Dumpling no more - only the strong survive and we did No.2

[Teaandcakeplease]

At first I was afraid, I was petrified
Kept thinkin' I could never live without him by my side;
But then I spent so many nights
Thinkin' how you did me wrong
And I grew strong

This thread is for ex dumplings Any dumpling that feels like she has "mostly" moved past crisis into an "almost" sorted state can post and chat here as we continue our quest for serenity with a lot of laughs along the way and support.

A quick hello,
I'm dosed with the cold but did manage to go into the west end today and had a lovely time in Bot gardens and charity shops. I bought a keyring for 50p such restraint!
Googs and Starting Sorry you both feel so shitty and slumpy just now. I hope you start to rise up out of it soon. Just take it easy and be nice to yourselves. Glasgow will wait for you Googs. Kids have a funny grip on your heart. Sometimes you need a break and then when you have it you want them back. I saw a fire engine today (by myself)and wanted to go neehnawneehnaw
I'm off to bed but will search for the whiskey first, if ever anyone deserved a hot whiskey it is me tonight.
Good night everyone
xxx

Hi Maybee! So sorry you're full as well. Whiskey good idea - glad you had a nice little trip into town. Can't wait to see a bit of Glasgow :)
I know what you mean - whenever I see a tractor I shout out "tractor" even when I'm on my own!

Goog I have a spare DVD player here, when you come and visit take it home with you x

Fly by visit on way to bed, hugs all round lovelies x

Waves to Maybee ,glad u had a nice day x

Evening All,

Sorry your feeling down today goo and starting, had a cry myself earlier, decide to have a good go through everything today and went through my memory ottoman (it's that big i need an ottoman lol) to sort it out a bit as the DC got into it the other week and faced with alot of memories from the past had me in floods, i have had some wonderful things in my life but i have also had a LOT of shit in my life and lost so many people i loved (X included), i dont open it often but it had to be done, felt loads better after a good cry and was back to the mentality of onwards and upwards by the time i had cleaned the upstairs

Patience, all my DVD's have been ruined by DC they like to use them as frisbees unfortunately so am going to replace them all and lock them away

PMSL Patience, I wonder if that's what Mary (wife of Joseph) said...'I look about 6 months pregnant tonight, don't know why, only rr been near me'

'This too will pass' Goo and starting, sometimes it takes too effing long though. I was like that all of last weekend. then on the Sunday evening I could actually feel it lifting, took about 10 mins and then I was ok again. Was odd, but I was sooo relieved.

I think it just must be the time of year, or the weather, or something, that gets one down so hello goo and starting, so sorry you both having a bad day. spent the evening on my own with dd2 watching two dvds (from rental shop and did NOT stick); dd2 somewhat aghast at my choice but she was totally hooked by the new Brideshead Revisited; at least we are not all stuck in 1939 , look on the bright side ...

Hi everyone. So glad I've got this thread. Quite cathartic to have a cry actually - I find it hard to cry so when I do it's a relief. Sorry you had a little sad time too Sov but think it does us all good at times. And Pink - just had a belly laugh at Mary and the rr. Know you had a bad time last weekend. Glad you're on the up and your sparkling wit is just the ticket!
Hi Offschool - ah Brideshead one of my fave books.
My newly divorced and newly engaged friend has posted a pic of a new tattoo on fb - so unlike her to have a tattoo for a start. Ut's a heart with her fiance's initials by it. I'm slightly horrified. The tattoo doesn't bother me but getting one with his initials on does. She ain't even married to him yet!!! What if it goes pearshaped at any point?

Goo, that was so sad to read how xbf made you feel & yet how much you still miss him. Emotions are funny things & logic seems to go out the window! I've finished hoovering etc & just having that cuppa now lol

Patience, pmsl at looking pregnant but only been touched by RR

On the whole subject of dvd's I'm forever wandering around muttering "why didn't they just stick with good old videos" lol. So many scratched dvd's in this house & so many traumatic occasions when mid way through dvd stopped

Pink, yes I've had times like that when I feel it lifting & it's such a relief. Will just have to ride the storm.......

Maybee, hope you found that whiskey

Off, I'm actually enjoying the howling wind atm, it kind of mirrors my humour . Glad you had a nice afternoonn with dd

Goo, agree that getting a tattoo with name of fiance is a tad ott. Probably just her way of coping though i.e. throwing herself into a new relationship. It does work for some people though so hopefully it'll work for her.

Sov, feel slight that you coped with your downer so effectively while I'm here wallowing in self pity/misery/despair blah, blah,blah. Glad your well.

