I have just discovered that i am pregnant but, don't want to be with my partner no more!

[sweetchecks]

Done a pregnancy test today ad it came back positive.

My boyfriend is wanker and i don't want to be with him no more :/

i don't know what to do shall i tell him am pregnant?

what MadameDefarge said.

Oh, and as for boring, don't really think so. I drive a top end convertible sports car, travel and stay in the best hotels, can buy the best clothes, my home is gorgeous and am a rather good pianist.

Life is anything but boring when you have a brain

I really think you should stop using comments about PL's illness as a joke LL. If you mean it in a tongue in cheek way then all I can say is your 'humour' is not translating well. You sound offensive.

The difference in their situations is nothing to do with age - PL's circumstances were unforseeable and unlucky. Your logic is flawed. Shut the fuck up.

Laughinlil - do fuck off you are doing more harm than good here. Perfumedlife, that is awful and I'm sorry you felt you had to defend yourself on here.

OP. Tell them. They are the only ones you have to count on.

Sounds awful perfume lucky you had private health insurance really not like all us normal folk who have to make do with the nhs . I'm not having a go about being Ill or being and older parent it just annoys me that people who are young parents get all this bollocks thrown at them ... Yes perfume your post about being 21 and having an abortion because you were silly with no money... Ok it was the best thing for you at that time but it doesn't mean other 21 year olds would feel the same way . To me you made it sound like you were right and other peoples decisions are wrong .., having a baby at 21 isn't the end of the world.

That's good you probably have a nanny too who brings up your child for you

Thanks Ohforfoxsake, am not defending myself though, am trying to educate the girl about what being a good mother entails. She clearly thinks it just involves being young and fertile.

She is also basically accusing all ill mothers of being unfit. Sounds horribly reminiscent of Nazism.

it's not the end of the world for some folk, but it is for others

both options are valid and throwing nasty generalisations round does not really help

you just can't resist a dig .. re private health care..
not terribly edifying

It's not all about age LL In fact her age is really the thing of least concern here. You just don't get it, do you? Your post about 'us normal folk' not having access to private health insurance is ironic really. Can't you see it?

you say you're not having a go and then you make another immature dig. Why not leave it now laughinglil.

No, did you miss my post about me out doing the school run? No nanny.

I don't have an issue with young mothers, I never said I did. I had my own termination because the relationship wasn't right and knew I would be on my own, therefor would have to give up work to have the baby. I couldn't afford to do that, I had just qualified. I have not once regretted that decision.

I think it's a different ball game when you are young, have one and another on the way, and no plans to stay with the father. Nothing will convince me that this is the best start in life for any child.

I never once suggested op should terminate.

Oh sorry perfume didn't realise a sports car was on the list for being a good mother!

I pay for private health care out of my earnings. That's right, I still work. I am registered disabled because I have now got two lifelong health conditions thanks to the surgery. Everything I have, I have because I studied my ass off while my sisters were out clubbing. I went to university and I have always worked.

I deserve what I have. Do you?

No, not a good one, was answering your boring accusation.

So, go on then, enlighten me with what you think makes a good mother, and an interesting one at that.

You really are clutching at straws now.

Yes I agree perfume I don't doubt your decisions for a moment about having an abortion, if it's not right it's right

Dont know if its on the list

But know my 12 year old would be chuffed with a sports car, instead of the shed on wheels we have

so its worthy of ridicule to be a financially well off mother with a car and private health care, but you can't say anything against younger paretns?

I know Lulumaam, it's upside down.

If I'm boring god knows what a young, skint, single mum of two is.

Yes I could go on and on about lazy parents who think having a baby at 16 is a ticket to a house and people not working or scamming the system.. All I was trying to point out was not all young parents are this way

Well why didn't you just say that?

i think we're all agreed on that

what an odd and aggressive way to make a perfectly agreeable post

I have just read this whole thread and it makes me so angry. I am a young mother myself; not a teenage mother but younger, also living with my parents and doing a degree, so in ways in a similar situation to sweet.

How can she say she's not relying on her parents? They support her AND her child. How can you be that ungrateful?

And talking about getting her own place with what seems like pride - how can you feel that way when it's not you picking up the bill?

Knowingly, after getting pregnant once by mistake, sleeping with someone without contraception. YOU KNOW THE CONSEQUENCES. Never mind the taxpayer, what about her parents? How could you put them through that again?

This makes me mad because no wonder people say such nasty things about young parents. She'll never grow up either, because if having her first child hasn't made her, then what it god's name will.

laughinglil I was under the impression that social housing waiting lists were moving incredibly slowly.

Therefore imo, anyone who has a baby at 16 believing this is a ticket to being housed in social housing could be in for a long wait.