Just a question really as I am curious..

[TLESinChristmasStockings]

when does harmless flirting stop being harmless?

I have to add that I don't actually flirt, nor does my husband. We go out separately (or more rarely, together) and just have fun with mates.

Your question has no real meaning to me or my life. I just don't get it!

Maybe this is true of other people too, which is why you are getting this response.

nge...you don't want to reconsider any of your recent comments on this thread ?

Perfume, in a different life we could be living together but I have DS1 and atm it wouldn't work hence DP not living with me.

The plans are that we will move in together in the new year once I move to the council flat I have just taken on. and things will be easier!

Watch this space bet i'll be back asking how do i murder DP and bury him in a flat after we live together, as I have been alone for so long

I hope it all works out for you with the new place, all the best x

AF thank you I think you are sensible too, I now have the information I saught from post 20:13. I am quite sensible, you see

Perfume Thankyou. So do I, after a 5yr almost 6yr relationship we should be living together!

NGE, if that is aimed at me moving into a council home - well really I have no choice.

A few ladies have said my home looks lovely - well if does if you don't count the walls crumbling, the damp which means DS1 and I cannot have arpets down as the mould grows on them wonderfully.
Or the fact that the shower door fell on top of DS1 and smashed into thousands of pieces.

But right now I live in a privately rented 2 bedroom flat which is not only too small but also unhealthy for my children.

well thanks, nge, but I can't agree with your insinuations on this thread

FWIW, I have apologised loads on here (and meant it) when I am out of order

it can happen, you pick up on summat and run with it, then realise "wtf was I thinking??" (especially if you are a bit of a straight talker)

maybe this happened to you ?

OP I wish you well in your new home it sounds like you deserve to live somewhere nice. Please don't take offense but you see very few couples can afford to keep two homes going unless they are rented! Maybe you should plan for your new home and new life with DP and not worry about this flirting nonsense

AF, no that hasn't happened to me.

TLES, I hope you get the housing situation sorted

however, it looks like you have made the best of what you had (no way meant to be patronising)

are you getting anything from this thread ?

will you be posting a re-run anytime soon ?

I will still be going out on a weekend

he has his fishing and snooker I have my Friday and Sundays

I don't know why some people are being so critical. I have a friend who is just like you sound. She's a flirt by her own admission and, unlike you, a very girly girl. She's a bloody good laugh as well. She flirts with pretty much all men. She has said that she thinks my DH is the best-looking of all our friends' partners (I agree ) and she does flirt with him. I know it's an ego boost for her, even though she's attached. She is a bit of a man's woman but she's also a good friend.

I'm not bothered at all, flirting is meaningless to me when it's in the open. It's when it's hidden that the problems start. It's the two people who studiously avoid each other in company that you should worry about, not the ones larking about by the pool table. It's just a bit of fun.

Yes, my friend can go a bit overboard. She's a bit obvious, and it's not my style. But I don't think it bothers anyone in our circle.

I looked at the other thread and towards the end most people were on your side and saying that you sounded fun. I don't see what there is to pity about you to be honest

nge, that is s shame then

AF, I shall run one just for you but shall pick a spicier subject

and no I am not getting anything from this other than to think about how I word things

seriously though I am untrusting of many women - thanks to my wanking darling ex

AF, if only I could pm my reason you might get what I was driving at. It really isn't a shame.

TLES...if you are untrusting of women because of a cheating exP, you are blaming the wrong sex

perhaps if you stopped seeking the approval of blokes, and developed warmer and truer friendships wih women (instead of seeing them all as competition) you would see that

nge...why can't you pm it ?

why can't you post it ?

NGE put on here, I would love to "get" what you were driving at!

Why is seeking the approval of men incompatible with having good female friends? I think my friend, the one I was talking about, does both. She definitely gets her self-worth from appealing to men, in terms of looks and personality, but she is also a really good mate

nge, you are being a bit weird. is this just a way of backing down without losing face??

Your posts did seem judgemental and rude to me

singing, i am a good friend to my friends both male and female.

I agree with Anyfucker as usual. I'm predictable likethat.

But omg at 'do you live in a cansil owse?' WOW. And who hasn't been in a pub? I've brought my children to pubs. During the day. I haven't exchanged so much as a firm handshake with a man in about 4 years mind you.

it isn't incompatible, sc

you say your flirty mate doesn't piss you off

fair play (although I would probably write her off as a twonk, but then I'm a frigid owd bitch )

but from what TLES has posted, it does sound like she pisses other women off

women she could get a lot out of a relationship with (possibly), but she chooses to look down on them/push them away by appearing superior

VS...was it a flirty handshake ?