Don't feel embarrassed Starting. You're allowed to feel down after what's happened this week with Norm. I was bloody distraught when exbf finished things. And I'm down about it today and it was 3 months ago!

She only got divorced in June. I just worry for her. It's all so out of character for her and I don't think she knows him well enough yet. I think she's vulnerable. I know I was 6 months after my divorce. I couldn't even think about dating let alone getting married again. And I know we're all different but I'm scared for her.

I know what you mean Goo & I know that path wouldn't be for me. However saying that I know a woman in our position who came out of a terrible marriage & immediately set up home with a new man. This was about 15yrs ago & they are one of the happiest couples I know. Saying that the odds are prob one in a million!

Starting just another bend in the road innit.the summer will bring more Taps Aff weather and I for one will sit back and enjoy the view.I agree re dvds they lied to us its a govt conspiracy they said they were indestructable we could spread jam on them but they LIED .just makes u wonder wot else they lie about when they can't even get dvds right.

Very tempting to get a tattoo.where would you put it.I think I might get HARDCORE ,YOU KNOW THE SCORE .

Patience, your right about it just being another bend on the road . You're right too about the dvd's . I haven't ruled out a dumpling tattoo........

I'd get a no entry sign above my pubes

Re Xs ,I just think they are doing their thing.the secret is be happy just doing our thing.they don't want to be with us .don't waste ur time wondering why, just work on ur own fabulosity.
We don't want blokes that lie and hurt us .fuck that.we don't need weakness and confusion just respect and good loving.

Too extreme ggm lol
This is a mere dip not a reason to join a monastery

ROTFPMSL @ Goo 'I'd get a no entry sign above my pubes' that is classic :o

I make you right about DVD's Patience, but they do make good frisbees when all else fails :o

Starting, i was already too far in to stop re cleaning, if i didnt finish no-one had anywhere to sleep tonight, am supposed to be cleaning the bathroom atm but have been procrastinating (sp?) so am off to do it now, then thats the upstairs done and will do downstairs tomorrow, should only take half an hour and it so much easier to do it when DC are in bed

Waves to Maybee and Off and anyone else lurking, be back tomorrow, hope you all have a good nights sleep

It's true though we have to put all our effort into feeling kick ass fabulous everyday of our lives,just bigging ourselves up .imagine if we were more tigger,than eeyore everyday ,wouldn't it be great !!!

Oh I'm deffo going to be more tigger than eeyore! Patience - you should write a little book of quotes - lovin it! :)
Night night everyone. Tomorrow is another day. Bounce!

Patience....think I'm stuck being Pooh.

Would love to be more Tigger.

Starting, Goo and Sov sorry to hear you've been down but it will pass off soon I am sure

What a shame the night out got cancelled and I hope you rebook soon.

Reading you ladies feeling hurt about men after your husbands made me shudder with fear. Talking to my friend last night saying that now these past couple of months feeling better I dont know how I would cope with heart related pain. I posted on a thread a couple of days ago about being single a year and quite happy with it and someone responded saying to make sure I didnt get too cosy being single because it wasnt a good place to be . I asked them to explain and I will go back and have a look to see if they have.

A couple of us organised the school quiz night on friday and it went well but we went back to hers afterwards and ended up drinking until 4.30am so guess who felt like death yesterday . They are the group I do a lot with and that the husbands socialise too and post several drinks ended up tearfully asking one who still sees xh why he went out every fucking night when he was with me getting plasterd and yet now doesnt hardly ever go out. I have no idea where it came from , alcohol probably , and worst of all I can only remember about half of his reply because I was drunk

Anyway yesterday was a right off apart from going up to my bfs overnight with the dc and we had a nice time. Watched a programme called Take Me Out with her that had us in stiches about dating.

Also had a bit of a moment yesterday. Finally got our Deed of Separation which xh has signed which is great news but I took it to Bfs to be my witness when I sign and I burst into tears when we did it. Sigh. However I pulled myself together sharpish and it really is good news as its all done now and our actual divorce will be a 5 minute job as all the money and kids are sorted. Its funny older dumplings will know this has been months coming and quite a lot of turmoil but now I dont feel anything.

Off to ds football in a minute so see you later .

I wish I had ur social life getting ,what was the thread about btw cos I am nowhere near over what has happened to me ,I dont know if I ever will get over being dumped.I haven't got a babysitter to look after the dcs ,so I'm going to b single for a long long time.A year is nothing imo.