The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Carry On Past The New Year Wine Offers!

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Hello all.

We are the Brave Babes. We're on the Battle Bus, travelling around sobriety and going day by day, hour by hour, through the detox hell of not drinking, cutting down or sometimes even not.

Come say hi. We won't bite.

No doubt one of us has been where you are now......

It's fine. No judging, no nasty jibes, just us, the BBs.

Come meet the others..................

Welcome Next and congratulations on making that positive decision - I wish I had done it when I was 30! You will find the support here is great, but you need real life support as well, maybe AA or a group of good friends or family. I have found it best to be honest in RL and as I said in my last thread found my friends to be supportive. If they know that you don't want to drink they won't offer or encourage you.
Welcome aboard!

Thanks BB,

I know i'm going to have to face up to things in real life soon. Just thinking of who i'm going to tell, how much I have to tell people and when!

It's scary and very final as I'm sure lots of people on here can relate to. However one step at a time and all that!

I'm thinking about going to AA. Think a support group might be a good idea. Just got to build up to it a bit.

Hi next good on you girl!

Take control now, and make the most of the January 'detox'. You know it is not long until people will start the 'giving it up for lent' thing either, so you only have a few weeks of quietly not drinking. To be honest I have found that once my friends have had a couple of glasses they no longer notice whether I am drinking or not, or they no longer care about the reasons I give.

Go on - shine like you were born to do!

Aw thanks

god just talking about this makes me want a drink!

Off to put the kettle on (again)!

hello!!! well, i have had a super evening!, its been ladies meeting night and there were 5 of us, great chat, loads of stuff we all related to, i think this ladies meeting thing will be a success!

hi next!, nice to meet you! well bloody done on your 2 weeks!!, i echo bb, try and find some rl support, i certainly find it helps! - btw, i have to come to the conclusion that i dont have to answer why im not drinking if i dont want to, in fact, that could be a good reply - 'im not drinking because i dont want to'!, sounds perfectly resonable to me!

Hi hope everyone is OK. Chat soon

Miflaw that makes sense, thanks. I do love meetings and I feel safe there. Of course there are some people that I don't get or feel uncomfortable around but mostly I get so much from every meeting. I don't expect people to forgive because I can't even forgive myself.

I am practically counting the hours til my Mum goes, I can't cope with her here. She is so negative about everything and my self-esteem feels like it couldn't get any worse. It adds to the only place I feel safe and cared about is AA at the moment.

Social worker is coming and I am terrified.

jwn thank you for sharing what you did.

Hello ... can I crawl back on the bus? I know its been a while...

It is Day 3 for me, after I drank rather a lot on Saturday (parental visit....). I am pleased I went too far in a way because it was the wake up call I needed. Stumbling drunk into DD bedroom to calm her down (still no sleep here..) is not something I want to repeat.

So ... guess what, that whole controlling your drinking thing / being sober for a few months so thinking its ok to drink ... well it doesn't work!! Who'd a thought it?? Hmmn, perhaps someone did mention it on here 10 or 1000 times but I am an empiricist and had to find out for myself.[bgrin]

So here I am. I am MsGee and I have a disfunctional relationship with alcohol which I am not in control of (so that would be an alcoholic then).

As you were. hello to next well done on two weeks.

Morning MsGee:) Drank myself at the weekend after 3 weeks of no drinking, didn't overdo it but have felt shitty since, over-eating etc
Zany is everything ok with you?

Drank myself????, oh you all know what I mean:)

Oh and any sign of Red?

I know what you mean desire

Also over-eating here ...

morning!!

hello msgee! nice to have you back!, how is little gee?

got a really busy day here, loads of work on and then im hoping dh and i are going out this evening, we have been so busy just lately i have hardly seen him, i feel a need for a cosy chat and a cuddle!

hope everyone else is ok?

see you later!

Any chance I can slope back onto the bus too? Am sick of being weak, binge drinking and feeling that all so familiar guilt and self-loathing afterwards.

I wonder if anyone has any experience, knowledge of a drug called baclofen? Apparently it is a potential cure for alcoholism.
I have been visiting a site called "My Way Out" for problem drinkers and it appears to be getting rave reviews.
I accept it is not a cure to altering the psychological addiction to booze but I wondered if it may help ease the overwelming urge to drink.
Hello everyone anyway.
I have been following this thread for months but had nothing sadly of any help to bring to the table.
Lucy X

HELLO LUCY!!!! SOOOOOO PLEASED YOU ARE BACK!!!

i have no idea about medication for alcholism, i expect someone will be about later who has some knowledge, itmt, how are?, how are the dcs? are you still living with the pils?, give us the gos!!

