Dumpling no more - only the strong survive and we did No.1

[Teaandcakeplease]

At first I was afraid, I was petrified
Kept thinkin' I could never live without him by my side;
But then I spent so many nights
Thinkin' how you did me wrong
And I grew strong

This thread is for ex dumplings Any dumpling that feels like she has "mostly" moved past crisis into an "almost" sorted state can post and chat here as we continue our quest for serenity with a lot of laughs along the way and support.

Ooooh at last some intellectual dumpling might , does carpe diem count offschool

Thankyou so much for all your tips and apart from the art I could give all of them go. The more I think about it the more I realise she isnt a little girl and I need to make more consistent effort to keep close and I will nip onto Amazon to look for the book. Just go and get a load of the cheapest nastiest wine you can find for his visits he sounds like he is vile , really vile !

Offschool, what he is saying is not reflecting what he is doing. Actions speak louder than words and he is not respecting the boundaries. No easy answer as your circumstances have you both by the short and curlies.

My head is stuffed full of cotton wool atm. Think I must have pmt. Just can't think straight.

Only got two vaguely intellectual French quotes - got em on postacards in my classroom:
Les gens qui ne rient pas ne sont pas les gens serieux (People who don't laugh are not serious people)
C'est la femme qui fait le monde (It's the woman who makes the world)

Patience - love your advice - you will have barnies but also have good nails. Love it! :)
Elsie - your exp's OW another woman with a heart of gold eh? NOONE would make me give up my kids. And I know it's unpc but women who give up their kids, when they've carried them in their bodies for 9 months and given birth to them? Not right. Even when I'm at my wits' end (most teatimes) I wouldn't put my kids up for adoption, not even for Brad Pitt naked and glowing with baby oil...
Elsie - good news about your job return - I agree with Rom - I think you will manage ok now - you are so much stronger than before Christmas and it's all down to you! Lots of hugs.
Great advice from Patience and Offschool about teenagers. I teach 12/13 year olds and they all "turn" into little hormonal wrecks as they turn 12. I would just say - all of the screaming and fighting you isn't to be taken personally. It's a natural progression - they are forging their own identities and the only way that they can do this is rebel against the people closest to them. It's a hormone thing I think.
And Romney - nice to see you on here! Hope you can join us permanently soon. I just can't keep up with 2 threads at the moment but I will pop into the other one soon.
Kate - cuppa eh? Woo hoo - first field trip as newly single sexy lady. Go for it :)
Funnily enough, talking about famous people today with the 12/13 year olds as part of a lesson on culture and one of the girls said "Kaie Price is famous" and I know a lot of the girls look up to her. So I told them I think she's vile and asked them to think why did I think that? It was a revelation to them. Had a big chat about how I thought women were still subjugated by the media. It was good to talk to them as a strong, independent woman and tell them that they should learn to love themselves for who they are and what they do to make a difference to the world, not for how big their tits are or how feckin skinny they are (I didn't say it in those words obviously!). Told them that Katie Price's bocy was anatomically impossible. That was a revelation to them.
Well, felt quite sad today and missed exbf (why? I hear you all cry). I think it's because I've met a lovely kind man who seems keen and my head is saying he's lovely but now I have to change the behaviour patterns of a lifetime and actually choose to be with someone nice instead of being with someone who is a "challenge". He's not "edgy" like exbf, I don't feel like I have to impress him or be someone different. And it's confusing my heart and brain. And I've missed exbf and his village so much today. And I know he's with someone else and it still hurts. I don't want it to hurt and I know he's a twat. Oh dear. And CDman is so much nicer in every way. Got to give him a chance.

Hi all,

am lurking and with you all in spirit.

Well done Getting on selling the house. Must be hard. It makes me see that this thread is like a huge diary of all of our progress and physical things such as house moves, job changes, DC growing up etc. It's a real life soap.

Getting, I think Patience idea of getting your nails done together or something similar is brilliant. You could have such a laugh.

I don't seem to have Mumfun or Happy's knack of small but regular posts. i seem to be a bit all or nothing as far as MN goes and I'm too tired/lazy/can't keep up, so I just don't post.

I love your name Elsie as I'm a huge fan

Kate, I have no words for your H, I'm just totally astounded. Do you own the house jointly ?

Hi, Sunhill, Patience, Starting, Offschool, Romney, Mumfun, Happy, Sov, Googoo and tea.

The snowdrops are out and it's nearly Spring.......thank fuck x

Hi Pink - lovely to have a post from you.
You're right - this thread is like a huge diary. It's quite moving thinking of it like that. Maybe we should print it all out and follow our progress over the months (possibly years?)
Well, CDman has just sent me an email asking me to the cinema on Saturday night followed by a meal. I'll have to get a babysitter. I'm scared to go. Why am I scared?

And I agree - thank fuck for Spring :) The nights are getting lighter - 6 minutes per day :)

Hello Pink. Elsie Tanner rocks, she was fab wasn't she?

