He's admitted it .....I'm heartbroken

[Yogabuff]

Well DH finally admitted he cheated although he reckons it was a once off. Don't beleive that for a second. He didn't say sorry he just got pissed because I started asking questions. Why, Who etc. Then came the I love you and I want to be with my family bla bla bla.

I told him to leave and he left. I'm so angry and so hurt. Thing haven't been good for a few months it's been hard with the PND and the doc thought I had MS (got the all clear a few weeks ago) but I was worried about it for months. He should of stood by me through this, I feel so let down.

I have work tomorrow and no childcare. Looks Like I need to tell some people what's happening....

What a complete bastard to do this to you, at anytime, but especially when you have PND & the possiblility of having MS as well. I assume you also have a baby/toddler...

Next you'll get the 'I felt so neglected' bit...

Fucking pathetic wanker.

What made you think he had? Do you now know who it was? What makes you think it wasn't a one off?

I'm sorry Yogabuff :(

Yogabuff, I'm so sorry to hear this

Yes, you need to tell people in RL. They can give you the emotional and practical support you will need over the coming weeks/months/however long you need it.

Keep posting on here too, there are plenty of people who will be willing to give you the support you need.

What a shit! And you are so far away from your family. I really think you should tell them, perhaps they can help out in some way, maybe get you and your baby home for a bit.

tell your family, I'm sure they will want to support you

Oh, give off with the knee jerk reactions, girls.

We all know that most men can't deal with illness. It's not for you to condemn the man out of hand. Yoga has had PND, and has been worrying about a life-threatening illness, and yet you expect him to be a hero.

If a woman had posted that she'd sought solace in another's arms under such duress, I suspect you'd be sympathetic.

Give the couple a chance to sort it out. I suspect, OP, that you will. You have children, and it's really important that you try.

No one's a demon here.

Did you read yogabuffs post the other day Desiderata? I did.

And no one expects him to be a hero, just not a slapper.

Well, perfume, another perspective is required, no?

So easy to say, bastard, bugger, what a shit, etc, ad nauseum.

There are children involved, and people should try harder.

Yes, he should have tried harder. At the first hiccup, ill health, he fucked another woman. If you hang around with dirt, you get dirty. Why stay for more?

Just another view of course.

"Most men can't deal with illness".

Erm, really?

Good job there aren't any male Drs then.

Des, do you really think someone who cheats on his sick wife isn't a shit?

He should have tried fucking harder

It was a very brief marriage, only a year or so. So, if this is how he reacts to his new wife's ill health, at this early stage, only a fool wouldn't take heed.

If you can't handle reality or longevity, don't get married.

"He fucked another woman"

Vulgar and more to the point brutal to the op who will read them.

Oh, don't be so predictable, Queefer.

Everyone on MN is so emotional about things. Most women can't tell a man to get stuffed because he's paying for the mortgage. Maybe Yoga dropped lucky on that score.

It's always easier when someone else is paying for the fall-out.

He had an affair .. a shag. We don't know how bad Yoga's PND was, and what effect it had upon him.

All things being equal, if a woman had posted that she was suffering from PND and had a one night stand, you'd all be rallying around her.

It just staggers me that people are prepared to distress their children over something as routine as this. Surely they're more important?

wow - so keeping your dick away from another woman when you're in a relationship is being a "hero" now is it

There are plenty of ways of "not dealing with illness" that don't involve shagging someone else.

Agree totally with Dittany

Hope you're ok Yoga - he sounds like a complete twat

It staggers me that someone thinks that shagging another woman is routine

Thinking of you Yogabuff

Get some help and support in RL, you need it now

Very sorry you're going through this yogabuff. I hope you can get support from family and friends.

He should have supported you through your difficulties, his behaviour is appalling.

maybe Desi has only ever been in "open" relationships usual >>

Well, I always like to throw in the opposite opinion.

Look, no one likes deceit, but we don't know what's gone on in this marriage, do we? We have a one-sided view from the OP.

But you go ahead and bit the blokes flesh off, piece by piece. Don't worry about the kids, who should be more important.

Just carry on waving your broomsticks, gals ..

And Desiderata, you're being incredibly callous and unreasonable