Dumpling no more - only the strong survive and we did No.1

[Teaandcakeplease]

At first I was afraid, I was petrified
Kept thinkin' I could never live without him by my side;
But then I spent so many nights
Thinkin' how you did me wrong
And I grew strong

This thread is for ex dumplings Any dumpling that feels like she has "mostly" moved past crisis into an "almost" sorted state can post and chat here as we continue our quest for serenity with a lot of laughs along the way and support.

I am spontaneously combusting. I let the saint and DS in my house and let them leave boxes everywhere just because I was being kind.

I leave at 6am tomorrow on a business trip for a job I think I no longer have and I have just found out that they have taken the wheelie suitcase I bought in the summer away with them for no freaking reason!!!!!!!

Happy he stole UR wheels that's totally out of order
Kate good he is paying his way
Starting did u get new boots for tomorrow ?

Good luck Starting.

Kate they're so good at claiming we said or agreed or whatever aren't they? Grrrr

Happy have you asked Saint about your suitcase yet? I'm sorry to hear you think your job is at risk, that must be a worry on top of everything else.

Hello, Well he has actualy stepped up to the mark this morning and taken my middle dd to the opthamologist. She has aspergers and had a complete meltdown as its a change of routine and she doesn't want to have the eyedrops. So glad my wonderful ex MIL is going with them.

Of course, I have to deal with the meltdowns quite often - and he doesn't anymore as he just sticks them in front of the X Box / Wii so I am glad he has to do it today.

(Of course, I got up and hour earlier than I had to so I looked fantastic and in control when he collected her)

Hmm, and he was suspiciously pleasant. Nothing to do with the CSA question I'm sure

tea Yes they are good at claiming what we did or didn't say.

Funny, I remember him claiming he wasn't involved with the OW (from June to Dec!)

I'm pretty sure that we both agreed that if we were in a committed realtionship with dc for 13 years that we wouldn't go sha**ing someone else. Think he's forgotton we agreed that as well.

Twunt

Chin up ladies. Now going to get out of my heels and put my boots on for the school run!

Morning all

Yes I emailed the saint about the case as he chooses not to give me the tel number for where they live wtf

In reality though its ds that took the case so twunt only partly culpable

Serenity a little restored this am as am gathering strength and loving your posts Kate

I am pleased to report that I almost pulled in terminal 5, lovely guy going to NICE. We stripped together to go through security.

Praying for Starting this am. She will overcome.

Oooo I say Happy

I just work on the basis everything that my X says is a lie,and I base my co parenting relationship on that fact.

Good Luck Starting

Kate you are a scream heels ffs . Yes too right he needs to help more hope your dd gets what she needs today. Hopefully wrt CSA he will go on the website and see that actually you are asking for less than he would be required to pay and so he can play the wonderful generous guy by agreeing without a fuss. Truly you are an inspiration with your "fuck you dust" etc !!

Happy I cant believe now your job may be under threat on top of everything else however you sound as pragmatic as ever . Since Saint has your ds and the other ds can look after himself suggest you remain in Nice and search for a wealthy man to spoil you and idle away these grey grim times and return when things improve

Patience really dont envy you the task of co parenting with him fortunately I know you are to the task

Waves to Tea

Well after a proper nights sleep full perspective and serenity are restored. Made it to the gym but will be stuck at home as dd is off school faking ill.

I am going to do a full financial inventory and start to look around for better utility deals etc as I cant go out. Also beiing sensible and thinking in the next couple of months a house will come up that I want to buy and to get a grip on myself

Good luck bargain hunting getting ,did u see Paul mc kenna is doin a live webchat 2morrow

Whats a live webchat and how do you find it? Is it on broken hearts ?

Im sure glad I clicked the link

"Dumpling no more - only the strong survive and we did No.1"

On first reading this - thought a dumpling, was an over weight person [petname my dad had for over weight sister]

Was hoping for some good dieting tips

Live webchat link

LOL Welyshbyrd

Getting - I know there's lots of comparison websites but when I used USwitch and inputted all my details, I had to get out some old utility bills to work out how much I use, but it saved me a fortune!

Got a voucher for Xmas so goin to get my eyebrows shaped and legs waxed on Friday

Sorry have been up the walls with college, dc, life etc & not had a chance to keep up. Well here's update from this morn....