GGM, strange that you should mention my xp's ow and Katie Price in the same post as that is who she models herself on. Seriously. And she's nearly 50. I shit you not. Hair extensions, botox, inflated lips. And she had a boob job on the never never as a consolation prize when xp blew her out last year. She thinks it's hilarious to go out and get falling down drunk and prove to everyone she doesn't wear knickers. I wish I could show you a picture as she looks like the lovechild of Pete Burns and Jackie Stallone. It remains a huge fucking insult to me as far as I'm concerned.

Has anyone seen Tea?

A little tip Goo, give Black Swan a miss. Not a film to be seen on a first date.

Oh God Pink - just arranged to see that film with CDman. Why? Is it just too racy? (Go, I sound like me mam!)
Elsie - vile vile vile
No - I haven't seen Tea. I miss her :(

Hellooooo Tea. I felt like that last week. Glad you're lurking :) x

Lots of ballet and death I think ,maybe have a google,if ur gut says no,then go for another coffee or lunch.sitting next to someone for 2 hrs might be awkward if UR not comfortable .

Had a quick google. Says it's a psycho sexual horror/ballet film. Just emailed him to say it might be a bit embarrassing! Mind you, I want to see it, so what the hell. It's not like I'm off to bed with him afterwards. Going home to the kids!

It's unpleasant and joyless, a bit sordid. A sort of charmless sex/horror film. I really wouldn't.

The Kings Speech on the other hand is lovely and you leave the cinema feeling good.

PMSL at 'lots of ballet'.......more like 'lots of fingering' actually.

Haha! Yes, can't cope with masturbation on a first date! Saw The King's Speech on Saturday - it was bloody great :)
We're going to see NEDS instead. He thought it was funny about "the swan thingy" as he called it. Said he would leave it up to me but Neds was his secret first choice anyway. He still sounds nice.

Oh, something nice happened.
I emailed CDman to say my friend says don't go and see Black Swan on a first date (is that what we're having?) he meailed back saying teehee well we'll go and see something else if you want. So I emailed to say phew - Neds it is then. He just sent one back saying "Wahey :) And yes, it is a date. Hopefully the first of many"
I think that's a lovely thing to say. I really should appreciate this fella :)

Whew, never heard of NEDS.

Ahhh that is lovely. xposted with you.

I just spent about 3 mins wondering how you spell phew !!! Got it wrong, and then you wrote it.

Nite, off to bed to watch me soaps

OOh googoo - so pleased for you. He sounds lovely

Hi Pink (())

Hi Tea (())

Hi everyone

Very very busy at the moment which is good. Going on training courses, doing therapy with DS ,helping at school, working at bits and pieces. I had forgotten that busy is good -even at night trying to do tax return.

Sister is sending nicey nicey emails - not replying.

Getting lots of texts to my home phone -are nice ones but dont know who is sending them Im sure Ill find out eventually.

Have been thinking and planning good stuff for year trips etc- it helps me to have something to look forward to.

Friend here is just starting on dating trail after her divorce so am going to hold her hand through it.

Hope can keep busy and on even keel as feels more healthy.

Ok am too excited to read the thread before posting so here goes just back from college & found a big long email from Norm. I think a bit of what happened was x'd wires over emotions running too high & that he thought that I wanted to take space. Anyway I've just fired back a text so watch this space, will be having sex again soon me thinks

More fantastic news is I got xmas assignment marks tonight & I came out just 1% below highest grade

Yippee............................now why is my mobile now beeping, text send in a frenzy 12mins ago Watch this space.............

Ah nice one starting,

Ok officially distraught due to silent witness 2 nite.
Dr harry Cunningham was essential eye candy for my road to recovery ,desperately sad now .
watched a show with an old priest on it tonight in the hebrides ,he was smoking but was told at 83 his lungs were fine,his doctor had asked him why do you smoke and he had replied to be honest if I'm healthy then its none of UR business.

Ok too much to keep up with.........

Pink, Rom & Tea, great to see you all back posting

Getting, glad you had a good chat with dd & that you got some helpful ideas. Will try to store those up as dd is just turned 11 so I'll have all that around the corner

Old, am loving your quote & really strange as I saw my counsellor this morning & he quoted that exact same thing about not being able to change the past only the future . What xh is planning sounds like a logistic nightmare!

Goo, am so excited for you with CDman

Mumfun, glad you are finding serenity through staying busy

Happy, where areth thou?? Hope all is well.

Patience, glad serenity is being maintained

ET, your friends injuries & how she got them sounds horrific. She must be very shaken from it. Hope your shift back at work goes well for you but if it doesn't just allow yourself a bit more time to heal.

Well really strangly Norm text just after I posted above post all delighted to have heard back from me & wait for it would love to see me over next wk or two!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! WTF is that all about, should he not be looking to see me instantly?? Will have to ponder this new turn of events . Email had said how much he'd missed me & hoped I hadn't moved on & really wanted to meet me again even if I had . Will end up rearing my dc's & joining a convent me thinks

Sorry can't give u any advice ,I am officially celebate.6 mths from last shag and still in love with my x so away back to mourn Dr harry.I have sky plussed him so that's one good thing.