I have just discovered that i am pregnant but, don't want to be with my partner no more!

[sweetchecks]

Done a pregnancy test today ad it came back positive.

My boyfriend is wanker and i don't want to be with him no more :/

i don't know what to do shall i tell him am pregnant?

I did give advice. You said: (I'll paraphrase for you)

I am pregnant
The baby's father is a wanker
I don't want to be with him anymore
Another woman is also expecting his baby
He is no longer with her
I'm 20 years old
I live with my parents
I already have one child
My child is 'alot of work by herself'
I do not have a job
I am halfway through a college course

You asked 'what should I do?' By that, I assumed there were obvious choices and options laid out in front of you, and you were asking for guidance about which way to proceed. Based on what I know, my advice was (and still is) a termination. If that was never on the agenda for you then I'm not sure why you asked the question.

What did you expect us all to say?

Is it not far worse to bring a child in to the world who cant be financially provided for than terminate what is effectively a group of cells?

And besides, the second part of your question said 'should I tell him?'

Can you actually ask that question with a straight face? Who exactly were you hoping would help you support this baby for the next 18 years and pay to put a roof over its head? Were you hoping I'd do it? Or Lovecat? Or Appletrees? We are in a godawful mess in this country and people who take their responsibilities seriously are running full pelt just to stand still right now. Many are sinking. (crappy mixed metaphors there, sorry ) Many many people have done everything right, worked for years, yet are still losing their jobs and their homes. Many many far more highly skilled, highly qualified, highly experienced people than you are struggling to even the most low-paid jobs at the moment. Many couples who've been waiting years to afford a second baby, or get a foot on the housing ladder, are still waiting. And many people who have suffered serious setbacks in life back already have families that need our support until they can get back on their feet.

WHOOOSH. (that was the sound of my point going totally over sweetcheck's pretty little head.

Just to reiterate it is your decision and yours alone. And actually you have to have to want a baby for you and no one else whether you are in a relationship or not because shit does happen even to the best prepared of us. if you feel you can support this child in every way then do it.

Although (and yes isn't hindsight a wonderful thing) why on earth were you in a relationship with someone who had a pregnant ex? This man clearly has no idea about responsibility and you didnt use contraception?

Yea i do want this baby and i will struggle at first but will get there in the end i have had a think about it and every kid deserves to know it father, so i wouldn't be by my self and he works so would be helping out with money etc.

I feel your pain FellatioNelson and applaud your efforts. I was trying, and failing to make the same point with my own story, not projecting, but it was a waste anyway.

How did we get here?

Get the Pill and clasp it between your knees from now on...

Did you intend (or secretly hope) to get pregnant sweetchecks?

Only for someone of your age and current circumstances, who says they would rather have waited and got the right partner/job/home first, you only did your test yesterday, and forgive me, but you don't exactly sound like you are in a state of shock or bewilderment or worry about it. It just doesn't ring true to me.

I don't know PL but I wish we could go back!

Hope you have more luck with those questions that I did SGM!

Laughinglil you are a vile little creature. Reported

no im seeing the other side of the picture. I have read this thread from top to bottom and cannot believe the responses.
Why oh why does everyone assume that if people have children young they are bad mothers on benefits ?

Noone is making blanket assumptions. The OP is being incredibly naive

Well then sweet, why bother posting at all?

You have decided to have this baby. Woteva.

Tell the fecklass ass you shagged and hope he drops round some nappies every few months.

Good luck.

laughinglil - stop please! ffs.
you're making an arse of yourself!

In fact, being charitable, I think this entire thread, and the others the OP has posted, are just a form of attention seeking. I rarely get cross on relationships, but this is for real, I suggest the OP stops wasting her and our time with pointless threads and do some remedial English homework to ensure she has at least some skills to survive in the job market.

Well if this thread is making you annoyed angry what ever stop commenting and don't comment on any other ones i post :)

Good luck sweetcheeks. Like you, I could not put myself through the emotional turmoil of an abortion

I suggest you tell the father, and fingerscrossed he will be supportive. If you stay with him, it may be difficult, but he needs to be his other childs life too, as his ex's baby ideally needs a father.

Please finish your college course. Personally I have nothing against a couple of years on benefits, due to circumstances, but not a lifetime on benefits. DH and I work hard and pay taxes, and I hate it when someone has lots of children and a lifetime of benefits. These people are a drain on society. Show us that despite having two children by two different fathers at 20, you can make something of yourself for you and your children's future.

"Well then sweet, why bother posting at all?

You have decided to have this baby. Woteva"

she didn't post to ask if she should have the baby, she posted to ask if she should tell the father. but of course being MN, bad spelling and her age was an open invitation for all of that pent up spite and nastiness to seep up over those judgypants. you just couldn't help youreslves and all of a sudden felt entitled to know every single aspect of her life so taht you had even more to judge her on. shame on you. nest of vipers is quite apt at times.