The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Carry On Past The Christmas Party (part 2)

[TheMousefaceBeforeChristMouse]

Hello

I'm Mouse.

Welcome to the Brave Babes Bus - Gerald! Blame Silver for the name!

We are a group of MNers who post about our relationship with alcohol and how drinking it, or not, has an effect on our day to day lives.

Come and meet the other Brave Babes, say hi, take a seat or just read.

Here are the threads so far

Good morning all

Well I had a sober night and enjoyed watching Strictly with my DSs; we all love to guess the score - I won't tell you who won as maybe you are watching it today on catch up and maybe you couldn't give a monkeys

notevenachristmousie I'm sorry your night wasn't great, I am only on day 3 of not drinking but do feel that it is the best thing for my family and I. Keep strong and can you call on RL people for support as well as MN?

I told DH about this thread last night and my plan and he looked slightly he has heard it B4 that I will stop getting wasted so only time will tell I suppose.

Mouse - Hope date night was a roaring success and may well try and introduce it into our house too.

I have friends and their 3DDs round today and normally it is a v v boozy affair - this will be more of a challenge than yesterday but hey ho I'll give it a go!

Happy Sunday to all

Hi there, I think I have a problem with alcohol, i use it to wind down at the end of a stressful day, and at our office Xmas party made a complete tw@t of myself because once I get in binge mode I can't stop. My Dh is tee-total which helps as we don't have much alcohol in the house, and our social time together is not spent in a pub. I hate the feeling of acute embarrassment and self-loathing, and I want it to stop.
Is there anything I should do?

Morning all.

Tes - date night is the only way that DH and I get to have a night just for us, even though it's only a few hours.

We don't have anyone to help with Nemo or babysit so date night is our little treat instead of a meal out.

It was awesom btw!

Sarf - Don't pick up that first drink! Do you want to cut down or stop all together??

It all depends on what you want out of this. You don't sound like you drink every day?

What does a 'normal' week look like drink wise?

I probably have one beet or one small glass a night, so not excessive, but I have a terrible tendency to binge when I get with wrong crowd. Only happens a couple of times a year, but not sure how to deal with it. I'd love to know my limits and stop, but I have an alarming capacity to keep drinking way longer than I should. I guess I should just stop altogether.

Sorry that should be 'one bottle of beer or a small glass of wine'

Morning Campers

Hello Sarf - welcome aboard and here is yout open ticket.

Why not just avoid the situations that you know you will binge at? Simple. Or drive to them and don't drink?

Glad your 'ahem' date night was a success Mouse

I'm off to a meeting a 4.00pm - DP stuck in France at the moment (ha ha serves him right for buggering off and leaving me) - hopefully he'll be back later today. xxx

Morning Silver

I need to get my arse into gear. Parents are due soon and the house is a shit tip!! Argghhhhh!

Sarf - I agree with Silver, either stop altogether or drive to anu avents/nights out were you at a risk from getting blotto.

Easier said than done for sure but if you don't like yourself when you are that drunk, only YOU can do something to stop it happening.

very quiet on here today [hconfused]

Gosh, I can't keep up.

I'm Rachel and joined the previous thread when I wanted to cut down. I have been sober for 2 weeks now, bar one night, which made me feel terrible, but I refuse to let that stop me keeping going.

I'm actually looking forward to the party season, as I find it much easier to control what I drink when I'm busy and socialising.

I'm quite cautiousmabout drinking in public so my problem comes when I'm alone.

Hi Rachel - you are doing brilliantly - keep it up Babe x

bbbbbrrrrr!!! , we're home!!

blimey!, what a night, the brakes froze compleatly and i have buggered up the alloy wheels on a kerb! [fangy]

hi sarf!!, i like your name!

rachel!, bloody well done!, 2 weeks is fantastic!

silver - does dp work in france?, is your long term goal to move over there? (i only sk cos im nosy!

off to find some comfort food, laters babes!!

that would be 'ask' of course!

I feel I should stop altogether really. Wonder whether it's best to tell people so they support me or whether they will then just spend every moment trying to convince me I've made a mistake!
When I gave up smoking I did the Allen Carr easyway process which was like a miracle to me. Is there anything similar for drinking? I would like to educate myself that I don't need beer to help me relax or to have a good time.

Hi Sarf (also loving the name!)

If you look back over the previous threads, quite a few people have recommended the Allen Carr 'Stop/Control Drinking' book. If the smoking one was miraculous for you, it's likely that the drinking one would work too, I'd have thought.

Ahh - excellent - thanks for that I'll see if I can track it down. Thanks for the lovely welcome I can assure you there was nothing sarfeasticated about me on thurs night - still cringing over the things I said and the snippets of things I think I said...

welcome Sarf, this is a good place to be. Looks like snow has finally stopped for a while - don't know how long that will last though. Bloody sick of it!

Rachel - well done you - that's brilliant. I hope you are feeling better for it.

jwn glad you made it home.

I am shattered with my poorly, coughing, clingy child. Emotionally worn out too. But not drinking. The rest, I guess, will come. Going to sign off now and wrap DD's presents once she finally gives in and falls asleep - she has been asking to go to bed since 5.

Love to all x

Hi Campers

Just back from 6th meeting - didn't get to one yesterday because of the snow

JWN DP has a flat in Alp D'Uuez that he is doing up (with help of a builder) and he's going out on Boxing Day to take some mates skiing so needs to make sure it's habitable - HOWEVER, basically any excuse for him to get over there and you don't see him for dust - skiiing, cycling etc. He also runs cycling holidays out there in the summer. And yes our long term plan is to go and live over there when out DC's are independent (8 years to go!).

However that will not happen unless I stay sober as he will be gone without me - so thank god for AA - bit of a worry that French AA meetings aren't as prolific as here and I will have to learn the lingo to geg anything out of them or indeed contribute - good impetus to start learning now I think.

We absolutely love it over there and the new flat is in Borg D'Oison which is a lovely little town at the bottom of the mountain and we are about an hours drive to Grenoble.

I used to worry about the fact that if I wasn't working when we live over there that I would just get pissed every day but now things look very different. I shall have an allotment and grow veggies etc and hopefully DP's holiday business will take offover the next 8 years and he can support me financially for a change! xxx

Sarf the Allen Carr book - The Easy Way to Control Alcohol - is what got me started on this whole sobriety journey in the first place - I would highly recommend it particularly if the smoking one worked for you - get onto Amazon now and order it!! [frin] x

actually if you want to PM me your address I'll put it in the post to you tomorrow x

[frin} x

Hello you xx

What is it with you and your frins???

It's woman!! fgrin!!

Hi Silver, I'm around