Dumpling no more - only the strong survive and we did No.2

[Teaandcakeplease]

At first I was afraid, I was petrified
Kept thinkin' I could never live without him by my side;
But then I spent so many nights
Thinkin' how you did me wrong
And I grew strong

This thread is for ex dumplings Any dumpling that feels like she has "mostly" moved past crisis into an "almost" sorted state can post and chat here as we continue our quest for serenity with a lot of laughs along the way and support.

Morning Tea. I was really hoping that I could laze in bed this morning, but hey ho. That's not happened since Ex left so I am clearly dreaming!

Patience, my lovely, what an arse he is. Is there any way that you just don't engage with him for a long while...just e-mail or texts? That helped for me. If not, keep posting his vileness here and we can get rid of it on your behalf.

Ex h telephoned last night to discuss how much money I was going to pay him, for leaving me with two DC and a money-pit of a house. I was vair, vair nice to him...my current strategy is to kill him with kindness.

My date has been bombarding me with gorgeous texts but I've got that funny feeling in my stomach that I used to get when I was a teenager..where I wasn't sure what was going on. I am not used to people being nice to me!!

Tea, are you darn sarf?

I'm am indeed. Watford, Herts

Butterfly type feeling DC?

No unfortunately...an icky feeling!

Oh ok last time I had one of those feelings I didn't trust it and dated a man who it went so disastrously wrong with I had to contact the police due to harrassment when we broke up, as he wouldn't leave me alone and turned up at work, rang my phone constantly until I answered, waited outside of work for me everynight and would follow me in his car. It was awful and I wish I'd trusted my instincts. I tend to be a great believer in gut instincts and if you feel really sick and it's not natural nerves. I'd put some distance between you. Does that make sense?

Blimey Tea, that sounds awful!

I'm not sure what the feeling is...he's just a bit over eager and his texts are interfering in my day. I am going to take your advice and take a few paces back.

It's such a gorgeous day today here. Blue skys. What have you got planned for the day, Tea?

Not much, it's my ex H's birthday tomorrow and he's coming over in the afternoon for a birthday tea for him with the kids and a cake, so I need to go and buy a cake Always quiet at weekends here.

Sounds nice. I am going to take advantage of the peace and quiet here and go and dye my roots! Exciting...not!

Have a lovely day

Just posted on old thread in my new thrifty mode , there are at least 6 posts left you know

Ah, here you all are!

Morning all, Tea, thanks for the thread. You are very kind to xh. A cake!

Getting, I had the same thought about the old thread needing to be full.

Goo hope you are not all too ill.

Patience glad to see you completed the old thread with some wise words.

DCS, hmm, can see those texts might feel a bit full on.Stepping back a little sounds good.

Morning Elsie

Off to make a late cooked breakfast and considering some retail therapy. Tennis, retail therapy, tennis, retail therapy. Not sure which will win.

Tomorrow have got the free tickets for The Rabbit Hole mumsnet preview. Anyone else going?

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Afternoon all am marking my place

Patience, my X does sometimes talk to me like that but it's not often and he gets put right in his place, also i minimise engaging with him these days

On that subject DS3 had a eye test on thursday as i was worried about something, told X and asked if he was available incase DS3 needed to go to the hospital, he said ok but was only available for a short while (he doesnt work so what else could be more important than his DC)
Eye test went well and my fears were unfounded, X didnt even bother to get in touch to see how it went, i eventually text him last night and said DC3 is ok, thanks for asking, he replys with, didnt know it was today thanks for letting me know, of course i replied by saying it wasnt, it was the day before hence the reason i asked if he was about to take us hospital if need be, no reply to that TWAT!!!

It just drives home even more that he is so detatched that it hadnt even entered his head about the appointment but then i already guessed that was going to happen, didnt stop me being annoyed by it though

Oh how nice Happy, very of the cinema trip. Retail therapy wins imo

The cake is more for the kids, DD is terribly excited at helping daddy blow out the candles and giving him a present. It's nothing technically from me, it's all from the kids to him. Probably sounds like sophistry though

Urgh Sov Glad DC3 was ok though.

Hi all, blimey you have filled one thread already!!!

Dilemma, this guy has been emailing me (trying to help myself move on, not sure im ready but what had I got to lose!) Anyway, after a few emails he emailed last night asking if I want to meet for a dog walk tomorrow! I think it is too soon, dont think I am ready to meet up yet. So me thinking this would help me has actually given me a bit of a worry. What a pillock!