Well initially xh never turned up so judge adjourned case till next wed. Was just talking to solicitor outside of courtroom when I heard a commotion. Xh had turned up & met his solicitor on stairs, he started shouting at his solicitor when he heard case had been adjourned telling him he was fired etc. Security guards were nervously following him. He insisted he wanted to go in front of judge so solicitor requested we be allowed back in. Xh looked manic. His solicitor told judge he'd been discharged by his client but that his client still wanted case to go ahead. Xh told judge his solicitor had failed to contact him or inform him of court case!! Judge said case couldn't go ahead if he didn't have legal representation so xh said he'd agree to his solicitor representing him. His solicitor however said he felt compromised. Judge said they could have 5 mins to sort it out. When we went back in judge decided to adjourn case for a week as xh had failed to submit any accounts or documentation & this would also give xh time to decide if he was happy to proceed with existing solicitor! So back we go again next wk. Meanwhile legal fees are spiraling & I'm prob looking at double barrister fees (5000 a day)!!!!!!!!!!!! God grant me the serenity...................

Thanks for all the well wishes

Happy, glad to see serenity somewhat restored

Kate, really glad to read gloves are off & you're forcing x to step up to the plate financially

Patience, glad to read you're getting your mojo back

Getting, glad to hear you got a good nights sleep & have a positive plan of action.

Tea, you seem to be oozing serenity

Will catch up with everyone else later.........

Bloody hell Starting its like a nightmare and now you have to hang around another week and all the extra money involved . Grrrr

Welshbyrd thats so funny I bet you are happily married too !

Ok so just spoke to xh about various stuff and his whole attitude is back to reasonable and being pleasant. I think my conciliatory text and merely signing my name on my email yesterday has made a big difference.

Its funny though that yes I want a nice atmosphere between us and to move to better co parenting but hearing him be kindly makes me a bit sad too . When they are vile its easy to breathe a sigh of releif they are ex.

The great thing about at this point in time though is that I know that nice voice wouldnt be available to me very much if he wasnt ex iyswim ?

Well Getting I was certainly glad mine was an xh looking at him today . I had actually thought if he was anyway reasonable I might have asked him to go for a coffee & see if there was a way forward with access! Lol, that was a non runner anyway.........

I have no time but will catch up later. Starting that's a horrible situation for you - like you needed that. Yes if ever there was a time when serenity was needed for you then it's now. I hope you find it....

Getting - snap - it's so hard when they are nice /understanding etc but I too am realising that it's by this 'nice' atmosphere that we are all going to pave a better future for our DC's (and us when we need stuff). I really identified with your post about 'even signing your email with your name at the end' being a big step forward - that's me - I did it for the first time last week - AND told him I was sorry to hear his Dad was ill. And it makes me really sad he is starting to be nicer and more understanding but as you say - this wasn't the H I had either for the last 12 months of our marriage - I think that's why I find it hard - He's now reminding me of understanding version of the husband I had and loved before he turned into the one that had an affair and buggered off.

Hi to everyone else . back later after pureeing fest and bedtime are finished

Afternoon. Just dropping in. Girls I reckon we could all pull at that airport you know. Maybe a dumpling trip in the offing. Not to actually go anywhere but perhaps check in and have lunch?

Patience have your brows threaded love, it's the thing to do.

Starting - grrr

Kate - saw your location on your profile but it also says you have no kids?

Getting/Tea - hmm cost reduction, if they're going to get rid of me I'd better look at that

In fact ladies, maybe there's a few new threads potentially here - the dumpling guide to cost reduction / managing court cases / serenity oh and of course sha*ing for some

Hi if Just a quick check in - LOL, I know about the no kids...not sure what happened there! I will have to try to change it tonight :)

Starting What a day! hope you are OK

I'll be back later - just got back in from work :)

Happy have you been at the duty free . Tee hee hee at an airport dumpling convention and never mind a dumpling thread on those issues I think there could be a business opportunity there .. apart from the shagging bit as I have forgotten how to do that !

CV it sounds like we are reading off the same prayer sheet . I agree "pave the way for a better relationship for the dc" but equally uppermost in my mind is as you say when we need them for something >. This whole serenity thing is getting out of hand though as I found myself thinking well whatever bints ladies come and go in his life I will always be his dc mum and that we have years ahead of that strong link. I recalled LC saying ages ago that her first h gave them all a lift to the airport last summer - see you never know when they may prove useful in the future - and at the time thought What but now I think well it would certainly be more convienient than long stay parking.

Watch out Tea I am hot on your heels as chief of good relations with xh . Today in any case !

Starting I bet you were glad hes xh was it funny seeing him again after so long ?

Waves to all- googoo are you ok you have vanished ?

Happy, I think you've just stumbled onto a brilliant idea about meet up in airport! It would suit me down to the ground & save on a repeat of the drama that followed my attendance at last meetup.......

Have got loads of paperwork done over past few hours in an attempt to ground myself. I can feel the rage of injustice bubbling beneath the surface & I'm trying to regain my serenity & acceptance. Am reading the compassionate mind atm & it's v apt