AF, I is taking upon meself to answer your question to katie, mainly because I said summat similar at the beginning of this thread.
If your blokey chooses to pay for naked women as a drinks accompaniment on a regular basis, then he's demonstrating an unequivocal regard for women that puts them on the level of an expensive bar snack. More than a peanut, probably, but less than a pot of caviar.
There is, however, like it or not (guess whether I like it), quite a bit of social pressure on yon blokies to partake of said bar snacks. I'm none too proud of the fact that I'll easily bow to pressure to eat Beluga, despite knowing its inexcusable source. I'm not often pressed with Beluga, so I go along with it and enjoy it. I think your special-occasion lapdance client may be forgiven for sitting on the fence under peer pressure.
If he buys lapdances of his own choosing, though, he's descended to a different league.
I'm not saying either of us is right - me with my sturgeon eggs, or him with his stag-night lapdance (we're both wrong). Just that some principles are hard to uphold under some circumstances.