Goo hope your son is better today, shame about having to cancel meal with CDman.

Retail therapy Tea, sounds good what are you looking for?

Hi all
Surviving here! Romney - wow. GO for a dog walk. Why not? I'm proud of how far you've come love :) Dating is a bit worrying but be brave and try and enjoy a simple walk.
Has anyone heard from Kate?!

Hi all

Retail therapy won

Rom, hmm, difficult one, flattering though

Sov, yes TWAT is the word

Queuing for the car park, loving radio 2 old hits (old emoticon)

Yes dcs sunhill ,detatchment is v easy.he doesn't email.hardly texts and never phones me.he is soooo pleased to be free of us .ya know all that wife and kids shit ............
Playing at kelvingrove ,managed to see van gough,gaugin,Monet picasso and cezanne paintings.also bought some rose quartz and amethyst.saw loads of animals a spitfire plane and now playing in the park x

Ooo Romney flattering as Happy says. I'm in the camp of telling him you're not ready to go for a walk yet but how about in a few weeks instead, or tell him you're busy tomorrow. I wouldn't rush it if you're not ready.

Sounds like a good afternoon Patience.

Right, new make up and top. Thats done the trick. Out tonight with good RL dumpling friend.

Enjoy urself happy,just got into the wrong lane x2 at anniesland cross ,busy junction,coming out of town.not done that EVER b4 ,nevermind x2 .anyway amethyst ,calmness seems to be working and recovered from tour of the West End and eating a happy meal x

Glad calmness prevails Patience.

, just saw this on the news.

"A man was caught on a covert infra-red camera performing a sex act on a horse at a stable in D"

This is where The Saint is - could he have gone too far this time?

Googoo how nice to sneak to bed for a nap.

Patience where have you been today. I must get some amethyst.

Happy have a good evening.

ET hope your work went well, It will be hard going back but it will also be good for you.

Kelvingrove museum and art galleries .it was great,it had loads of crystals from all over the world.huge amethyst ,tourmaline and hematite.I'm going to be Jangling goin out next weekend with all my minerals

lol Happy...I think!

Hi everyone,
wow lots of people on hot dates! It must be fun just getting out and enjoying adult company and a bit of a flirt. Right now I feel like I'm thru wi men, way too much hassle, I just need me and my boys. I'm getting in shape, got me lots of cheap and cheerful bargain wear, might even do the drastic hairdo thing before I move. I will rebuild a good social life however, I thrive on close friendships actually. I don't need lots of people round me but love confiding and sharing and having a laugh with the right people. I'll have more opportunities when I live close to my folks.
Patience Your day sounds fab. I loved doing stuff like that when I lived in the west end. There are some lovely wee shops off byres rd which I used to browse for crystals when I split with x 7 years ago. That played such a big part in my healing process and writing which i feel pulled to doing again. Yet lo and behold it has happened all over again! Tho this time i'm tougher and wiser and older so isn't anywhere near as painful.
On Thurs nite my 3 yr old had a stonking tantrum, he wanted his bun before dinner so howled blue murder! I did not give in so it went on and on. Eventually I cajoled him by feeding him up with yogurt and cheese then the bun as a result his eyes (v pale blue) were huge red and puffy the next morning. So I left him at nursery on Fri morning ad went to work. Sure enough as soon as I set foot in school the nursery phoned to say'conjunctivitis please take him home' So once more I had to get out of work get him to the drs to prove a point. Dr says 'not infectious he can go back' So I brought him back bumped a bumper leaving the tiny carpark! At the nursery my other ds saw me arriving and howled to leave with me. Then I go back to work and get a bit coldshouldered. You can't win can you? Next week I have immu clinic for MMR with baby so need more time. anyway this am I woke up to a blocked loo which was a nightmare to sort out with 2 tots running around. Some days are just so taxing. anyway now they are asleep and I have my wine and a book so will try and be positive but it is tough going.
Googs I hope you feel better soon too it sounds like you've been thru the mill. Big hugs
Romney Just do what You feel like doing and think you may enjoy. I've been reading some fab books which advocate putting your needs first so do not rush into a walk if you do not feel ready.
goodnight sov happy tea getting starting and all.
xxx