Hi to msgee and lucilastic. You do know that the reason that I post on here is to help myself. I don't post to help others (although I reply to their posts, and if my reply is helpful to them or anyone else thn that's great) but mainly I post because it helps me to recount my tales, it helps me to write down my strategies for going out, and it helps me to say when I am feeling down about something or happy about something. So please never avoid posting because you think you have nothing to offer. These threads are YOUR space too, post whatever and whenever you feel like it.

Morning all,

trying to work from home here , still full of cold and head like cotton wool.

MsGee being sober for a few months and thinking it's ok to drink.. doesn't work , and that's me, for sure.

It was a great comfort to me yesterday to hear that Venus and JWN still fend off the demon, I thought perhaps it was just me. I know that it's up to me, and that when I did decide to drink again, it was down to me, and nothing, and no-one else.

Welcome, new babes.

Fwiw, I have found that other people don't much care whether you're drinking, or not. Even on New Years Eve, when I didn't drink, I just said "I'll have a lime and soda, this time" and no-one remarked on it all. Once you've said I'm driving, or on antibiotics, or even giving it a rest for a bit, people just accept it. Saying that, maybe if you have tight group of drinking buddies, it's different, but my drinking to excess was done at home.

Noteven I hope the visit goes as well as it can.

Desire hello, how are things with you this week?

Mouse and Red you OK?

Lucy How lovely to hear from you, I remember you from when I first posted on here.
So glad you're back.

Venus I wonder if I was meant for the name Thurso, as I appear to have a great affinity with you (you do live near there, don't you), practically everything you write is in my head to say. xx

Thank you for the warm welcome. I am feeling ok today. Started a diet yesterday (Xmas excesses and gave up the booze - again) so I'm trying to get my life and self-esteem back in order.
The PIL's were home for Xmas. They left soon after to return to their holiday villa abroad. Not due to visit again till June so all good on that score.
DC2 started nursery and has been referred to SENCO (Special educational needs person) to assess her speech. DC1 is a handful of fun and never ever stops talking - even in her sleep.
I need to return here (not that I ever left) as I am so so tired of not remembering what should be precious memories properly, forgetting conversations I had with people whilst drunk and basically worrying and feeling paranoid that I am behaving like a sad, middle-aged drunk and not the "fun party girl" with a sparkling witt that I imagine at the time I am.
I have to go now but will check back in later.

X

hi JWN

hope you get your chat and cuddle later - sounds like a lovely plan.

little gee is ok - potty training (can you believe it, poo-gate is so long ago!!). She is brimming with confidence at the moment, its lovely to see. Still no luck with her sleeping but we live in hope.

Sorry - hi everyone, lovely to see you lucy, venus, thurso - took me so long to press send on last post that I missed your posts!

Morning Babes

Lovely to see some familiar faces back on the bus (even if it is for all the wrong reasons ) and hello to Next

Hey thurso.

desire - not heard from Red since the weekend, Sunday I think. She's okay though.

MsGee - how is LittleMsGee doing? Settled yet? Dumies gone? Toilet trained? Sleeping though? Taken over the world?

Mouse HELLO

LittleMs is lovely, dummies gone during the day, potty training going well. No sleep though. Up a few times in the night and then from 5am daily. Sometimes 4.30!

She is, however, taking over the world... take cover!

How are you?

How is Nemo??

Ha ha ha, bless her!

I'm good thank you. Nemo is grand, few pukey spells but much reduced from what he did have. Fingers crossed it stays that way.

Moving forward with his team of carers, lots of stuff going on and another palate op in the pipeline, I will need you ALL when that comes up.

House is getting there very slowly. Waiting on the new heating system and boiler being put in then, we can start decorating inside.

No point 'til that's done.

I'm slowly getting fixed re my hips/pelvis/back..... slowly!

How's work and your new place, not so new anymore?

Fingers and toes crossed for Nemo. re the op. We will all be there for you.

Hope you get the heating system soon. You have been VERY patient.

Our house is really coming along. In fact builders should be out of here in a few days .... bathroom in the final stages and I am finally getting a bookcase and an airing cupboard. DH thinks I am a bit sad that this is my focus but it will make me happy!!

Work is bad, very stressful. Part of the reason for drinking (y'know apart from the alcoholic tendancies thing). Next month shoudl be better... always, next month...