Just a question really as I am curious..

[TLESinChristmasStockings]

when does harmless flirting stop being harmless?

@ AF

Lady, it is a great place -ok it is council but it is 3 bedrooms which is desperatly needed due to DS1's probs. It is very secure, it needs a fair bit of work i.e decorating etc but best of all IT IS NOT DAMP!!!

and even in the state it is in I love it and have taken loads of pics.

No I don't know, know a bit more now. Look I am sorry if I seem like a pompous snob (I am but please don't tell everyone) just wonder what motivates a mother to spend her spare time in the pub without dp "flirting"

If DP can look after DS while you go out surely he will cope if you live together.

NGE if only you had half a clue what you were talking about. TLES has lived with her partner and it was creating so many problems for her son that she had to make that decision to live apart. she doesn't do it out of choice. you are showing your prejudices here.

NGE- maybe for a bit of normality without worrying if my DS1 will hurt himself or me in temper eh? just some time to be TLES and not just MUM.

Sorry ILIWYCMB I didn't mean to bypass your post.

Thankyou!

NGE, do you know how difficult it is to be seperated NOT by choice by need from your partner and childrens father? How hard it is to try and get a 3 yr old to understand why daddy doesn't sleep here?

funky see you learn something on my threads stop playing pool !

and thankyou for your answer

No I don't and it must be very tough but you say you are all hoping to live together in the new house, I wished you luck in that. Puzzled why that might be more possible in new house though. Although I concur no one should live where you are now. Dose DP live in similar accomodation?

nge

...in the pub without dp "flirting"

that bit I agree with, and have said as such on this thread

of course you are not a mindreader re. OP's family situation and her trials with ds1's behavioural problems

the rest was just un-necessary but am glad you have acknowledged that

gawd, if I had a pound for every time I went down the wrong path on here, I would be a rich woman

talking of money, nge, if you are experiencing financial difficulty at the moment you are not alone. MN, contrary to public opinion, is not populated by 6 figure salary-earners living in fuck-off houses. Some of us are having a shit old time of it.

NGE, he lives in a room he rents from a friend.

AF and I thought you were a multi millionaire!!!

AF "at the moment" I wish, seems to be terminal. No I don't know all this other background stuff. So I apologise for seeming stuck up.

TLES that's not great for you or him I can see that. Can you get a baby sitter and go to the pub together? I can't imagine having to be seperated, my eldest child is not keen on his father either. Probably not quite a difficult to manage though.

Possibly late to the party, but wrt moving into a council place & being on benefits - get an application for Community Care Grant from DWP, go to local CAB / Welfare Rights / Accommodation Concern (or whatever you have) and have them help fill it out for you.

Bear in mind you get a maximum of 75% of the amount requested, iirc.

TLES, I am rich in experience, but not in dosh, unfortunately

whatever gave you that idea ?

nge, he loves his dad thats not the problem. It is hard and long to explain.

JuJus, I didn't know that about moving. I have been asking everyone I know who drives if they can help.

AF because I had an image of you being a multi millionaire and now you have dashed my image I will have to start an AIBU about you

am sorry to hear that, nge

I sympathise hugely

I posted a proper pity-party on the self-employed husbands thread the other day and got a bit ignored

never mind

TLES...you have me mixed up with pagwatch or leQueen I think

for "self-employed husband" read "no fucking employment because of the bastard recession"

AF no it is deffo you I had the image of. so now watch out as there will be an aibu about you and dedicated to the memory of the image I once had of you