Just a question really as I am curious..

[TLESinChristmasStockings]

when does harmless flirting stop being harmless?

AF, she is a bit daft but I'm a bit of a geek so it's all fair.

(she being friend not TLES)

fair enough, sc

AF, I don't look down on them at all - you really couldn't be further from the truth there!

If anything I see myself as less worthy than other women.

so it is a self esteem thing then ?

like "shaft 'em before they shaft me" kinda thing ?

because if you were trying to flirt with my DH, I would think you were disrespectful of me, and I would think less of you

and also that you thought you were better than me if you did that "shared look, eye-roll" thing

in fact, I would cut you dead if I ever saw you do that

so you are potentially sabotaging relationships with women ?

gosh, this is getting deep and I am probably talking shit now

if we keeping drinking wine then none of it sounds shit!!

I think I must be in the minority. It's true that if I saw you flirting excessively with my OH and other men I might think 'hmm, a little obvious' but I wouldn't feel threatened.

Because, paradoxically, obvious flirting isn't actually very seductive.

AF, I don't flirt as such as I have said I play pool/snooker etc and have a drink with them.

sc...all of us trying to point out TLES's silly behaviour around men are not saying we feel threatened

you are missing the point, I think

< wonders if nge is ok >

we are going in circles it seems, TLES

are you any cop at pool ?

I betcha I could thrash you

it didn't fool anyone did it, lyd ?

the best way to save face is to apologise, and mean it, IMO

AF, sorry I was trying to explain I don't set out to hurt anyone. I know it probably comes across that way and i will look at how i am in future.

Thankyou for your advice.

And AF if we ever meet we'll play lol

I'm fine and wish OP no harm, although Op would perhaps be better to obsess about something less silly.

I have always had more male friends than female and I don't flirt. I don't play pool or drink pints either for that matter, neither of which can be particularly alluring to the opposite sex IMO.

My point is this, many famillies up and down the counrty can not afford one home much less two. Many couples with children struggle to pay their bills let alone buy pints and obsess about flirting.

i still don't get how a council house features in that NGE?

OP can better afford two nights buying rounds in the pub. I assume she pays her way as these men are just friends.

NGE, you obviously didn't read my earlier reply where if one cannot afford to buy drinks for all then we all buy our own only.

I don't always go out with friends. I go out alone as well.

Is it fun going out alone?

Drinking is very costly in pubs even if you buy your own. My husband would kill for a pint in a pub!

still, relevance of council house?

£2.90 is not a lot.

It is fun going out alone as there are people in my local that I know and talk to.

ILIWYCMB - lower rent - no mortgage

Can't afford one though, too busy living under the one roof paying the bills and his taxes. Ho Hum

THES always seems to get a hard time on threads