he hasnt even replied to my happy chridtmas text.....

[icepick]

Am seeing someone who I've know as friends before that. He has said he loves me, and I've said the same
We aren't spending Xmas together as he hasn't met any of my family, nor me his. I did ask if he was free before Xmas but he said he was busy and would see ne after it.
I've just text him about an hour ago to say happy Christmas and he has nor even replied. I know he is up and not doing anything as he's been logged into his pc since 630.

I shouldnt bother with him anymore should I.

Am not going to let it ruin my day. But its made me a little bit sad.

some people are just total arseholes....

and I admire your dignity enormously....

wow

:( icepick. What a shit.

Not that it's any comfort at all, but I expect she'll be saying exactly the same as you are here to her mates in a couple of months or so.

Walking away is certainly your best bet. I'm really sorry this has happened.

Mine has put himself on Plenty of Fish - asking for passion - to receive a text with a X and know what it means. A deep meaningful relationship. Ohhhh dear. I wasn't what he was looking for either.

Blessed relief if you ask me. It's akin to standing on a street corner advertising yourself. Chin up icepick, I know you thought the world of him, but yeah, walk away and never look back. I am too. It's exactly 3 days since he said happy boxing day at 8pm at night. Instincts told me something wasn't right.

Don't cry over someone who isn't crying over you.

Take care
x

Im not crying I'm fucking fuming . How dare he.
He got me to open up and trust him. He knew I have s hard time bring emotionally open. He got me to open up and then be honest sour my feelings. More honest than ice ever been . And the whole time he was with someone else.

How fucking dare he. Who the fuck does he thibk he is.

I couldn't care less about her. She's a 21 year old student. He's 34.

Well, you would be perfectly justified in chewing him out as he's been a complete shit. In fact, he sounds like a thoroughly nasty piece of work.

However, it's probably not a great idea. I tell you what (and I don't talk about this much), someone did a similar thing to me once. I planned to be all ice queen but lost it big time, actually screaming down the phone - awful, awful, awful - and very out of character; I am one of the most laid back and good natured people you could hope to meet, (honest guv). I felt about 10 times worse afterwards.

Anyhow just wanted to offer some words of support

Have a think about what would make you feel better. Fantasise about horrible revenge scenarious, if it helps (just don't put them into action!)

That is what would happen if I had a go. So I'm not going to.

Sorry to hear that it happened to you.

I'm not even going to waste time thinking about revenge situations. That man is not worth another seconds thought.

What a total fucking cock. A absolute cock.

You're right there icepick, what a tosser.

Tell you what though, you'll be surprised how quickly you start feeling better.

Well least I know for sure now don't I.
And I know it wasn't me.
And if he has the gall to ever contact me again I shall just ignore him. I will never utter so much as s single word to him ever again.

What a fucking prick.

Icepick: I have recently just come out of a relationship with an utter arse. I excused his behaviour until suddenly I realised I was being a complete twat.

He has been seeing other women the entire time we have been together (I read his emails...I know you shouldn't but I'm glad I did...would hate to be completely in the dark). He has denied everything..great liar he is.

I spent an entire day just before Christmas plotting revenge (he was planning a weekend with some slapper). I thought of all the wonderfully horrible things I could do to him. Next day I realised he wasn't worth it, but oh I had so much fun plotting. Try it...so many men are utter shits but I do believe there are some out there who are not lol! Go wild in your head with revenge tacticts, but don't even validate him with acting them through. Shithead!

I think you are right. Better in the long run of not giving him the satisfaction.

Hope you are ok today Ice.

im ok.

Actually it might be better than when i didnt know what the cause of his disinterest was. Plus, its now done and dusted. I know for a fact, even if he does turn up that there will be no weakening of the knees, no matter what he damn well looks like.

Fuck him.

Dam right there!

Icepick I think you have had a lucky escape and should be breathing a huge sigh of relief. This man has ishoos!

I read it and thought he's married

I read it and thought he's a knob

No, he isn't married. I've known him for a while and he really isn't.

He's just a knob with huge issues.

Actually, I'm not feeling too bad now. Surprising really.

Gad you're feeling a little better Icepick..and you're right it's the knowing that helps...I am so sorry that you've gone through this.

As so may of us on here have had our run in's with knobs...should we start a '2010 knob of the year award' thread soooooo good to vent and then put away ...we could award prizes?