Ok, third & final attempt! Well I just got another nasty email from Norm so I am now offically awarding myself the honorary award for being the first Double Dumpling to have come full circle TWICE during the course of this thread 
Rom, so sad you had to go through that today & worse to read about the connection to your mum . Am glad to feel your making progress though & I agree with Goo that you sound to be such a kind & gentle person that has got treated v badly ((Hugs))
Goo, I so love your sense of humour " But you see, I was in Morrisons. So I'm allowed to be scum ". 
You just managed to raise a smile from me despite my misery!
Kate, thank you for your kind words & I also will be waiting for a full date report 
ET, sadly I agree, I think I have to chalk this one up to experience . I also agree that most of the men we talk about on this thread are not capable of being honest!
Patience, so sorry to hear you've been dragged into all this again. Sadly you will prob never get the truth from xh.
Happy, hope things have calmed down a bit with ds. ((Hugs))
Waves to Pink, Tea, Mumfun, Getting, Old & anyone I've forgotten.
Oh & just to top it all off. I got a text from xh earlier to arrange access for tomorrow afternoon. I sent a friendly text back saying no prob & asking what time. Given that I am dropping dc's to a center where xh is working tomorrow & that he is without a car till next wk, I also offered to drop them all back to his house if he'd prefer to have dc's there. His response "around 4". F*** great, not exactly the response I expected from the man who stood infront of me last Sun with tears in his eyes saying "he knew he'd done me wrong". I hope to christ he doesn't kick off again tomorrow as I don't think I can cope with any more drama or upset!