I have just discovered that i am pregnant but, don't want to be with my partner no more!

[sweetchecks]

Done a pregnancy test today ad it came back positive.

My boyfriend is wanker and i don't want to be with him no more :/

i don't know what to do shall i tell him am pregnant?

I left my 'wanker' alcoholic partner...then found out i was pregnant. I had a termination and didn't tell him..I didn't feel guilty about not telling him either. Horribly sad about termination but have dealt with that.
Leave this horrid person. Wise up and get on with life.

oh my gosh, this is awful

not even an idea that there is anything undesirable about this situation at all

how did we arrive here?

sweetchecks, i echo what posh has said and would sugegst you post on the lone parents section where you are likely to find a much more understanding ear.

It's nothing to do with the sex, it's about irresponsibility, immaturity, and the inability use contraceptives when she is clearly not in a position to financially support more children at the moment, and the men in her life are not suitable fathers. She know this, and yet...

she knows this yes, she is not advocating it. she is not suggesting she continue doing this is she? why the bollocking. she is in thsi situation. slating her for something that has already happened, decisions she ahs already made is not helping her.

no psm.you get all het up and arsey if disagreed with.stop bellyaching about your woes and posh advantaged life gone awry and do something with your advantages

disagreeing with you on this thread doesnt equate to me have chip on shoulder.poor widdle psm and all that.nor will climing you are being stalked.

and habitually moaning about your life and its path wont resolve your dissatisfactions.life cant be fixed on mn.maybe divert some of your mn ire into real life

It's astounding that there is basically a "so what" attitude.

You do realise that these people who are being told to belt up, pipe down, cow bags, stop banging on etc etc will most likely be supporting her and her family? Shall we all just piss off, as you seem to want? And if we did, metaphorically speaking, what the flaming heck would she do?

"You do realise that these people who are being told to belt up, pipe down, cow bags, stop banging on etc etc will most likely be supporting her and her family?"

she is in college and intends to get a job. who is to say she wont find a partner that will support her and her children? and god forbid you ever fuck up and need to depend on state benefits it will be OP supporting you when she has her job.

dont be so sanctimonious.

OP What is your XP's g/f like?
What kind of father-to-be is he so far with his g/f?
Do you really want it to work out with him?
Are your family going to support you?
Does your XP support his pg g/f at the moment?

I am actually rather worried about you OP.

Every single young mother 'intends' to get a job and support their own children unaided by the state. Some manage it. Most don't. Is it really so terrible to suggest that, having made one mistake with your family planning, and looked to the state to take care of you and your child, it might not be advisable to keep repeating the process ad infinitum? How about she gets her qualifications first, earns some money for a bit, finds a half-decent bloke who is not a Wanker in her opinion, then adds to her family? Or is that too much to ask?

well considering she is already pregnant and to do what you sugegst would require killing a baby, i would imagine she wants to have a wee think about it. termination isn't an easy option for everyone, and certainly not the preferable option for everyone either.

She has had support, she is having support, she will have support for the foreseeable future.

Is it too much to ask that she doesn't say "what's the problem?"

Or that others understand there is a real issue here? It's not all about her or your feelings, there is a person being born.

Anyway, as I said, OP you do need help, you do need support, for your own sake and the sake of your child. The bloke should have used protection, he too had no sense of responsibility for him or her.

I hope things work out.

portaloo i am still with him at the moment, his ex is a bit of a bitch but that's not my problem, i blame hormones for that :P there baby isn't born yet.........

The only thing i can judge him on when it come to being a dad is what he is like with my baby, and he is amazing with her.

He did walk out of mine an my little girls life though. I just don't want him doing that to this baby or my baby again :/.

The last post i done about my age and grammar/spelling. Was aimed at the people who think they can sit there judging me on them two things :/.

My baby i have is my life and i wouldn't know what to do with out her, that's why i don't believe in terminations.

I am on my second year of my course and I WILL finish it, then I WiLL get a good job. Then i WON'T be on benefits.

Sorry if that sounds harsh just saying :)

You know what, abortion is a fine option sometimes. I had one and I certainly didn't regret it for a nanosecond, didn't mourn, didn't get depressed...it was the right thing for me to do in those circumstances.

I could have done the same with ds. But it wasn't the right thing to do then.

We make choices based on our circumstances.

Refusing to consider an option that might actually be better for the child one already has is foolhardy and to be honest sentimental twaddle.

it doesn't sound harsh at all OP. you sound very determined and i have no doubt that you will make the best decision for your family and you will make it work to the best of yoru abilities. i wish you all the best and i hope you get teh support from your family and friends that youneed. and please take a look at the lone parents section on here.

I'm constantly amazed at how many people are very anti-abortion and yet can be lax with contraception. Twice.

sweetchecks I'm sorry to hear his x g/f is a bit of a bitch. Why do you think that?

Do your family like your b/f?

sweetchecks I don't know what course you are doing, but if you think you will be free of benefit dependency with two children to support and childcare and rent to pay on a first-jobbers salary then you are very naive.

"I will manage by myself." No. That's deluded. You can't. You aren't. You can't even use a condom.

I don't recommend a termination, that's not what I'm saying. But for goodness sake think on. Please.

Fellatio Perhaps OP will move in with her b/f and they will pool their finances, pay child support to his x g/f and be financially independent?

sweetchecks What does your b/f do for a living? Is his place big enough for you all to live there eventually?

Killing a baby?

Oh, please, spare us the pro-life (hate that phrase) emotive bs...

Op, sorry to say it but you ARE living off your parents if they're putting a roof over your heads. How do you expect them to cope with another child in their house? It's not fair on them, is it? And yes, it's a little too late now, but fgs learn about contraception before you embark upon another relationship...

reality

I think you SHOULD stay with your parents, if they are solid and dependable and can help you bring up your children. The security of your children is your priority. It is not about some fight with the world to prove yourself. Your children come first.

Yes portaloo perhaps they will.

lovecat i am entitled to my opinion. to me it is a baby. to you maybe not.