they see u for who ur because of ur actions not ur words doesnt mean he isnt sad inside but things to do parks to visit.
Glad new man is lovely Kate.
When I went out my door last nite and was confronted with lots of knicker pulling up I said I'm just out here for a smoke and I think the bloke thought that meant he could get back to shagging,I said do u live here (why I don't know it was 2am)he said No (obviously he had his trousers down )and I said well get yerself to fuck .I swear my life used to be so peaceful,only loose cows had 4 legs and I just shook a bucket to get them back in the field.town cows are young ugly and full of chlamydia.
Talking of chlamydia daftie hasn't texted again.

LOL "Do you live here?" I'm sitting here laughing. I need something to laugh about, my head is splitting and I'm so tired. I love how laid back you sound about it all and straight talking to them.

Kate our library doesn't do things like that. That sounds great.

Left a message for my landlord to sort the lock.on top of everything else I told her she was a fucking a disgrace and told him he was a disgrace ,if that's how he treats a girl,he said At least I'm waiting for her,meanwhile she staggers out holding onto her tights bare foot.I just thought ,wtf are women doing these days having sex on a stone floor outside someone's flat at 2 in the morning.

It's all about class Patience and they don't got none of that!
I used to work in a school which was right next door to a big high school. One day our school cook came out of the kitchen, which was right next to my classroom, to put something in one of the big outside bins, only to find a 14 year old lad shagging a 14 year old girl inside the bin. She shouted in her very very Goerdie tones "Oi! Get oot of that bin ye two!" So they scrambled out and she said "Eeh, pet. If ye divent catch something off the rubbish ye are bound te catch something off him!"
The mind boggles. He was later charged with having sex with a minor - even though he was only 14 too...
I used to live in a ground floor flat next to a pub and my bedroom window had a very large stone windowsill. Every Saturday night I'd get woken up by drunken couples sitting on my windowsill and arguing "Ahhhh, why were you looking at her you bastard? I love you ye na! You can f**k off and get your own taxi home!" It's great eh? I feel for you.
Kate - yes, your exh deserves the new name of Tossbag. I suggest you get to a solicitor asap. They might have slightly different ideas about the house.
Good luck Getting with house hunting. Hope it goes well.
Tea - I feel for you. Stick in there. Good luck today x
And Patience - pity she wasn't as attached to her tights at the start of her little love session - then she might have thought twice before taking them off in your doorway!

Ok just smelt weed in my flat,opened the door lassie smoking a j outside my door ,I say "that's coming into my house btw"
She says no bother and goes outside.
I think her dad takes my bin out sometimes LOL so don't want to burn any bridges.

Oh just great eh? The joys of communal living! I live next door to a vicar, so don't have that problem lol.
Going to see True Grit later - I love love Jeff Bridges so shoudl be good. Looking forward to my Scottish visit :)

Ru still making it after all uve heard LOL,watch the vicar he's probably got a bong hidden somewhere from his youth .if we bump into that couple in the pub I will crack up.thats it though ggm between 12 and 4 am its all girls pissed crying and swearing at their fellas.I just can't imagine dating atm.I've gone all hardcore zero tolerance .enjoy ur film saw a bit on the baftas the other nite x

Yeah course I am lol. In the summer me and exbf visited some friends and his mate lives in a flat - we had an experience coming home and opening communal door which was very funny but also very icky! I'll tell you when I see you!
Quite right on zero tolerance - I'd be the same, especially with kids in the house. The pissed conversations outside are the bloody worst IMO. You want to shout "He's a wanker ok and you're pissed. So shut up and go home!" lol

I know but then they brick ur window
How's the house hunting getting ?

Listening to your chat about behaviour outside your home reminds me of why I am glad I dont live in London anymore !

Kate get to a solicitor but from going with an unmarried friend a couple of months ago whilst you cant claim a share of his financial assets you definetly are entitled to a share in "his" house. In my friends case she was on the deeds so the solicitor didnt need to go into it as they had half each. However he advised her that when she buys her new property that if someone moves in with her unless they have signed a Deed of Trust then they will automatically become entitled to a share in her house irrespective of the fact its all owned by her etc. So the same must apply to your ex. Oh and what a complete shit for trying to pull a stunt anyway.

So I want this house really badly , DD and my friend loved it and so do I . My friend is such a tough negociator shes saying offer x and ask them to leave y. Getting is a wimp with all this. Going to sleep on it and decide how much to offer tomorrow.

Lying under the duvet after a piggie lunch with my friend in the pub going to MN and read - bliss

I know Patience - that's why I never shouted anything at em!
Getting - hey, glad you loved the house. You've got nothing to lose in this economic climate - a cheeky offer at first is fine and you never know - you might get lucky! New life starts here eh?
Just plucked hairs from eyebrows and other places (I'm so fecking hairy!) and now sitting with a face pack on - come out in loads of spots probably due to stress and chocolate eating :)
Then going to attempt the legs and underarms - usually get underarms waxed but been saving money so will have to do it myself and as I look like the yeti under there I don't think it's going to work. By hey, I'm not making myself "perfect" for any man ever again - they see what they get lol

Like I said Patience this is the house for me but I have to be careful not to pay too much, this area is bucking the trend overall and plus so few houses for sale so its more a sellers than buyers market tbh. Need to offer enough to get it but not get stiffed !!! Will just be glad when all this is over with tbh

Are you meeting CD man then goo ?