Just a question really as I am curious..

[TLESinChristmasStockings]

when does harmless flirting stop being harmless?

Would OP be less worried about flirting if DP lived with her?

TLES - Not as sorry as we are We used to get out about once a fortnight maybe once a month but now we have two dc its harder, don't really want to ask my parents to babysit both all night as dd2 (11 months) is a nightmare to get to sleep.

You can have my ration of going out, enjoy

not sure what her house has got to do with anything?

Perfume, I need a break from DS1 once or twice a week is hardly a lot. Unless you live my life I guess it is easy to make assumptions. DP is happy with the way things are. As I said he comes round in the week and at the weekend looks after his children.

He understands after a week of a 12yr old throwing himself around screaming, lashing out, breaking things, etc I need a few hours off.

the house looks lovely, the kids look happy

yuk to the turn this thread has taken

I am outta here

Grace & AF - I wasn't criticising anything, just pointing out inconsistencies. She said she never wore low-cut tops to the pub.

But yes, I'll leave the shovelling to TLES.

Quite a lot actually if your days are spent as a single mother and a Stay at home mother and your evenings are spent in the pub.

what is your point nge? that if someone has a council house they have no right to a social life?

You do look like a loving mother and a happy family, which is why it seems so strange that you want to be down the pub without your dp all those nights. I used to enjoy the pub but to be honest, when i got married and had ds, the allure was strangely gone. I kind of saw pubs as places to socialise and meet people. Now I don't have time and know plenty folk.

Do you never have nights with your dp then?

NGE 9-12 on a Friday and 8-11 on a Sunday is not a lot out of a week.

i don't understand what her house status has to do with this?? Her house looks very nice from the pictures, as do her dc who look very happy and loved.

TLES can be a bit of a dick (sorry tles ) but what the fuck has a council house got to do with this??

No not at all but OP might have less worries about flirting if she lived with and spent time with DP instead of going to the pub.

Paying a mortgage and keeping two homes whilst his partner spends her little free time in the pub with other men must be a lot for her DP to bare.

Good God! are we still doing this?? I see it has descended into 'op abuse'....

in answer to your question from ages ago....me, flirting doesn't hurt me as I am in a very secure marriage.

however, once again, if someone, anyone, is getting hurt by flirty behaviour, then it is not harmless

nge...I have seen your posts on other threads and thought you seemed quite sensible

wtf happened to you tonight ?

TLES...I apologise if any of my comments have led onto the kind of insinuations made in some of the later posts

I think you are a bit silly around men, and need to re-think your attitude towards the sisterhood, but I do not concur with any of the other stuff

that is judgemental shite, has no basis and very far removed from the OP

and again, teh relevance of her house status is?

Perfume, in the last 4yrs we have had a grand total of 2 nights out together without the children the rest of the time we are with them on days /evenings out. It is not always easy to find someone to look after both of them because of DS1's behaviour. As I am the main carer for the DC I take the brunt of his behaviour and I do need a break.

I wish I was as strong as some of the ladies on here and could get by without needing a break.

What have council houses got to do with flirting?

AF, No need for apologies.
Yes I probably do need to rethink my attitude to the sisterhood. I know where the root of it all stems from but hey we all have our cross to bare .

LYD, THANKYOU, someone who finally answered my OP.

BAHB, haha we can all be a bit of a dick at times, thats what makes life interesting!

Op everyone needs a break and your situation it would seem is quite tiring, but if dp doesn't live with you, why do you not spend more time with him rather than go to the pub?

OH come on don't you see!!!

Council Homes = Chavtastic people = Flirty people so therefore I must live in a council property!!!

enjoy your nights out tles, if you don't mind and your dp doesn't mind then fuck everyone else, seriously

have a good christmas x

NGE, It is not always possible to spend time with him. When we get the chance we grab it with both hands and feet and don't let go.

I see what you are saying. Would it not help you more though if dp and you stayed in the same house? Granted, this is not what the thread is about, but I do appreciate your need for a break.

I don't really know how to flirt, and am pretty uncomfortable around flirts. It just always seems so obvious to me, and anything but classy. I would say it's harmful to friendships, if the flirter is doing it with friends partners. I became sort of friendly with a girl I met at a nightclass last year and she was going through a break up. I invited her up for dinner and she spoke very crudely about how hot it got her when her and her ex were making love and their friends were also having sex in the next room at her house. Dh and ds were at the table and didn't know where to look. She had long hair extensions and kept tossing them and looking coyly at my dh. He made his excuses and left the room, taking ds with him.

Not friends with her anymore.

BAHB, Thankyou and you to. I am out of Friday night minus dp and the dc (they are having a male bonding session) so I shall go to my party alone

You would be able to spend more time getting flirty with him if you lived with him