Just a question really as I am curious..

[TLESinChristmasStockings]

when does harmless flirting stop being harmless?

NGE, I tell you what I will swap places with you and your dh for a week. We want to live together but for DS1's sake we cannot.

Sin, Its because I word things wrongly and can be a stubborn ass

Harsh NGE, really too harsh.

But DP can babysit DS1, why can't you live together thats a much bigger story than the flirting nonsense.

Trust me you wouldn't want to swap with me, I home ed x2 run a business, look after two old chrones and pick up after dh and he still can't buy a pint in a pub because in the south east houses are very exp and so are pints.

I used to love going to my local alone when I was single. There were always loads of people I knew, and strangers talk to single people, I made some fabulous friends. I used to charge my phone up and do my paperwork there too Ah, happy times. But that was all before ds. Saying that, I met dh in the local when I was alone, taking a break from painting my flat.

Couldn't really afford it now, don't fancy it either. But I love escaping to the movies on my own now and again, a real weepy.

If you find that is the way you relax op then great. It does seem to be causing you some thought though. Maybe you are not feeling so relaxed and unjudged in the pub as you did?

just had a bath and twigged (i think) NGE is intimating I think that by op and her dp living separately they are claiming more in tax credits than you could if you lived together? And that NGE's hard earned cash is being frittered away by op on pints

But I could be wrong. Was quite a hot bath

look NGE OP's living arrangements are nthing to do with this or with you. she used to live with her DP but problems with her eldest made that no longer feasible. it is a temporary arrangement that they live apart for the benefit of her children and their relationship. why are you hanging onto this.

nge...then why don' you move to a less expensive area ?

since we are giving out tinpot lifesyle "advice"..

brian...I do believe you have it !

Everyone it is ok really it is.

I can see how it looks.

Here I am a single mum, sahm at that. Who is on call for her sons whenever needed.

I rarely get to bed before 2am in the week because of DS1's bad sleep pattern. DS2 is not yet in Nursery so I have him to care for all day.
I am often at DS1's school because of situations he has got into.

I am also frequenting appts for him to get a full dx of what is wrong.
I am living in sub standard conditions whereby my eldest child is sleeping in a damp room, the front door to the property doesn't fit and there is an 1" gap at the bottom where the upvc door has warped.
The carpet in my bedroom was so damp and moldy that I had to rip it up. In 2 years since I moved here I have had 4 new wardrobes because of the damp here.

I can't use the sink in the family bathroom as it leaks, I can't use the shower in there either as the door is non existant, I can use the bath - but then it floods the cellar. I can use the shower in the ensuite as long as I don't mind the remaining part of the carpet getting wet as shower floods my bedroom.

I have to keep the heating on and a dehumidifier going at all times because of the terrible damp here.

Yes I can see why anyone would envy my lifestyle.

And can fully understand why I am begrudged 2 nights out a week. which equal approx 6 hours in total

Less expensive=less work no thank you. Rather pay my way.

my fucking t doesn't work unless I use a fucking hammer on it

sorry

AF - Was I being a bit slow, I bet everyone else had already got it and now I look like a right thickun'

TLES... you don't have to jusify your nights out

that isn't what this thread is about

there is only one poster who has a problem with that, and I think we have sussed her agenda now

AF you are funny

justify

You know nge, You are free to believe what the hell you want. Fortunatly for me some of the LADIES on here know my situation and know how long it has taken with their help for me to be able to hold my head and hands up and say this is me and my family.

I am not happy living apart from DP. Looking after his son for a few hours a week is hardly the same as living together.

Have you tried thinking of words without 't's in??

I quite like your missing ts, reads sorta cute!

brian...no, I wasn't being sarky

I hadn't got it until you said it

why does there have to be so many fucking t's used in every fucking sentence??

sorry

AF, it is just so annoying You yourself have been on many of my threads where you have wanted to knock my head off regarding DS1 and you also know how hard I have worked in the last few months.

All the more reason for OP and partner to live together. Hopefully new flat will be the answer.

NGE, NOBODY hopes more than me that this will be the answer. Honestly 5 yrs into a relationship we should be more than living together.

But in all honesty....it wouldn't matter if we lived on the moon it is still going to be a very bumpy ride.

For me that is normal have been living this life for a long time.

yes, I know how hard you try with ds1

it did not even enter my head to mention your family situation when replying to your op

and to be fair to nge, she may not know the circumstances

I do believe however, making judgements based on very little evidence either way is out of order